The Overwhelmed Brain show

The Overwhelmed Brain

Summary: Anxiety, depression, fears, obsession, panic, or any relationship, marriage or family issues, this show will help you achieve less stress and more happiness. Become empowered and honor yourself so that you can make decisions that are right for you. Mindfulness, compassion and being in the present moment are only components of a bigger picture. Live authentically and strengthen your emotional intelligence to avoid emotional abuse. Get to the root of emotional issues with solid relationship advice and personal help. If affirmations don't work and you're tired of being told to "think positively!", start listening to this show for a better life.

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  • Artist: Paul Colaianni
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 Freeze instead of fight or flight - Learning what didn't work with the ex - Healing the hole in your heart | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 01:07:29

Do you freeze when you get stressed? Learn what you can do to stop the freeze before it happens. What didn't work in your last relationship that you can take with you into your next one? These questions will help you become wise for the future. If you suffered a breakup and you feel that emptiness inside, you may have a hole in your heart that needs to be filled. I'll help you start to rebuild what's missing so that you can start to heal your emotional wounds.

 The abuse victim's perspective - Step-parents and step-children - When honoring yourself leads to loneliness | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 01:16:25

Why don't abuse victims leave the relationship? I talk about the perspective of the abuse victim and no matter how much sense it makes to us for them to leave the abuser, it's an entirely different reality for the victim.   How can step-parents connect and relate to step-children? It may involve being less of a parent and more of a friend.   During the close I address what happens when you honor yourself. Who you thought were friends might disappear from your life but there's so much more to gain.

 Keeping Your Relationship from Slipping into Dysfunction | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 01:08:32

If you've had ups and downs with your relationship and you're ready to keep it on track so it doesn't start slipping back down, I'll tell you ten steps you can take to make sure it stays healthy and continues to blossom.

 Stonewalling - Expectations of friends - Emotional abuse follows you - Get away to get closer to people | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 01:03:26

Stonewalling is damaging to a relationship and can make it fail if whatever is shut down is never brought up to be resolved.   Do you set expectations in your friendships? Should friendships be an equal, two-way street? It doesn’t have to be - not exactly.   Is there a way to get into healthy relationships after being in emotionally abusive ones? Very important question.   What's the best way to connect with people? Find fewer and get away from the crowds.

 How to feed your brain - Why do abusers abuse? - Too scared to be in a relationship - Everything is temporary | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 01:12:13

The more you expose yourself to new things, the smarter you get and the more your thought processes change. Why does one abuse? This important segment will help you understand the perspective of the one who abuses.    How can you enjoy your relationship if you can't stop thinking it may fail in the future? Worries about tomorrow can make the present feel not as good as it should.   Everything is temporary. The bad stuff and the good stuff, but it gets better as you get through the bad stuff.

 Guilt stops growth - Dad's new girlfriend - Enabling the freeloader | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 58:41

When you feel guilty for wanting to leave your partner because of their bad behavior, it's time to transform that guilt into something more productive. What happens when you lose a parent and the one left behind wants to date again? Is this something you support or are vehemently against? Do you live with someone taking advantage of you? Are you their doormat hoping they'll change some day? Maybe that day is today.

 Those "think positively" people - Little problems that lead to explosive reactions - What is a toxic person? | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 01:08:20

Positive thinking leads to denial which creates negative emotions in your body eventually leading to depression. What? Sounds like a great first topic. Little spats in a relationship that lead to massive blowups have an origin. Unspoken words are what cause those big explosions. It's time to connect emotionally rather than logically to diffuse the emotional bombs before they explode.   What is toxic? Do we call people toxic just to avoid our own personal growth? A listener challenges me on the topic.

 Mother treats me badly - Early warning signs in relationships - You are not that - Bypassing intuition | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 01:07:00

Mom criticizes her, makes her feel unworthy, yet this listener still wants a relationship.   What happens when there are warning signs at the beginning of your relationship but you ignore them?   Do you change for someone else to keep them in your life or do you want to attract the person that accepts who you really are?   Bypassing your instincts in favor of guilt could be a dangerous path into denial (maybe even betrayal). Following your instincts may lead to a truth you don't want to know.

 When "I Know" prevents healing - How to be a safe partner - When others bypass your intuition | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 56:03

When you are so knowledgeable about your problems, you may have a tendency to be closed off to the solution. The "I know" syndrome can keep you from finding out the root of your emotional distress.   When your partner can't seem to trust you completely and holds back their emotions around you, there is something you can do to meet them where they are.   Do other people help you bypass your own intuition? It's time to take back control of life by knowing when to trust: "something doesn't feel right".

 The no-win conversation - Lashing out at others - Blame the cheater not yourself | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 01:05:47

Does your partner corner you into a no-win situation? Do they ask you questions that make you wrong no matter what you say? I share how to avoid and get out of the double binds that show up in your relationship. Where does lashing out come from? It's time to get a grasp on what's happened in your past. Who's responsible for the cheating? Are you ever the cause for your partner's cheating ways? If you think you are, you need to listen to the closing segment carefully.

 Success via stress - Never too old - judging others when you do the same thing - The guilt of the infidel | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 58:10

Is succeeding in a stressful way better than not succeeding? Creating a deadline with accountability keeps you on task and even makes you more creative. It's never too late to honor yourself. She did so with a toxic family member and is now starting a new way of life without his involvement. Do you judge others for things that you do yourself? Is it ever good to judge the behavior of others when you do the very same behavior? A wife cheats then lays her guilt on her husband making him feel worse.

 Obsessing about people - Can your marriage heal if you grow - Online shaming | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 01:18:14

Obsessing about those you want in your life. What can you do? There may be a way out of obsessive thoughts and behavior. Can your relationship survive if you heal and grow but your partner is toxic? I read an email from someone in a manipulative relationship. During the close of the show I talk about Justine Sacco and how her life was ruined because of a misunderstood joke on Twitter. Public shaming takes the stage in this segment.

 See me, Judge me - Is your opinion really that important?- Stop Oversharing - What is No Contact? | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 01:30:34

Standing up for your boundaries can have the consequence of being called out. I address a criticism from a listener who calls me out. Can someone with a fear of abandonment be in a romantic relationship with someone who has a fear of commitment? I help a listener consider decode this. Oversharing is a big problem in one listener's life, causing all kinds of boundary violations for her. Time to change that! I end the show talking about what it takes to go full no-contact from a abusers.

 Trusting Your Gut - Can You Reconcile with Someone You've Hurt - Making Decisions Easier | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 01:11:05

Do you trust your gut? Do you want to? I tell you how in this first segment where I share how I almost got conned by a store clerk. In segment two, high school sweethearts get married then divorced ten years later. After a lot of emotional abuse and healing, he wants her back but she's not ready. Is reconciliation possible? In closing I tell you how to make decisions that allow you to do some time traveling so that you can get an idea of how you'll feel after making them or not.

 Blaming Others for Everything - Does time heal? - The overworking ADD partner - Hanging up on family | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 01:19:13

You will get the results you want as soon as you accept responsibility for your role in every problem in your life. Segment 2 talks about how almost every relationship issue you have with others is what needs nurturing in you. In segment 3 I read a letter from someone who is sick around her partner who has ADD and ignores her most of the time. During the close of the show I talk about the best way to handle the continuously criticizing family member.

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