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This week is Father’s Day in the United States and so we’re talking about masculinity, specifically inspired masculinity. What it is and why is it important to our recovery. “Masculinity, as we shall see, is finally not a thing to be learned, but rather a quality to be tasted or experienced. The masculine within is called forth and blessed by the masculine without.” – Leanne Payne, Crisis in Masculinity, p. 11   REV Group Coaching Join a REV group this Summer. New spots available. Connect with other guys on the journey, each week, in our confidential online meetings. Apply now   Support Pornfree Radio * Give to Pornfree Radio – Pledge Now Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out.      

  Jason George from The Griz Podcast visits PFR for 2nd of 2 episodes. In this episode,  Jason shares his recovery journey and why men in ministry struggle with porn. Listen to part 1 here: PFR 159 – Jason George “The Griz” Pt. 1 Resources: * Breaking Free Online Summit * Narrowtrail Ministries * THE GRIZ PODCAST by Jason George (iTunes) Support Pornfree Radio * Give to Pornfree Radio – Pledge Now Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out.  

Jason George from The Griz Podcast visits PFR for 1 of 2 episodes. In this episode,  Jason shares his early years, his struggle with pornography, and his spiritual awakening. Resources: * Narrowtrail Ministries * THE GRIZ PODCAST by Jason George (iTunes) Support Pornfree Radio * Give to Pornfree Radio – Pledge Now Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out.  

In part 3 of 3 Most Wanted topics, we talk specifically about your relationship status. I start by focusing on challenges the single man faces in recovery. Then I compare that with the challenges married men face going porn free. REV Group Coaching Join a REV group this Summer. New spots available in June 2018. Connect with other guys on the journey, each week, in our confidential online meetings. Apply now  

In part 2 of 3 Most Wanted topics, we examine how fetish addiction affects our goal of going porn free. In this episode, I explain the 4 stages of addiction as defined by Dr. A. Thomas Horvath. I also share 5 questions to engage your best thinking about how to deal with fetishes in your recovery. The Obstacle Is the Way by Ryan Holiday * Sex, Drugs, Gambling, & Chocolate Workbook by Dr. Tom Horvath * Predictably Irrational by Dan Ariely * PFR 095 – Go Porn Free in 2017 Pt. 1: Your Why I am an Amazon affiliate meaning if you purchase a book through a link above I will make a modest commission at no cost to you. REV Group Coaching Join a REV group this Summer. New spots available in June 2018. Connect with other guys on the journey, each week, in our confidential online meetings. Apply now    

In part 1 of 3 Most Wanted topics, we examine how masturbation affects our goal of going porn free. In this episode, I share 5 questions to engage your best thinking about how to deal with masturbation in your recovery. The Obstacle Is the Way by Ryan Holiday (Amazon affiliate link) * PFR 012 Is Masturbation Without Porn Bad? * PFR 095 – Go Porn Free in 2017 Pt. 1: Your Why   REV Group Coaching Join a REV group this Summer. New spots available in June 2018. Connect with other guys on the journey, each week, in our confidential online meetings. Apply now    

Pornfree Radio turns 4 years old this week. PFR Episode 001: Coming Clean launched 4/30/2014. Thousands of emails and 154 episodes later, we keep things going by discussing how addiction can be seen as an extreme version of habit. And the same way we change and adopt new habits in our life can apply to our addiction. Contribute to Pornfree Radio in 2018! I’m committed to publishing new Pornfree Radio episodes every Wednesday through the end of 2018.  And over 35 listeners, just like you, have committed to Pornfree Radio this year. Join us. Set Up Your Pledge Now Resources mentioned in this episode: * Crush It! by Gary Vaynerchuk  (Amazon link) * The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg  (Amazon link) Kevin Majeres, MD * The Science Behind Pornography (Article) * Overcoming Addictions  (Article) * Purity is Possible (Video Training) Tom Horvath, Ph.D. * Sex, Drugs, Gambling, & Chocolate: A Workbook for Overcoming Addictions by Dr. Tom Horvath (Amazon link) * Read Chapter 1 here Dr. Horvath writes that the ordinary processes that change habits or addictions include: * increasing self-awareness * identifying and resolving conflict * discovering and developing alternative behaviors * experiencing support from others * not acting on temptation * being persistent The links on my site to Amazon are affiliate links. Meaning if you sign up, I will earn a commission at no additional cost to you.

