The Confidence Podcast

Podcast #591 DISAPPOINTMENT AND DISCOURAGEMENT: HOW TO STAY CONFIDENT WHEN YOU FEEL DOWN Do you hate the feeling of disappointment? Are you afraid to go all in, out of fear that it just might not work out? Do you ever feel like you spend your life waiting for the other shoe to drop? Or perhaps, do you get really run down and sidelined when you feel discouraged? If you answered yes to any of those questions, this episode is for you. I used to be afraid to go all in on things because I was afraid of disappointment. When I learned that disappointment wasn't permanent and didn't have to define me, I shed the shame and learned how to allow it in my life. Once you allow something, you are no longer held back by the fear of it … you no longer spend your time avoiding it.  Discouragement is similar. It doesn't have to suck you in and keep you stuck. I am a big feeler, and when I used to get discouraged, it was hard core and really deep. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast I'm going to share my exact strategies that I now use to talk back to my discouragement. You can apply these to your life and be able to accelerate your ability to move forward with confidence. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/591If this show encourages you, leave a review. If your life has changed for the better, share with a friend. If you want your life to improve even more, join me in the College of Confidence by checking out www.collegeofconfidence.com"Disappointment is a sort of bankruptcy - the bankruptcy of a soul that expends too much in hope and expectation." - Eric Hoffer"Disappointment is a part of life, but suffering is optional." - Charles R. Swindoll"Disappointments are just God's way of saying, 'I've got something better.' Be patient, live life, have faith." PODIUM SYNDROME This is for the high achievers out there. It's a term for high achievers who were put on a pedestal and then felt pressure to stay there. You believe that people are waiting for you to fail. You feel like you will disappoint people when you do. You have a twister sense of people watching you and that there's pressure. The fear of disappointment isn't just the fear of disappointment, it's the fear of shame and public humiliation and judgment CHANGE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH DISAPPOINTMENT  What are you currently making it mean? What do you want to make it mean? What do you think confident people make it mean? DISCOURAGEMENT It's okay you feel this. Feel it. Process it. Then re-encourage yourself. "The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." - Nelson Mandela It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop." - Confucius HOW WILL YOU ENCOURAGE YOURSELF? Journal NQ - Narrative Intelligence work College of Confidence Worship Proclamation Work

Podcast #590THE "WHAT IF" VOICE AND HOW TO TALK BACK TO FEARDo you ever have find your brain getting stuck in a self-talk loop of "what ifs?"  What if it doesn't work out? What if you don't really lose the weight? What if you don't really have what it takes? When you learn these 3 proven strategies to talk back to your "What If's" so you aren't held back any longer.There's a fear narrative that chokes out the confidence of so many people without them even realizing it's happening. It speaks to you in statements that start with "What if…" and if left unanswered and unmanaged, can wreck havoc on your mindset and your confidence. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're unknotting the messy mental chaos caused by "what if" thinking. You'll learn how to talk back to your "What if's" so you have more peace and more confidence and so you stop being held back by them from the life you are meant to live. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about: * How "What if" is showing up in your thoughts, and how it's holding you back* What to say back to "What Ifs" * 3 proven methods to quiet the "What If" voice in your mindTHE WHAT IF FEAR VOICEWhat if I'm not good enough?What if I make a fool of myself?What if this doesn't work out?What if I don't have enough talent?What if I look stupid?What if I'm not really funny?What if I don't make enough money?What if no one wants me?What if I really am just average?What if I can't figure this out?What if no one will love me?What if no one finds me attractive?What if I never lose the weight?What if no one reads my book?What if my effort is completely wasted?What if I can't handle it?What if _____ happens?What if I am not smart enough?What if my friends don’t like me when I am really myself?What is no one likes my stuff?WHAT IF AUDITDo a 10-minute deep dive into your mind.What is your brain secretly saying to you that's causing you fear or that's compromising your sense of self-worth and worthiness? Answer every what-if with an even if.EVEN IF…This is how we talk back to our brains.Kindness paves the path and reassurance.We need to proclaim - and walk in faith - that it will be okay. And that if it's not okay, that there will be people/resources/next steps to help it be okay.WHAT IF I AM?Reword each one positively.MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT FEARWe don't need to be fearless.We just need to be brave. And to believe that we are brave.You are brave even when you don't feel like it, like doing it, or if you feel like your stomach is churning and flipping upside down.OTHER EPISODES YOU'LL ENJOY:How to Be More Self-Assured, episode #589Silencing the Critics: Overcoming the Fear of Judgement, Episode#582The Fear of Disappointment and How to Move Past It, Episode #438ANNOUNCEMENTS3-Month 1:1 Program for High-Achieving Women who Want More:-Mastering Your Future Self-Rewiring Your Inner Self-Talk-Creating Next Level Opportunities-Increasing Your Income by 30%-Increasing Your Free Time by 30%ABUNDANT AND ACCELERATED$4997Get access at www.trishblackwell.com/abundantTranscriptEmailDownloadNew TabSpeaker 1 0:00 Do you ever find your brain getting stuck in a self talk loop? Of what ifs? What if it doesn't work out? What if you don't really lose the weight? What if you don't really have what it takes? What if your business doesn't grow? What if you don't get it into your dream school? What if he cheats on you? What if? What if? What if this is a fear narrative that chokes out the confidence of so many people without them even realizing it's happening? It speaks to you and statements that start with what if and, if left and answered and unmanaged can wreak havoc on your mindset and your confidence.

