120| Why You Have Sex (and Why You Should Check Your Motivations) - Rachel Hills

DSR: Become a Better Man by Mastering Dating, Sex and Relationships (formerly Dating Skills Podcast) show

Summary: In this episode Rachel Hills gives advice on: <br>- What triggered your interest in this topic and your book The Sex Myth? How it got started and how it developed? (03:59) <br>- The kind of research that was involved in writing the book (05:45) <br>- How Rachel reached out to the people that were interviewed for the book (06:57) <br>- Rachel's current lifestyle in terms of relationships and social life (09:00) <br>- Why do we have sex? (10:20) <br>- Interview examples of some of the influences of sexual behavior that were more social, coming from more of the external environment that Rachel came across (12:15) <br>- Interview examples of men who were very sexually active to get an idea of their influences (14:12) <br>- Reasons people hook up with other people that they are not necessarily attracted to (19:20) <br>- The big gap between our fantasies and realities, from a cultural perspective (25:20) <br>- Perceptions people currently have about sex - norms and standards (26:30) <br>- The biggest gaps between peoples' perceptions regarding sex and actually what is going on around them (29:25) <br>- Perceptions surrounding the types of sex people are having - a cultural shift (32:43) <br>- How the gap between our perceptions of reality is created overall, and what people can do to have a realistic view of their sexual activity, which reflects the actual reality (38:15) <br>- Has sex become more important for our status over time? (41:05) <br>- Are men being pushed towards a type of standard regarding sex? (48:27) <br>- Specific anxieties and stress around sexuality for men (52:33) <br>- How guys can get more satisfied and fulfilled in their lives in spite of existing external pressures (58:20) <br>- Practical and useful takeaways to ensure sex contributes to the quality of life (59:10) <br>- How to develop your own sexual standards independent of social pressures (1:02:20) <br>- How to connect with Rachel to learn about more about her and her work (1:04:45) <br>- Recommendations for quality advice and k<br><br>GET MORE: <a href="https://www.datingskillsreview.com/ep-120-why-you-have-sex-rachel-hills/">Show Notes &amp; Resources</a>, <a href="https://www.datingskillsreview.com/ep-120-why-you-have-sex-rachel-hills/#transcript">Interview Transcript</a> and <a href="https://www.datingskillsreview.com/ep-120-why-you-have-sex-rachel-hills/#comments">Comments</a>. <p> HELP ME SPREAD THE WORD! </p><p> Think this episode was Kick-Ass?<br> <a href="http://www.datingskillsreview.com/itunes/">An iTunes review would be SO appreciated!</a> This is what helps me stand out so I can help more men like you.<br> <a href="http://www.datingskillsreview.com/itunes/">Click here to review the show</a>. </p><p> FEEDBACK </p><p> Hit me up with your comments and guest suggestions. I read EVERYTHING. </p><p> • Email: <a href="mailto:angel@datingskillsreview.com">angel@datingskillsreview.com</a><br> • Get my newsletter: <a href="http://datingskillsreview.com/newsletter/">Click here to get my Newsletter</a><br> • Got a question? Drop it in our voicemail to get it answered: 323.747.5006 </p><p> MORE FREE STUFF:<br> • <a href="http://www.datingskillsreview.com/fasttrack/">Get the Fast Track Dating System</a><br> • <a href="http://www.datingskillsreview.com/gettop13/">Get Monster Brain Dump from our Editorial Team on Top Advice of All Time</a><br> </p>