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Our culture would have us believe that all we can’t fully enjoy life if we choose recovery. But the opposite is true. When we put the proper boundary on porn and our addictions, we get access to the rest of life. In this virtually coaching session, we talk about how you can begin to design a kick-ass life. Podcasts Mentioned: * PFR 186 – Success Comes From 50% Recovery Work And 50% Kicking Ass In Life * PFR 006 – Life After Porn Addiction: The Good Stuff * PFR 173 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 1: Six Human Needs * PFR 174 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 2: What Gets Scheduled Is What Gets Done * PFR 175 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 3: Accountability As Ownership * PFR 205 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 4: How Our Excuses Reveal Our Beliefs Want to get an invite to an exclusive 1-on-1 coaching experience with me? Send an email to matt@recoveredman.com with the subject “Coaching.”

Do you have an idea of some actions you should take in recovery? Or is there a behavior that you know you need to eliminate? What’s stopping you? In this virtual coaching session, I explain how our excuses reveal our beliefs. Podcasts Mentioned: * PFR 173 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 1: Six Human Needs * PFR 174 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 2: What Gets Scheduled Is What Gets Done * PFR 175 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 3: Accountability As Ownership Want to get an invite to an exclusive 1-on-1 coaching experience with me? Send an email to matt@recoveredman.com with the subject “Coaching.”

I have a stack of emails today and I’m answering your questions… * What’s the best way to tell my girlfriend about a relapse? * Is a realistic goal to abstain from masturbation when there is no relationship in sight? * What do I do if I have blue balls? * Have you heard about the new minimalist phones? * What if my primary way of acting out is not porn? * Can you talk about the science of neurological dependency on PFR? * Should I tell my accountability about the massage parlor? * Can you help me understand my horrific, porn withdrawal experience?   1-on-1 Coaching Interested in having a custom coaching experience with me? Send an email to matt@recoveredman.com with the subject “Coaching.”

Recently I was dealt a crushing blow. Because of a flight cancelation, I went from having a first class ticket to a middle seat in the back of the plane. On this episode, we talk about dealing with disappointment and why we feel what we focus on. I learned this from a 2018 Tony Robbins’s interview. After a disappointment, I suffer due to 3 triggers: Loss The feeling that I have lost something. I lost an opportunity. I lost that moment. I lost respect. Less Because of what happened, I now have less of what I value. Less love, less joy, less energy, less money. Never Because of what happened, I will never have… That love, that joy, that goal, that need met, that thing I really wanted. In the past, these triggers led straight to porn. My feelings took over. I tried to desperately gain what was lost. I felt entitled to binge or indulge. I was hopeless that things would never change. “But the way out,” Tony says. “Is appreciation, gratitude, and love.” “We feel what we focus on.” It’s impossible to feel gratitude and anger at the same time. Or appreciation and envy. We choose what we focus on. Watch the full interview here: https://jeffwalker.com/my-talk-with-tony Skip to 35:30 in the video.   New REV Groups Forming Connect with other guys on the journey. New groups forming… Late Night Tuesdays (10:30 PM ET) and Tuesday Day Group (3 PM ET)  – Perfect for guys with flexible schedules or located in Europe, the Middle East, and Africa.) Don’t do this alone. Spots are available now. Apply now

My interview with Jay Stringer, author of Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing. The choice of unwanted sexual behavior is never accidental. There is always a reason. Your path to freedom from unwanted sexual behavior begins with finding the unique reasons behind yours. ” — Jay Stringer Unwanted * Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by Jay Stringer (Amazon affiliate link) * Leave an Amazon Review More from Jay Stringer * Jay Stringer Website * Unwanted Sexual Behavior Assessment * Journey Into the Heart of the Man (video course) New REV Groups Forming Connect with other guys on the journey. New groups forming… Late Night Tuesdays (10:30 PM ET) and Tuesday Day Group (3 PM ET)  – Perfect for guys with flexible schedules or located in Europe, the Middle East, and Africa.) Don’t do this alone. Spots are available now. Apply now

Today’s episode is about being kind to yourself, having compassion, and finding self-care. New REV Groups Connect with other guys on the journey. New groups forming… Late Night Tuesdays (10:30 PM ET) and Tuesday Day Group (3PM ET)  – Perfect for guys with flexible schedules or located in Europe, the Middle East, and Africa.) Don’t do this alone. Spots are available now. Apply now