Podcast #589HOW TO BECOME MORE SELF-ASSURED AND BETTER AT SELF-ADVOCACYIf you're someone who likes reassurance, or who needs the affirmation of others, then it's time to work on your skill of self-assuredness. Self-assuredness, like any other facet of confidence, is a skill that anyone can strengthen and improve. When you learn how to practice the skill of self-assuredness - and more importantly, what to say to yourself to prime your mind to be self-assured - you can confidently walk into any unknown or uncertain situation with confidence. This episode will give you the tools and exact thoughts to think to deepen this skill and to create unshakeable self-assuredness.In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, you're gonna learn about:* How to become more self-assured* What to say to yourself to increase your self-assurance* Why practicing speaking up for yourself increases your self-assurance. ANNOUNCEMENTSGo Deeper:Create a lucky life - get yourself into the coaching in the COC this month.www.collegeofconfidence.com3-Month 1:1 Program for High Achieving Women who want more:-Mastering Your Future Self-Rewiring Your Inner Self-Talk-Creating Next Level Opportunities-Increasing Your Income by 30%-Increasing Your Free Time by 30%ABUNDANT AND ACCELERATED$4997Get access at www.trishblackwell.com/abundantSELF-ASSUREDNESSSelf-assuredness doesn't mean always knowing that you've got it.It's the ability to talk yourself through itSelf-assurance refers to a sense of confidence, belief, and certainty in one's abilities, qualities, and decisions. It involves having a strong belief in oneself, one's judgments, and the capacity to handle various situations effectively. Self-assurance is characterized by a calm and composed demeanor, as well as a firm belief in one's own worth and capabilities, irrespective of external circumstances or opinions. It is often associated with inner strength, resilience, and a positive self-image, which enable individuals to navigate challenges and pursue their goals with conviction and determination.Self-assuredness is an action, not state of beingOverall, the pursuit of self-assuredness often involves a combination of self-reflection, skill-building, and adopting empowering beliefs and behaviors.Reassurance-an act of building someone up-reassure yourselfSelf-assuredness doesn't mean always knowing that you've got it.It's the ability to talk yourself through itWhat tension is a sign of …-pressured success-self-assuredness is leaning into success with relaxed, confident energySelf-assuredness is being willing to strike out and still show up with confidence. It's belief in the process and in your inevitable success.You can accept criticisms and things not going right, and believe that they will work out.WHAT TO SAY TO CREATE SELF-ASSUREDNESSI've got this.I can figure anything out.Little by little, big things get done.I am capable and coachable.I can handle whatever comes my way.I'll be ready when I need to be - I shine brightest when it's most needed.Today I'm becoming better.I have a winning mindset and I am creating a winning life.I have all that I need right now. SELF-ADVOCACYSelf-advocacy is the act of speaking up for oneself, expressing one's needs, desires, opinions, and rights in a respectful and assertive manner. It involves actively asserting one's interests, preferences, and concerns in various situations, such as in personal relationships, educational settings, workplaces, and within communities.Every time you self-advocate, you increase your self-respect.Think about how easy it is to advocate for your children, or best friend. What if you treated yourself similarly?You've got to know the following:-That you have value-That your opinions and preferences matter-That you're worth standing up for-That ...

Podcast #588SUCCESS CONFIDENCE: BELIEVING IN YOURSELF AND IN YOUR GREATEST POTENTIALIn this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on:* The one habit you NEED to be doing to elevate your success confidence* What success confidence is and how to increase yours (and why you should)* The affirmation equation that will help you stay in a place of beliefFinal chance to get into my upcoming certification program:-Go to www.confidencecoachingcertification.comWhat is Success Confidence?It's the belief that you are going to be massively and incredibly successful, no matter what.It's having your own back.There’s no better time spent than time spent moving towards your goalsDeprioritize anything that is not moving you towards your goals It's not anyone else's job to tell you what's possible.It's your job to tell yourself what's possible.Your potential is infinite.Anything you want is possible.The want and desire must be intense enough to drive you to action. Write a belief thought plan-What will you repeat-What will you write daily-What are you willing to do-Be different than others if you want different results than othersYou become what you think about.Goals are not forgetting. Goals are for growing goals are for drawing from within marvelous deposit. That is already within you.Success is 5% strategy and 95% mindset.Stop obsessing over the strategy and start obsessing over your mindset. Mindset shifts take time.And massive amounts of repetition.So be patient with yourself in the repetition. Success requires lots of repetition.And then even more repetition.NEUROPLASTICITYNeuroplasticity, also known as brain plasticity or neural plasticity, refers to the brain's ability to adapt, reorganize, and form new neural connections throughout life in response to various experiences, learning, and environmental changes.In other words, neuroplasticity is the brain's remarkable capacity to rewire its structure and function in response to learning, sensory input, development, injury, or disease. It enables the brain to continually modify its neural pathways, synapses, and networks, allowing for the acquisition of new skills, the recovery from injury, and the adaptation to changing circumstances.Neuroplasticity underlies various aspects of brain function, including learning and memory, motor skills, sensory processing, and emotional regulation. It is a fundamental property of the nervous system that contributes to the brain's remarkable flexibility, resilience, and capacity for growth throughout the lifespan.THE BELIEF ROLLER COASTERIt's normal for it go up and down.You hop into and out of belief.Decide to be a person who doesn't hop off the ride.Most people hop off. Most people don’t like neutralizing the emotion of uncertainty and the process of talking back to the doubt when it is speaking loudly.What to do about it?-Write your beliefs down daily.-Spend time visualizing your future and allowing yourself to want and desire.-Practice being your future self-Filter for examples of people doing what you want to believe is possible-Analyze and be honest about what's holding you backWHEN YOU BELIEVE - YOUR NEUROPLASTICITY CHANGES Neuroplasticity refers to the brain's ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections throughout life. When it comes to belief thoughts being repeated, neuroplasticity can play a significant role in reinforcing those beliefs and shaping cognitive patterns.Strengthening Neural Pathways: Repeatedly thinking certain belief-based thoughts can strengthen the neural pathways associated with those beliefs. Just like practicing a skill strengthens the relevant neural circuits,

