The Betrayed, The Addicted, The Expert

When it comes to sex, every person will have a different context about sex. Then layer in betrayal and addiction and sex can go to an unhealthy place with loads of emotion. Listen as Brannon guides the discussion on what healthy and unhealthy sex looks like.

The emotions of addiction and recovery are many for both the betrayed and the addicted. This episode will help the betrayed and the addicted to identify the varying emotions they may have felt. This episode will help people know they are not alone.

Brannon walks Ashlynn and Coby through their own fear cycles and discusses the reasons behind it and how to recognize it.

Divorce is common among all marriages but what do you do when it comes up consistently and how do you know it's for real and if it is just an emotional reaction?

***TECH ISSUES***Click "details" then "Episode Webpage" to listen. Brannon walks Ashlynn and Coby through the journey of divorce in this episode. From the thought process even in recovery to the early childhood attachment styles that have perpetuated it for years.

Far too often, Coby and Ashlynn used perfection as the measure of recovery. That didn't turn out very well but they did not get the concept of consistency either. Listen as they explore with Brannon the ideas that helped them embrace consistency and let go of the need for perfection.

How do the same things keep happening? When will I get a break and have some peace in my life? Why does this happen over and over in my life? Listen as the Brannon walks Coby and Ashlynn through the struggles they had in addiction and betrayal and how they came to be and continued.

Don't let this one thing fly over your head. Recovery is comprised of many things and Brannon, Coby and Ashlynn advocate small sustainable things to foster consistency. Listen as they share this one thing in recovery that still guides their every day.

Betrayal trauma can highjack the brains of those who have it. Then it can effect the day to day thought process about self in a negative way. Learning to love and care for self despite the hurt is the focus of this episode.

Listen as Brannon, Coby and Ashlynn outline what the secret pill of recovery is as it is a forever thought of and sought after pill.

Our bodies cannot stop communicating with us. How do we recognize those cues and what do we do with them? What can we learn from them.

Traveling, being home or at work alone and so many other situations can be danger zones. Listen as Brannon, Coby and Ashlynn define danger zones for both the betrayed and the addicted.

Coby and Ashlynn both spent time being interested in addiction going away but not really being committed to doing what it took to heal and go through the pain. "Interested" was wanting out of the pain. "Committed" was being willing to do what it took to heal. Listen as they articulate their path for each.

Lying, manipulating, lashing out, blaming, calling names etc were are few of the examples of who Ashlynn and Coby became over time. Behaviors they never thought they would be engaged in became recurring in their relationship. Listen to the way addiction and betrayal trauma changed who they were.

Trust and safety can be lost in one decision. Listen how Brannon walks Coby and Ashlynn through the moments when trust was lost in their relationship and what that felt like.