  Superfan, Jon Jones, interviews Matt in a special show to celebrate 200 episodes of Porn Free Radio. A previous version of this podcast had some audio drop-outs. Please redownload and enjoy! Podcast Mentioned: * PFR 113 – Becoming the type of man that does not look at porn pt. 1 * PFR 189 – Becoming the type of man that does not look at porn pt. 2 * PFR 179 –  Flow   Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz Work with me 1-on-1 or join REV group coaching. Take action by filling out my short application and let’s get started. Apply Now  

Gentlemen, we’re not alone in this. In this episode, we break down the ingenious PFR theme created by Adam the producer. Warning: I do rap in this episode. Resources: * PFR 115 – Warning: Matt Gets Fired Up * PFR 155 – Overcoming Addiction * PFR 162 – Mind Playing Tricks On Me * PFR 164 – Decrease the Hesitation Gentlemen… * Download the PFR Theme (feat. Matt Dobschuetz)  Contribute to Porn Free Radio Support PFR and get exclusive access to Coffee with the Dobber. Each week in 2019, you’ll get a behind the scenes look at Porn Free Radio. Plus what I am learning from writing my first book and getting physically healthy. Set Up Your Pledge Now

The first step in recovery is exposure, whether it’s from getting caught or getting courage. The exposure helps us press into honesty. In this episode, we talk about why we avoid exposure and the gifts of being known. Support Porn Free Radio Contribute to Porn Free Radio and get exclusive access to Coffee with the Dobber. Each week in 2019, you’ll get a behind the scenes look at Porn Free Radio. Plus what I am learning from writing my first book and getting physically healthy. Set Up Your Pledge Now

We draw big conclusions from the type of we’ve looked at. Feelings like we are unique. We are disgusting or abnormal. But these are tricks of our ego to keep us stuck. Resources * Coffee with Dobber Podcast on Patreon  * Walking Through Lonlieness by Pastor Renée Cunningham (5/5/2019) * The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks (Amazon link)   Support Porn Free Radio Contribute to Porn Free Radio and get exclusive access to Coffee with the Dobber. Each week in 2019, you’ll get a behind the scenes look at Porn Free Radio. Plus what I am learning from writing my first book and getting physically healthy. Set Up Your Pledge Now

John Wick is a man of focus, commitment, and sheer f—ing will… ” In today’s episode, I share what we can learn about recovery from the John Wick saga. Coffee With Dobber Exclusive Podcast Contribute to Porn Free Radio and get exclusive access to Coffee with the Dobber. Each week in 2019, you’ll get a behind the scenes look at Porn Free Radio. Plus what I am learning from writing my first book and getting physically healthy. Set Up Your Pledge Now

It’s confession time on Porn Free Radio. My sobriety is intact, but I have been struggling with a mistaken belief in two areas of my life. And it’s time to come clean…

In today’s episode, I open the PFR mailbox and answer your questions. Questions: * How do you rebound after edging? * What’s the connection between porn addiction and depression/anxiety? * Matt, I was referred to an addiction specialist and now my wife thinks I am beyond help. * What can I tell my wife to convince her that being married to porn addict isn’t stupid? * How to talk your kids about porn and your own addiction? * How to deal with isolation while studying? * And a crazy topic, I have never discussed on Porn Free Radio. Click here to join my newsletter  

In the second of 2 episodes, Matt finishes our discussion on the book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, by Cal Newport. If you missed Pt. 1, go back and listen to episode 192. Resources: * Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport (book) * PFR 114 – Smart Phones, Smart TVs, and Whatever Comes Next (podcast) The book links on this page to Amazon.com are affiliate links. Meaning if you make a purchase, I will earn a commission at no additional cost to you.

In the first of 2 episodes, Matt digs into the book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, by author and Computer Science professor, Cal Newport. Resources: * Din Tai Fung USA (soup dumpling restaurant) * Profit First by Mike Michalowicz (book) * PFR 50 : The Real Scandal Behind Ashley Madison  (podcast) * Deep Work by Cal Newport (book) * Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport (book) The book links on this page to Amazon.com are affiliate links. Meaning if you make a purchase, I will earn a commission at no additional cost to you.