Podcast #587WANTING PEOPLE TO LIKE YOU: HOW TO FEEL CONFIDENT IN ANY SOCIAL SITUATIONYou want to be liked, and at the core, you know people like you, but you still wonder if you fit in and if people really like you. You've accepted that there will be people who don't like you, but you still wish that you could be cooler or feel like you belong more than you do, and you wonder why you still struggle with some of the same social insecurities that plagued your mind when you were in middle school. This episode on social confidence, and knowing how to belong and feel confident in any social situation is for you. In this episode, you're going to learn:* How to like yourself so that you will be unconcerned if people like you or not* Power phrases to remind yourself to stand in being who you are* Common mistakes you might be making that are keeping you from being as confident in any social situation, personal or professional ANNOUNCEMENT:Upcoming training: How to Stop Having Work Anxiety Sign up at www.trishblackwell.com/workanxietyCOACHING ON WANTING PEOPLE TO LIKE YOU:* "Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are." - Marilyn Monroe* "You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches." - Dita Von Teese* "Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner." - Lao Tzu We have a natural human inclination to seek validation.There are societal advantages to having "approval", but did you know that you can learn to give yourself approval too? People will like you if you like youMistakes: Not knowing yourselfNot spending time with yourselfNot reflecting on your unique giftingsOvergeneralizing yourselfMinimizing the miracle of your existenceDownplaying your strengthsTrying to portray a perfect imageYou have to know yourself to like yourselfMistakes:Staying too busyNot trying enough new thingsDoing what other people do instead of what you want to doPeople pleasingNot allowing free thinking or boredomYou have to be willing to be dislikedEmbrace rejection as part of life. Practice self-compassion.Celebrate emotional bravery.Decide to stand for and speak for something.See yourself as a leader instead of a follower. Mistakes:Trying to have everyone approve of youBeing afraid to offend anyone with your opinionsNot practicing asking for what you wantNot even knowing what you wantYou need a plan.A social confidence plan for work situations.An intentional interaction plan for social engagements.A practice of intentional emotion creation on a daily basis, and then when it matters mostA daily commitment of self-approval and self-validationA grounded practice of gratitude and praise to the Creator who designed you as you arePOWER PHRASES TO APPRECIATE YOURSELF:* God designed me magnificently, and He doesn't make mistakes.* I am who God designed me to be.* I was created on purpose and with purpose.* The world needs my unique personality, passions and potential.* I like being me and I like this life I'm creating.* I'm a world-changer and difference-maker: the way I show up today matters. REVIEW OF THE WEEK:TranscriptEmailDownloadNew TabSpeaker 1 0:03 You want to be liked, and other core, you know people like you. But you still wonder if you fit in how you fit in. And if people really like you, or they're just being nice to you, or they just have to like you or they just tolerate you. So you've accepted that there will be people in life who don't like you. But you still wish that you could be cooler or feel like you belong more than you do or wish that you could chan...

Podcast Episode: #586.BONUS  COACHING INDUSTRY SECRETS NO ONE TELLS YOU This bonus episode will expire on 2/29/24. If you are a coach or aspiring coach, this episode is for you. On the episode you'll learn the following: * the 5 Secrets to growing your coaching business (that no one tells you) * the 3 pitfalls most coaches unknowingly fall into (that hold them back) * the next steps to take to 10x your income and your income (and to have me help you along the way)  FIND OUT ABOUT CERTIFICATION: www.confidencecoachingcertification.com

