Why Are People Into That?!

In Part 2 of Why Are People Into Female Dominance?!, Midori explains the appeal of compassionate sadism and details the unusual ways that graduates from her ForteFemme women’s dominance intensive use their training. Dan Savage calls Midori “The Super Nova of Kink”!  She is an artistic visionary who has touched lives across the globe with her expertise in sexuality, personal fulfillment, and kinky adventures. Using her “head-heart-hands” methodology she facilitates tackling challenging topics and creating space where people are allowed individual self-exploration. Her incredible passion is fully on display in her transformative small group intensives, including Rope Dojo ®, ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Weekend Intensive and Make Hot Play Happen. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

“I like a long flirtation stroking the crevices of the mind and the back alleys of the imagination.” Midori certainly knows from femme seduction. This sex ed legend joins Tina for the 50th episode to talk about her women's dominance intensive ForteFemme and topping from a feminine space. Tina tells the full origin story of Midori’s inspiration for her power femme name. A truly evocative storyteller, Midori basically had Tina flustered and blushing the entire conversation. Stay tuned for Part two on August 15th! Dan Savage calls Midori “The Super Nova of Kink”!  She is an artistic visionary who has touched lives across the globe with her expertise in sexuality, personal fulfillment, and kinky adventures. Using her “head-heart-hands” methodology she facilitates tackling challenging topics and creating space where people are allowed individual self-exploration. Her incredible passion is fully on display in her transformative small group intensives, including Rope Dojo ®, ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Weekend Intensive and Make Hot Play Happen. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

August is Anal Month at the Pleasure Chest! Tina was stoked to sit down with Brandon B, manager of the flagship West Village Pleasure Chest store (yup, the one from the rabbit vibe episode of Sex and the City) to discuss all things butt-related. This episode includes a butt-load (had to!) of toy recommendations from Brandon, including plugs, vibrators, beads, lube, even electro-stim! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

“In the whore economy, you’re constantly aware if you’re common or you’re rare.” If you enjoyed Tina's talk with Jenny Zhang in the Why Are People Into Fluids?! episode a few months back, then you'll love this Interrobang all about exclusion, meaningful cores, and Jenny's short story book Sour Heart (which comes out in August!) Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

"The freaks were at the Lusty. They wanted to be seen. They were shoving zucchinis up their asses and tying themselves into pretzels They were wearing santa hats and coming in as a gang of clowns and all jerking off together. Does it come from shame?” When Tina was in LA, she dropped by writer Antonia Crane's place to dig into some questions about erotic shame. Why are people so attached to their own erotic shame? Can sex help you overcome the power that shame holds over you? Do we NEED shame for sex to be fun? Whats the difference between liberation and hedonism in feminist sex positive culture? Should we harness shame and make it our bitch? Antonia Crane is a performer, 2-time Moth Story Slam Winner and writing instructor in Los Angeles. She has written for The New York Times, The Believer, The Toast, Playboy, Cosmopolitan, Salon.com, The Rumpus, Electric Literature, DAME, The Los Angeles Review, Quartz: The Atlantic Media, Medium.com, Buzzfeed and dozens of other places. Her screenplay “The Lusty” (co-written by Transparent director, writer Silas Howard), based on the true story of the exotic dancer’s labor union, is a recipient of the San Francisco Film Society/Kenneth Rainin Foundation Grant in screenwriting, 2015. She is at work on an essay collection and a feature film. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

When you think Sex Toy, chances are you’re thinking of a vibrator. But with so many different sizes and styles and gizmos, it can be overwhelming to find the vibrator that’s right for you… or to know how to expand your collection. Well, now is the perfect time to get your vibe on, because for the entire month of July at every Pleasure Chest store in NYC, LA, and Chicago as well as on the website pleasurechest dot com, everything that vibrates is buy one get one half off! Victor Tobar, the National Buying and Merchandising Manager for the Pleasure Chest joined me to explain the difference between from bullets and pocket rockets and pebbles and wands and duel-stim rabbits and butt vibes and more! We discuss whether we would get cyborg vibrator attachments, how to release perineum tension, and what Sex and the City tour bus tourists are looking for when they stop at the Pleasure Chest! Victor Tobar is the Pleasure Chest's National Buying and Merchandising Manager. He's been working in sex-positive sex toy retail for over a decade, and has been leading kink and sexuality workshops nationally for the last ten years. Victor stands firm in his belief that sexuality is as expansive as your imagination; let it run wild! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

“I'm attracted to dark misunderstood women. There's no moral valence to darkness.” Slutist editrix Kristen Sollee is the author of Witches Sluts Feminists, the new book everyone needs (creative directed by Tina Horn). Whether you’re curious about the history of persecution against women or the modern political activism of the Satanic Temple, or just wondering why everyone has crystals now, Kristen is your new favorite guide to the female occult. How does all of this relate to Pizzagate, Marcia Clark, and the Wizard of Oz? Listen now and get yourself a personalized copy of this book from witcheslutsfeminists dot com! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