Part 3 of 3 episodes on Resistance In Recovery focuses on stage 3 – day 90 and beyond. “Most of us have two lives. The life we live and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance.”  -Steven Pressfield, The War of Art Resistance In Recovery: 90 Days and Beyond * Isolation – I don’t need others now. * Losing focus – I have stopped connecting my healthy recovery to what I do. * Recovery fatigue – I’m bored. Overcoming Resistance: * Helping others. * Vision of where you’re going. * Changing and expanding your plan. Resources: The War of Art – Steven Pressfield (Amazon affiliate link) Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz * Confidential, 1-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz * Sessions are 60 mins via video conference or phone * 30/60/90 day coaching packages available * Includes lifetime access to Your Porn Free Playbook After you apply, we’ll schedule a free call to get to know you and tell you about the options and the cost. The purpose of this call is for us to assess whether coaching is a good fit for you. Apply Now

Part 2 of 3 episodes on Resistance In Recovery focuses on stage 2, days 31-90. “Most of us have two lives. The life we live and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance.”  -Steven Pressfield, The War of Art Resistance In Recovery: Days 31-90 * Entitlement – I deserve a reward. * Overconfidence – I can do this without tools. * Self-reliance – I can do this on my own. Overcoming Resistance: * Affirmation / Encouragement * Adopting a simple plan. * Habits of connection. Resources: The War of Art – Steven Pressfield (Amazon affiliate link) Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz * Confidential, 1-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz * Sessions are 60 mins via video conference or phone * 30/60/90 day coaching packages available * Includes lifetime access to Your Porn Free Playbook After you apply, we’ll schedule a free call to get to know you and tell you about the options and the cost. The purpose of this call is for us to assess whether coaching is a good fit for you. Apply Now

Part 1 of 3 episodes on Resistance In Recovery focuses on stage 1 – the first 30 days. “Most of us have two lives. The life we live and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance.”  -Steven Pressfield, The War of Art Resistance In Recovery: First 30 Days * Fear – This is going to hurt! * Self-doubt- I can’t do this. * Denial – Is this really necessary? Overcoming Resistance: * Connection * Take Action * Eliminate Weak Links Resources: The War of Art – Steven Pressfield (Amazon affiliate link) Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz * Confidential, 1-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz * Sessions are 60 mins via video conference or phone * 30/60/90 day coaching packages available * Includes lifetime access to Your Porn Free Playbook After you apply, we’ll schedule a free call to get to know you and tell you about the options and the cost. The purpose of this call is for us to assess whether coaching is a good fit for you. Apply Now

“I did something I did not expect myself to do last night,” Andrew, a PFR listener, wrote in. “I was up far too late, and could not go to sleep because I had this unsettling feeling in my body. I knew what I had to do…” You won’t believe what he did! Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz * Confidential, 1-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz * Sessions are 60 mins via video conference or phone * 30/60/90 day coaching packages available * Includes lifetime access to Your Porn Free Playbook After you apply, we’ll schedule a free call to get to know you and tell you about the options and the cost. The purpose of this call is for us to assess whether coaching is a good fit for you. Apply Now Contribute to Pornfree Radio in 2018! I’m committed to publishing new Pornfree Radio episodes every Wednesday through the end of 2018.  And over 35 listeners, just like you, have committed to Pornfree Radio this year. Join us. Set Up Your Pledge Now