Podcast #586TAKING RISKS AND TRYING NEW THINGSIn this episode of The Confidence Podcast, you'll learn:* How to know what risks to take, and which one's not to* The secret to managing the "yuck" of stepping outside of your comfort zone* Key ways to keep yourself motivated to take your life to the next-level, however you define thatANNOUNCEMENT:We are starting the next cohort of the Confidence Coaching Certification next month. If you are a coach and want a better business, this certification is for you. It will give you confidence in your coaching skills, plus a full toolbox of new proven tools that get results, and the skills and process to sell your services and grow your business with confidence and authority. If you have been thinking about being a coach, this is a fully comprehensive certification like no other. You will learn how to be a coach, how to master and use coaching tools that work, and how to establish and grow your business.Want to know how I got 6.5 million downloads?Want to know how I travel 8 weeks of the year, and get to be present with my kids before school and after school, while growing my business?Want to know how to avoid the pitfalls and mistakes I made over my 12 years of coaching so you can accelerate your business?Want to know how to use and teach my exact coaching methodologies and coaching tools, and have the legal right to teach them to get your clients faster results?This coaching certification program does all of that for you.And I'll be mentoring you each step of the way.This is an investment in your coaching education that will make you a success. Go to www.confidencecoachingcertification.comDO IT AFRAID. AND KNOW WHAT YOU WANT.What do you really want?What are the things that fire your engine up and inspire you?What dreams do you have that compel you to take inspired / scared action?What about you?What inspires you? What does your dream life look like?What if anything was possible?What do you want to be remembered for? NORMALIZE EXPECTATIONS / CELEBRATE YOUR WILLINGNESSNeed to learn how to cheer yourself on? I created a micro coaching program for that! Check it out at www.trishblackwell.com/validateThe self-doubt will be intense.-Know what's normal, where do you feel your emotions, what is the process you go through?-Remind yourself that you're willing and able to feel anything.-The pit and the yuck goes away. Ride the yuck and de-dramatize it. -Celebrate your courage.For every elated emotion, you will experience 2-3x negative emotions.This is why emotional maturity / EQ and inner narrative maturity / NQ are so critical to train, develop and increase awareness over. POWER PHRASES:Everything I want is on the other side of what I don't want to do.This has the potential to be amazing.I go after the life I want.This is me living life to the fullest.REVIEW OF THE WEEK:TranscriptEmailDownloadNew TabSpeaker 1 0:00 Do you want to next level your life and you know some things that you can do, but you're putting them off, you tell yourself, you'll do it tomorrow, or you earmark it for next month, or you tell yourself, I'm going to look into that I need to buy a coach or a course or a thing to build to help me do that thing before I take action on it. Maybe you're putting off joining the gym. Or perhaps it's taking the first steps to switch your career. If you're an entrepreneur, this might be as simple as trying new ideas with more boldness and confidence or investing in a new training or certification. If you want more from life,

Podcast #585SELF-TALK AND SELF-VALIDATION: HOW TO BE NICER TO YOURSELFDo you have an inner mean voice that no one knows about? You know, that voice that is always beating yourself up, telling you that you could have done better, and putting pressure on you to lose weight, be cooler, do better or make less mistakes? We call that voice your self-talk. The self-talk narrative that you have determines everything about the level of confidence you feel. The great news is that you can change your self-talk.  My self-talk used to be absolute trash, and it is now my greatest cheerleader and strength. If I can change my inner self talk around, you can too. This episode will teach you how.In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, you'll learn:* How to increase your narrative intelligence* The steps to take to change your inner voice* Secrets to shifting from being too tough on yourself to being someone who is nice to themselfCOACHING CONCEPTS:You were made for more. You have so much difference-making and world-changing to do, and within you. But if you don't master your inner self-talk, you'll forever be held back by your own insecurities.Your greatest enemy is your insecurity.Your greatest weapon to fight insecurity is your self-talk.This is a skill and something that will take practice.-Practice is critical.-Self-awareness is key. -Curiosity and compassion are required.-Coaching is helpful.-Journaling is the best tool. Train Your Self-TalkJournalAffirmationsOut loud conversationsWrite your winsGratitude obsession10x your atta-girls / celebrate yourselfParent your thoughts and encourage your inner childRESOURCES MENTIONED:Self-Validation Challenge:www.trishblackwell.com/validateJournal Mastery Bundle:www.trishblackwell.com/journalmasterybundleThe Confident Mom Podcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-confidence-mom-podcast/id1046328248REVIEW OF THE WEEK:TranscriptEmailDownloadNew TabSpeaker 1 0:00 Do you have that inner mean voice that no one knows about? You know, the voice that's always beating yourself up telling you that you could have done better. Or maybe just putting pressure on yourself. To lose weight, be cooler, do better, make less mistakes. Look, we call that voice, your self talk. The self talk narrative that you have determines everything about the level of confidence you feel. Now the great news is, you can change your self talk. My self talk used to be absolute trash. And it is now my greatest cheerleader and strength. And here's what I'm here to tell you. If I can change my inner self talk, so can you in this episode, I'm going to teach you how we're going to talk about how to change your inner language, how to be kinder to yourself, how to learn, to self encourage, instead of self criticize, and the art of Self validation buckle up. This episode in particular, is for those of you who put too much pressure on yourselves. Those of you who you think that pushing yourself harder is gonna get you results and you find yourself frustrated and anxious. This is an episode for my high achievers. My Taipei's, my perfectionist I know about that self talk, why do I know because I had it. Life can feel so much better. And this episode's gonna be your first step. Let's dive in. You're listening to the confidence podcast, the go to coaching podcast, oozing with motivation, and easy to implement steps that help you to be bold and confident in life. I'm your host, Trish Blackwell internationally recognized confidence coach, best selling author, and founder of the College of competence. I teach go getters in life,