"I like to rub their dicks together in my mouth a little extra." In Part Two of our Gang Bang episode, kinky porn power couple Maitresse Madeline Marlowe and Will Havoc further discuss the technical, romantic, artistic, and queer potential of creating gang bang porn. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

“Sex that takes up a lot of time doesn’t contribute to capitalist production. Anyone who comes into the Pleasure Chest is already saying; I’m taking back time for myself." In this special Pride episode, Ryan DiMartino talks with Tina about queering sex. From fabulous toys like golden strap-on dildos, to queer porn and literature, to gender affirming gear like gaffs and packers, the Pleasure Chest is the perfect place to find everything you need to queer your sex life all year long! Ryan DiMartino coordinates education at the Pleasure Chest NY. Inspired by sharing the stage with community leader Miss Major at age 17, their work is in pursuit of justice at the intersections of sexuality and gender with a focus on sex workers rights, body autonomy, and education. When they're not working with humans, they can usually be found beneath a pile of dogs. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

"I want the feeling of being forced but still be in control. You gave that to me, and it was the best day of my life." CW: This episode contains audio footage from a porno set and is even more explicit than usual. In February 2017, Tina traveled to San Francisco to shack up in the Armory and observe the final week of Kink porn being filmed within that cavernous landmark. The day after the final Hard Core Gang Bang shoot, she snuggled up in her room with director Maitresse Madeline Marlowe and her partner Will Havoc to discuss their queer DS sex work love story, and... what else? Gang Bangs! Part Two is cumming on June 15th. Maitresse Madeline Marlowe has been a porn director, performer and professional dominatrix for over 13 years. Her primary focus has been BDSM and fetish. She's a lifestyle top with a knack for prostate milking, orchestrating gangbangs on and off camera and findomme. She currently directs Hardcoregangbang.com, Tsseduction.com and Divinebitches.com. Will Havoc is a Bay Area native... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

“Intimacy gets my rocks off.” My friends Joe, Fran, and Dennis (along w Tommy who couldn’t make this taping) host my fave new podcast Food 4 Thot, which is about queer literary sluts. Sound like anyone you know? In this rambling, rosé-fueled episode, the boys answer a litany of why are people into that question: poppers, nipples, virgins, piss, rim jobs, the politics of race play, and much more! Then we play a swipe left swipe right game from F4T, revealing our opinions on Susan Sarandon, spandex, and karaoke. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

“I deserve to dance in the fields of Dionysus!” In the first edition of a new bonus segment sponsored by the Pleasure Chest, I speak with Pleasure Chest educators about the subjects the store is celebrating every month. Since it’s Masturbation May, I spoke on the phone with Antoinette Elizabeth, the manager of the Pleasure Chest in the Lakeview area of Chicago. We discussed why people are into: vibrators, dildos, butt plugs, and erotica, and how masturbation can help you to process the depressing and anxiety-provoking news! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Hair pulling, face slapping, tit torture, parasympathetic nervous responses, Lola’s kidnapping fantasies, trauma processing, and the surprising shapes that bruises can take. Part Two is an episode that takes a licking and keeps on tickin... Dirty Lola is a storyteller, sex educator, sex toy peddler, and the creator and host of the live sex Q&A / go-go show and podcast Sex Ed A Go-Go. During the last six years, she has shared her distinctive brand of kickass body and sex-positivity and her personal journey into the kink and polyamorous lifestyles with the masses on and off stage. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Biting. Flogging. Tickling. What is the relationship between erotic pain and sensuality? What’s to love about enduring pain to please someone else? What happens when a masochist stubs her toe? What makes someone a classic brat? Sex Ed A Go Go producer and kink educator Dirty Lola sat down with Tina to discuss all the pain that don’t hurt. Dirty Lola is a storyteller, sex educator, sex toy peddler, and the creator and host of the live sex Q&A / go-go show and podcast Sex Ed A Go-Go. During the last six years, she has shared her distinctive brand of kickass body and sex-positivity and her personal journey into the kink and polyamorous lifestyles with the masses on and off stage. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Should you pie a Nazi in the face? What's the best JELL-O for wrestling? What are the class implications of bringing food into your sex life? These are the kinds of questions Tina and Lorelei have been asking each other over the years in dungeons, porn castles, and cocktail bars. They figured the least they could do for their fans was to record it for once! Lorelei Lee has been an adult film performer, a bachelor party dancer, a professional dominatrix, a waitress, an advice columnist, and a writing teacher. She has been nominated for 11 AVN awards. Her fiction, nonfiction, and poetry have appeared in Salon, The Rumpus, WIRED, Denver Quarterly, the Los Angeles Review of Books, Buzzfeed, $pread Magazine, and elsewhere. She cowrote the independent film About Cherry, in distribution through IFC films. She is a member of the Adult Performer Advocacy Committee and was the Free Speech Coalition’s 2015 Woman of the Year. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.