In part 2 of 2 episodes, I share recovery insights from Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday. (2016. In this episode, I focus on how ego affects guys at 3 different stages of recovery. Listen to episode part 1 here. The old beliefs I struggled with: * I need others to value me. * I want to recognized for what I do. * I need to be affirmed. * I allow others to define how I feel about myself. Resources: * Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday (Amazon Affiliate link.) * Porn Free This Year (Free Video Training) * PFR 127 – The Porn Free Plan That Never Fails Pt. 1 * PFR 128 – The Porn Free Plan That Never Fails Pt. 2 Featured Music: Kanye West – Runaway Instrumental (2010) Contribute to Pornfree Radio in 2018! I’m committed to publishing new Pornfree Radio episodes every Wednesday through the end of 2018.  And over 35 listeners, just like you, have committed to Pornfree Radio this year. Join us. Set Up Your Pledge Now

In part 1 of 2 episodes, I share a book I am reading called, Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday. I discuss how ego has influenced both my addiction and recovery. The old beliefs I struggled with: * I need others to value me. * I want to recognized for what I do. * I need to be affirmed. * I allow others to define how I feel about myself. Resource: Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday (Amazon Affiliate link.) Contribute to Pornfree Radio in 2018! I’m committed to publishing new Pornfree Radio episodes every Wednesday through the end of 2018.  And over 35 listeners, just like you, have committed to Pornfree Radio this year. Join us. Set Up Your Pledge Now  

Long time listener and fan of the show Will asks, “what episodes would you recommend for new listeners?” Here’s my take on the “Top 5” greatest hits: * Your Why (95) * The Porn Free Plan That Never Fails Pt. 1 (127) * The Porn Free Plan That Never Fails Pt. 2 (128) * The 5 Lies That Keep Us Coming Back To Porn (75) * Four Porn Pitfalls With Popular Media (10) When discussing your plan I mention my free video training, Porn Free This Year. You can get to that training here. Featured Music: The Staple Singers – Respect Yourself (Live from Wattstax, 1972) Honorable mentions: * Coming Clean (1) * Unlovable (2) * Motivation Series (132, 133, and 134) * Temptation Series (44, 45) * Hope for the Porn Addicted Agnostic (33) * Hope for the Porn Addicted Christian (34) * Back 2 Basics Series (92, 93, 105, 106, and 107) Reddit List: * Pornfree Radio Episode Guide (Redditor: BackToTheBreath) Contribute to Pornfree Radio in 2018! I’m committed to publishing new Pornfree Radio episodes every Wednesday through the end of 2018.  And over 35 listeners, just like you, have committed to Pornfree Radio this year. Join us. Set Up Your Pledge Now What are your favorites? What PFR episodes had the most impact on you? Leave a comment below (or send me an email/text.) * Email: matt@recoveredman.com OR * Text : 847-920-HOPE (4673)

In part 2 of Working At Home Without Relapsing, I share the 3 biggest threats to staying porn free while working at home. Then I share tools to deal with each threat contributed by Pornfree Radio listeners. Listen Featured Music: Smoking Popes – I Need You Around (SoundCloud) Resources Podcasts: * PFR 146 – Working At Home Without Relapsing Pt. 1 * PFR 124 – How To Porn-Proof Your Home * PFR 114 – Smart Phones, Smart TVs, and Whatever Comes Next * PFR 093 – Back 2 Basics: Morning Routine Morning Routine: * Book/App: The 5 Minute Journal (Amazon Link) * Book: The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod (Amazon Link) Music For Focus: * Spotify Playlist: Coding Programming Hacking Playlist * Focus@Will Music Service Internet Filters: * Covenant Eyes Accountability + Filtering (affiliate) WiFi/Network Filtering: * SafeDNS (Highly Recommended) * OpenDNS * ASUS Dual-band Wireless-AC1900 Gigabit Router, Black (affiliate) * T-Mobile By ASUS Wireless-AC1900 Dual-Band Gigabit Router (affiliate) Internet Blocking on Devices: * Freedom (affiliate) Password Management: * LastPass – Generate strong passwords * FutureMe – Send an email to yourself in the future Community: * rTribe * ADHD ReWired Community/Podcast   Contribute to Pornfree Radio in 2018! I’m committed to publishing new Pornfree Radio episodes every Wednesday through the end of 2018.  And over 35 listeners, just like you, have committed to Pornfree Radio this year. Join us. Set Up Your Pledge Now