Podcast #584PURGING NEGATIVE INFLUENCES FROM YOUR LIFEThe world can be a negative place, and if you have negative people in your life or are fighting off internal negativity yourself, today's episode is for you. You're tired of the negative coworker, or perhaps the cynical family member, or just the negative weight of the world that feels like it's ever pressing in with every swipe of your social feed or story on the news. Maybe you're feeling weighed down by the negativity of the world, or maybe a nagging low-grade anxiety that follows you and wakes you up every morning, or the chains of depression and sadness that might feel all too familiar this season. This episode will give you a simple 3-step process to detox the judgment - and the fear of what others think - from adding any layers of negativity to your life. FREE MASTERCLASS: CONFIDENCE FOR COACHESWednesday, Jan 31st at 5PMConfidence for Life Coaches Sign up for free at:  www.trishblackwell.com/confidenceforcoachesHAPPENING THIS MONTH IN THIS COC:Confident Conflict Month-handling rejection-dealing with difficult people-asking for what you want-conflict challenge Get into the action by becoming a member at www.collegeofconfidence.comJUDGEMENT DETOX* Curiosity.* Narrative intelligence. * SelectivityQUESTION THE SOURCEAsk yourself if you are projecting anything.Ask yourself: are they negative? Are they hurting?Ask yourself - what can I focus on that is positive instead?Ask yourself - how can I make positivity my prime emotion here?NARRATIVE INTELLIGENCEPractice the art of getting better at navigating your inner narrative.What negative narratives do you need to clean up within your own mind?-Ask yourself to look for the little thoughts.-Be aware of the micro-complaints.Intentionally insist on a narrative that celebrates in the good.-In a situation-In yourself-In othersNarrative your thoughts about others more intentionally, compassionately and lovingly-What could be a better way to tell the story?-What would you want someone to think about you in such a situation?-What is there that you don't know SELECTIVITYYou are the queen of your inner kingdom.What gets in is your choice.Let negative people in, you'll be negative.Emotions are contagious. Let negative media, your mind will be negative.Guardrail your mental life.Pour good into it intentionally. ANNOUNCEMENTS: The next cohort is beginning soon! Find out more at:ConfidenceCoachingCertification.comOTHER EPISODES YOU'LL LOVE:10 Power Statements to Help Stop Caring What People Think (#583)Silencing the Critics: Overcoming the Fear of Judgement (#582) TranscriptEmailDownloadNew TabSpeaker 1 0:00 The world can be such a negative place. And if you have negative people in your life or are fighting off, internal negativity yourself, today's episode is for you. You're tired of the maybe the negative coworker, the naysayer, perhaps it's that cynical family member, or just the negative weight of the world that feels like it's ever pressing in with every swipe of your social feed or story on the news. Maybe you're feeling weighed down by just the general negativity of the world, you feel like you're in a season of sadness. Or maybe you have a nagging, low grade anxiety that follows you around like a shadow and wakes up with you every morning, or the chains of depression and sadness that they just feel altom familiar this season, Hey, I see you. And there's hope. There's light, we can purge the negative influences from our life. And this episode is going to give you a simple three step process, to detox negativity to detox the judgment that might be pressing in on you the fear of what other people think. Because those things, worrying too much what other people think,

Podcast #58310 POWER STATEMENTS TO HELP STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINKEver felt like you don't fit in? Or like you're just different from other people and you're constantly wondering what "they" think of you? Or maybe you have big dreams, and have been teased for it … or you're worried that your success will make other people feel bad. Perhaps you haven't go after what you really want, or allowed yourself to be yourself because you're afraid of what "they" will think, say or gossip about being your back. You know you shouldn't care what "they" think but you know you're holding back in life, or from being your full self, because goshdarnit, you just want people to like you.In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on…* The difference between a power phrase and an affirmation, and how to use both* Tapping into the right words to stop caring so much what people think* The top payoffs that make this work worth doingCONFLICT MONTH - College of ConfidenceWe start in February, click to be part of the experience:www.collegeofconfidence.comFebruary COC Workshops on Conflict:Handling Rejection WorkshopDealing with Unmotivated and Difficult People WorkshopMoney Habits for Breakthrough WorkshopBeing Disliked and Misunderstood WorkshopDecision Conflict and Indecisiveness WorkshopInner Belief Conflict Workshop AFFIRMATION VS. POWER PHRASEOne is repeated and generalized.One is specific, memorized, and repeated until ingrained. 10 POWER PHRASES FOR NOT CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINKI trust in my own judgment and choices; I am the authority in my life.I value my opinion of myself more than I value the thoughts or opinions of others about me. I am not responsible for the thoughts and opinions of others; I am responsible for my own happiness.I have the courage to be disliked because I like myself and I know I am loved. I am proud of who I am becoming, and I don't need external validation.My self-worth is not contingent on the approval of others; I am enough.I am radically obsessed with living my own life to the fullest. I release the need to control what others think; I only control my reactions and responses.I trust that being authentic attracts the right people into my life.I release the need to compare myself to others; my journey is unique and worthwhile.THE PAYOFF AWAITING YOUNo more wasted emotions about where you fit inNo more worrying about what something thinks of youRenewed relationship with yourself - you like you and that's enoughOpen freedom to pursue whatever inspires you - without having to explain it or justify itImpact - the more free you are yourself, the more you will free others to be the sameLess anxiety, less stress, less unknownUnlimited potentialFreedom from overthinking ANNOUNCEMENT:The waitlist is now open!ConfidenceCoachingCertification.comTranscriptEmailDownloadNew TabSpeaker 1 0:00 Have you ever felt like you don't fit in, or like you're just different from other people, and you're constantly wondering what they think of you, or maybe you've had big dreams, or you've been teased for it, or you're worried that you're successful, make other people feel bad. Or perhaps you just haven't really ever gone after what you want or allowed yourself, to even be yourself because you're afraid of what clinical day might think, say, or gossip about behind your back, you're not sure if you fit in and so you just tiptoe along and you know, you shouldn't care what they think. But you're holding back in life anyways, or from being your full self or from speaking your mind or sharing your faith or your political opinion because you don't want to offend anyone a...

Podcast #582SILENCING THE CRITICS: OVERCOMING THE FEAR OF JUDGMENTAre you held back by the fear of others? Do you find yourself caring too much what people think, or watching critical hot messes piles up on social media threads, and as a by-standard feel burdened by the critical nature of the world we live in?  Maybe your critics aren't "those other people" out there; maybe the critics you worry about are closer to home … either your own voice or that of friends and family. You "know" that what they think doesn't matter and shouldn't hold you back, but yet, you still aren't going all out on the life you want to live, or all in on the different you want to make. This episode is for you if you want to start speaking up more boldly, to take action more intentionally and to free yourself from over-caring what "they" might think.In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on:* 5 immediate things you can do to stop worrying about the critics in your life* The secret power thought that will help you overcome your fear of judgment* An approach to take this year to stop caring and being held back by what people thinkREVIEW OF THE WEEK:FEAR OF JUDGMENTUnderstanding the Fear of JudgmentExploring the psychology behind the fear of judgmentDiscussing the evolutionary aspects of judgment and its role in human behaviorSharing common triggers that ignite the fear of judgmentThe Impact of Fear of Judgment on Personal GrowthDiscussing how the fear of judgment can hinder personal development and goalsExamining the link between fear of judgment and self-esteemSharing real-life examples or case studies illustrating the consequences of succumbing to this fear5 STEPS TO REDUCE THE CRITICS* Identify them.* Neutralize their power of influence over you.* Talk back to them and counterbalance them. * Ignore and understand them. * Judge less and tap into curiosity and compassion moreWe must challenge our thoughts, and our negative assumptions.The story you are narrating is only one of many possible stories. We must also be honest about the judgement we put out into the world.What we extend gets directed back to us. SECRET POWER THOUGHT TO OVERCOME FEAR OF JUDGEMENTI was uniquely created for such a time as this, and with such personality, passions and purpose as I have. I have full permission to be 100% myself, for doing so is an expression of gratitude to the God who created me. I have the courage to be myself, to follow my beliefs, to use my voice and to believe I can make a difference in this world. I am bold and brave, willing to live life to the fullest. AN APPROACH TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINKKnow what it's keeping you from.Know how little people are thinking about you. Know what unleashes when you let go.Know how to create inner peace (manage your anxiety)Anxiety Reduction Power Phrases:I am whole and loved and who I need to be.I have all that I need.I am making a difference today with my life and my efforts.I belong and I connect well with others.There is no pressure here, I can handle whatever comes.I trust myself and my ability to pivot and react. Note: letting go takes practice, and intentional story narration.Get instant access to one of our recent workshops, RELEASING YOUR PAST, when you join the College of Confidence.1:1 INVITEI have one open client spot for private coaching.Go to www.trishblackwell.com/coaching to learn more about the results my 1:1 clients get and to fill out an application to have a free virtual coffee with me to explore if investing...

Podcast #581CONFIDENCE GENDER GAP AND BREAKING SELF-LIMITING PERSPECTIVESIf you notice a difference between the confidence, and wages, of men and women in the workplace, and you want to know what's going on and what to do about it, this episode is for you. The confidence gender gap is a real thing, and today's episode is a conversation with one of the world's leading experts on the study of the phenomenon. Buckle up to be fired up about the role each of us plays in closing the confidence gender gap, and in breaking self-imposed limiting perspectives. If you want to break your own internal and external glass ceilings this year, this is the episode for you.In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about:* The confidence gender gap* How to start questioning the limiting perspectives you've placed on yourself * Talking back to your life script and life narrative in a powerful way. JOIN NEW YOU WEEK:www.trishblackwell.com/newyouABOUT CLAUDIAClaudia Dempsey is a mom, wife, educator, woman of faith, and personal growth enthusiast. With a passion for personal development and a heart for equipping others, Claudia is dedicated to helping women climb higher and go further on the journey of life. Her focus? Showing women how to embrace their life purpose, dismantle limiting beliefs, accelerate personal growth, and optimize their impact.As a seasoned administrator in higher ed, with two leadership doctorates and a master's in counseling, Claudia has spent decades studying practical strategies that will empower women to score tangible wins in every aspect of their lives.Simply put, she's a woman on a mission to help others unleash their potential and make a profound impact on the world around them!CONVERSATION WITH CLAUDIASome approach the pursuit of confidence as though it were a straightforward, one-dimensional path to a desired location.  The reality is, however, that confidence is a dynamic, deep-rooted, and multidimensional experience. So, we have to understand the different facets and dimensions involved...and embrace the process of growing into these different dimensions. (Rather than moving forward in a straight line, we need to look at confidence development as expanding the circumference of who we are.In addition to understanding the complexity of confidence, I think it is critical that we understand the complexity of our cumulative life script and how that impacts the way we view ourselves, as well as our role and value in the world. If we are not careful, we will live in subjectivity to an imposing narrative that we don't even know exists.  (*Awareness is one of the number ways people can begin to confront under-confidence.)Research confirms that there is a very real confidence gender gap. .Many ask why the gender gap exists:  Because of the values and traditions of our culture, the social undercurrents in existing organizations, how we are individually socialized, and the fact that women are generally wired to be relational, socially cooperative, and interdependent while men are more independent and individualistic. This means that women generally assess the value of who we are or what we do through the filter of our collective social networks (we're often more predisposed to sociotrophy). "...Who do they say I am?"Confidence rises and falls on the fulcrum of limiting perspectives. We have to be astute learners of our own perceptions, thoughts patterns...etc. Our thoughts are going to follow the "road most traveled" (neural pathways), so we have to be intentional about refusing to travel those damaging pathways while simult...

Podcast #58024 WAYS TO MAKE 2024 MASSIVELY SUCCESSFULYou're fired up. It's a new year. But how do you make sure that you don’t lose the fire? How can you make sure that this year is different than any other year? It's all in the approach. Success is not a fluke, and it's not just for the lucky. It's for those who plan for it and who step into it. This episode will teach you exactly how to step into it - 24 ways to be exact - to exceed your own self-imposed limitations. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on:* 24 ways to make 2024 massively successful* The scalability factor of confidence* A special invitation to approach your year like never beforeNEW YOU WEEK: NEW YOU WEEK: JAN 8-JAN 12 at 12PM EST The 2024 YouYour 2024 HabitsYour 2024 ThoughtsYour 2024 ResultsYour 2024 Breakthroughs www.trishblackwell.com/newyou24 WAYS TO SUCCEED IN 2024* Write down your goal* Have action purpose and vision behind your goal  (remind yourself daily)* Back map your 2023* Make your goal public* Know what's at stake - what's your loss risk* Plan for Zones of Discomfort* Commit to 90 days of journaling* Create Thought Plans* The 3|3|3 Method www.trishblackwell.com/333method* First thought positive thought | www.trishblackwell.com/563* Cut your screen time in half* Prioritize life ethic equal to work ethic * Schedule more fun* Write down your identity - badass powerhouse* Practice the future you daily* Identify glass ceilings * Question your past stories * Prioritize connection with God* Scale your daily habits* Burn the boats (give yourself no choice but to make it happen)* Be obsessed with a positive, winning, victorious mind* Invest in coaching* Surround yourself with a positive community * Sign up for NEW YOU WEEK THE SCALABILITY FACTOR:Confidence.Enter this year with a committed up-leveling of your confidence. I am capable.TranscriptEmailDownloadNew TabSpeaker 1 0:00 If you're fired up, it's a new year. But how do you make sure that you don't lose the fire? How can you make sure that this year is different than any other year? It's all in the approach. Look, success is not a fluke. And it's not just for the lucky. It's for those who plan for it, who and who step into it. And this episode is going to teach you exactly how to step into it and 24 ways to be exact, to exceed and surpass your own self imposed limitations. This is a New Year's episode, unlike any of the other ones that you are seeing. Because this is giving you 24 Things that you can implement to make 2024 massively successful. You're listening to the confidence podcast, the go to coaching podcast, oozing with motivation, and easy to implement steps that help you to be bold, and confident in life. I'm your host, Trish Blackwell, internationally recognized confidence coach, best selling author, and founder of the College of confidence, I teach go getters in life, how to master their self talk, turn down the volume of self doubt, and get more results in life. So that you can be the difference maker and world changer. God created you to be you were made for more. And today's episode will help you tap into it. Let's go. Hey, there, it's Trish Blackwell. And you're listening to the confidence podcast if you listen, in real time, Happy New Year, it is January 2. And I wish you a Happy New Year in this episode of the competence Podcast, episode 580. We're talking about 24 ways to make 2024 massively succ...

Podcast #579HOW TO BE CONSISTENT AND WHY YOU SHOULD EXPAND YOUR DISCOMFORT TOLERANCEIf you're consistent, you can create any result you want. The truth is, most people give too soon. They stop right before the breakthrough. They tire of the uncomfortable feelings of boredom or disappointment and they become inconsistent in following through. The result? They don't get the result they want, and then they're discouraged. Too much discouragement deters you from your destiny and from remembering who you are and what you're capable of. Anyone can be consistent, if you decide to be. This episode will teach you the secret to consistency, and how to leverage the discomfort of keeping your word to yourself to expand your discomfort capacity … because when you expand your discomfort capacity, you exponentially scale what's possible for you in life.In this episode of. The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about:The secret to consistency Expanding your discomfort capacity - how to do itHow increasing your tolerance of discomfort fast-tracks you to next-level success.NEW YOU WEEK: JAN 8-JAN 12 at 12PM ESTThe 2024 YouYour 2024 HabitsYour 2024 ThoughtsYour 2024 ResultsYour 2024 Breakthroughs www.trishblackwell.com/newyouCONSISTENCYSuccess is neither magical nor mysterious. Success is the natural consequence of consistently applying basic fundamentals." - Jim Rohn"It's not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives. It's what we do consistently." - Tony RobbinsEverything you want is on the other side of what you don’t want to doTHE SECRET TO CONSISTENCYDecide.Commit.Committing requires skin in the game.-Accountability-Consequences-Vision-Investment Consistency requires that you do things you don't want to do.It's easy when there's no choice.Stop giving yourself a choice to have a choice. DISCOMFORT"If you want something you've never had, you must be willing to do something you've never done." - Thomas Jefferson"Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all." - Helen Keller"Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change." - Jim Rohn"A ship in harbor is safe, but that is not what ships are built for." - John A. SheddThis is uncomfortable, good.I'm becoming better at doing what I don't want to do.Notice the dread.Pay attention to what you would have avoided EXPANDING YOUR DISCOMFORT CAPACITY Stop waiting for things to get easy; instead consider yourself someone who leans into things being hard.The Hard Things PyramidCreate intentional zones of discomfort you pre-identifyIdentify as being someone capable of feeling the discomfort-of handling the hard-of navigating the internal dreadTHE FAST-TRACK TO NEXT LEVEL SUCCESSExpansion of discomfort tolerance creates accelerated success capacity. You expand, or level up, your capability. TranscriptEmailDownloadNew TabSpeaker 1 0:00 If you're consistent, you can create any result you want. The truth is, most people give up too soon, they stop right before the breakthrough, they tire of the uncomfortable feelings of boredom and disappointment, and ambiguity. And they become inconsistent and following through, but it's not like in big ways at first, it's in little ways, but the result is always the same. They don't get the result they want. And then they're discouraged. Too much discouragement deters you from your destiny. And from remembering who you are and what you're capable of. What you know, today, anyone can be consistent. If you decide to be this episode will teach you the secrets to consistency and how to leverage the discomfort of keeping your word to yourself to expand your discomfort capacity, your discomfort tolerance, because when you expand your discomfort capacity, you exponentially scale what's possible in your life. If you want to make 2020 for the year where you become consistent,

Podcast #578TIME BOXING VS TIME ASSIGNING VS. TIME BLOCKING: THE ART OF PLANNING FOR SUCCESSDo you feel like you never have enough time to get everything done, and like you never will?Like the pressures of the world and your to-do list are in conflict with your dreams and passions and the life you want to live. Time management is a huge industry - with apps, calendars, planners, and hacks of all kinds - and yet, most people still struggle. What gives? I believe we've over complicated things, both in our minds, in our standards and in our expectations, and in this episode of The Confidence Podcast, I'm going to teach you the SIMPLE art of planning for success and making time to get things done. You'll learn time boxing, time assigning and time blocking, and how to implement them so that you get more done in less time and start having the time abundance in life that you desperately crave.In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on:* The art of planning for success* Time Boxing vs. Time Assigning vs. Time Blocking* How to be the boss of your time "Time is really the only capital that any human being has, and the only thing he can't afford to lose." - Thomas Edison"The key is in not spending time, but in investing it." - Stephen R. Covey"Time management is an oxymoron. Time is beyond our control, and the clock keeps ticking regardless of how we lead our lives. Priority management is the answer to maximizing the time we have." - John C. MaxwellTime is what we want most, but what we use worst." - William Penn"The bad news is time flies. The good news is you're the pilot." - Michael AltshulerTHIS EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY BETTERHELPI married into a super large family, (my husband is one of 9 siblings in a blended family) and so we have a mix of White Elephant gifts and stocking exchanges that we do …the gifts are fun, but the time tohgheter - and the competitiveness of the white elephant exchange is where it's at.Whether or not your family gives gifts during the holidays, you get to define how you give to yourself.And the holidays are a great time to do that.So whether it’s by starting therapy, going easier on yourself during the tough moments, or treating yourself to a day of complete rest – remember to give yourself some love this holiday season. If you’re thinking of starting therapy, give BetterHelp a try. It’s entirely online. Designed to be convenient, flexible, and suited to your schedule.Just fill out a brief questionnaire to get matched with a licensed therapist, and switch therapists any time for no additional charge.      In the season of giving, give yourself what YOU need – with BetterHelp.Visit BetterHelp dot com slash CONFIDENCEPOD today to get 10% off your first month. That’s better HELP—H - E - L - P—dot com slash CONFIDENCEPOD.WHY BEING THE BOSS OF YOUR TIME MATTERSTIME ISSUESWe are afraid to say no.We procrastinate.We don't properly value time.We don't want to be time-bound or restricted. We believe future time is more abundant than present time.We wait unnecessarily.We overcomplicate the system.We don't know the difference between our priorities and our preferences.  TIME BOXINGScheduling tasks to be done at a certain time.Calling the internet provider - not on the to-do list but at a specific time.Writing that proposal draft that's hanging over your head or important email.Pre-assigning your life to yourself TIME ASSIGNINGDeciding ahead of time how long a task will take or how much time you should dedicate to something. This is particularly helpful for big creative tasks or "important" tasks. Share advice I gave Nick on writing the final touch points on his book. Decide how many hours it will take. Parkinson's Law states that "work expands to fill the time available for its completion." In other words, if you give yourself a certain amount of time to complete a task,