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 Fear of Intimacy in Relationships | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 21:21

Many Christians and non-Christian, single or married,  suffer from what we call fear of intimacy in relationships.  Wearing a mask is not God’s idea of being transparent and vulnerable. Fear of Intimacy in Relationships for Christians Unfortunately, many of us walk around not “being” the person God has called us to be because we fear other people getting close enough to see the real us. When we do this, we not only cheat ourselves out the fulfilling relationships Jesus wants to have with others, but we also impede our relationship with God Himself. The good news is today’s message at Oasis-Church-NJ.com by David Butler addresses how to overcome the fear of intimacy in relationships Overcoming Loneliness in Relationships Insecurity in Relationships-Christian Dating Christian Podcasts Christian Dating Service

 Single Parents and Prodigals | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 26:31

We already mentioned how difficult it is to be a Christian single parent. Being a single parent of a prodigal son or daughter is even more difficult. Our following single parenting podcast takes a biblical look on how parents should deal wit their prodigal kids. Single Christian Parenting Category Other Singles Podcast: Christian Singles  Relationship Advice Christian Podcasts Christian Dating Service

 Love, Sex and the Bible: Christian Dating Podcast | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 33:50

Love, Sex and the Bible. These are topics nearly all Christian singles find most interesting. Well, we have good news, This week Dave Butler, the  founder and pastor of Oasis Singles, brings us  our Christian dating podcast featuring the message, “Love, Sex and the Bible”. Today we will be in the Song of Songs, which has a whole lot to say about courtship, love and sex.  While some scholars feel this scripture (it was really a song) is allegorical, most feel it is describing a real life love relationship. This ,message took place at Rutgers.Church. church church filled with college aged Christian singles. Love, Sex and the Bible: Christian Singles Dating Podcast! By the way, each week Christian Dating Service PLUS AKA Oasis Singles will be featuring a different podcast/MP3 with Christian singles messages, music or video from churches and Christian singles groups from all over the world. “Love, Sex and the Bible is just one of many that I invite you to listen to. Every week we reach thousands of Christian singles, so if you want your church’s or Christian singles group’s message, song or video podcasted on our site, please get in touch. Are you a single person with something to share about the Christian dating podcast, Love, Sex and the Bible? Related Articles: Marriage Builder Tips for Healthy Relationships Christian Singles, Singleness and Marriage Christian Podcasts  Christian Dating Service

 I Feel Lonely Podcast for Singles | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 33:40

Do you ever get the “I feel lonely’ blues? Although surrounded by people I still feel lonely at certain times. The fact is there are many lonely hearts out in the world: Lonely single moms, lonely men, lonely teens. As singles loneliness and feeling lonely are all part of the territory. Worse yet, as we approach Christmas, dealing with the holiday blues as singles often means fighting that “I feel lonely” and empty feeling. How to Deal with Loneliness the I Feel Lonely Thinking I have to say that this Christian podcast on loneliness from Matt Chandler of the Village Church is a great start toward fighting those I feel lonely blues. How do you deal with the I feel lonely feelings? Christian Podcasts Christian Dating Service

 Purposeful Living-Finding Your Purpose as a Single Christian | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 35:40

Looking for Purposeful living? Whether single or married, most all people desire to find purpose, to discover where they “fit in” to this thing we call life. It’s so sad that there are so many people out there who are not living with purpose, and have no reason to get up each morning. Would you fall into this category? Purposeful Living  and Finding Your Shape The great news today is that God created each of us for a mission in this world. He has given each of us a unique SHAPE. What we mean by this is that He has given each of us special gifts and talents that He wants us to use for Him and others. Guess what? When we find our SHAPE and live by it, we find that elusive purpose and joy we v’e been yearning for our entire lives. Purposeful Living Podcast Oasis Singles  is proud to bring you today’s Christian podcast from Pastor Nelson Nelson Searcy the Journey Church on the subject of finding your SHAPE for a purposeful life. I guarantee you’ll get alot out of it. Looking for a new church in New Jersey where you can use your gifts and talents? Why not check out Oasis Church NJ, a new and upcoming contemporary Christian Church serving Union, Morris, Essex and Somerset Counties. Go to our site for times and directions. Riots and Christian Singles How God Restores People Christian Podcasts Christian Dating Sites

 Codependency Relationships and Christian Singles | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 23:24

Are you in a codependent  dating relationship? Whether you are a Christian single or not,  codependent relationships can happen to anyone. What qualifies for a codependent relationship?  If you are in a codependent relationship you will feel like  that famous 60’s song line: ” Can’t live, if living is without you…” In addition to those feelings, another sign of a codependent relationship in dating is that the one or both daters will be seeking constant approval from the other, and feel worthless if they don’t receive it.  Having a codependent relationship means that you feel you cannot live without this person and seek constant approval towards you actions. Avoiding Codependent Relationships If you are a single Christian interested in avoiding codependent relationships, try the following: * Allow for time away from your date in order to develop your own self worth and value.  If you have to spend every waking hour with the other person, you are in a codependent relationship. * Never stay in a dating relationship out of fear of being alone * Never stay in a relationship with someone who has struck you…even once. People stay in abusive dating relationships due to codependency. * Allow your closest friends and family members to objectively examine whether you are with the other person because you “want to” or because you “need to”. If you are in a dating relationship with that other Christian single person because of the latter, this is a codependent dating relationship, and needs to be terminated if you wish to avoid future pain. Overall, codependent relationship are always  unhealthy, and impede personal and interpersonal growth. However, if you practice the above points, you will go a long way toward avoiding a painful codependent relationships. Christian Dating Advice Christian Podcasts Christian Dating Service

 Contentment in Singleness: Why You Should Avoid Comparing Yourself to Others | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 35:36

Are you content in the single life? Do you compare yourself to others? Our podcast for the day just on this subject.  Contentment in singleness is a real gift. So how much contentment do you have living this Christian single life? Does your single life consist of daily drudgery, loneliness and boredom, or do you live with joyful contentment and a positive expectation of what today may bring? If we were honest, most of us would say it’s pretty much a “mixed bag” of both extremes. Contentment in Singleness Story Recently I spoke with one of my single Christian friends. She stated earlier that day she had experienced lots of contentment, just lounging in her backyard, and worshiping the Lord for all the beauty around her. Yet, less than four hours later as she was walking on the boardwalk with friends, the mere sight of a dating couple walking hand in hand caused all that contentment to ooze out of her. As my single friend recounted the incident she stated: “I immediately started getting these negative thoughts like, ‘What could he possibly see in her?’ and ‘It’s just not fair; when is my turn coming?’ I started the day in such a contented mood; I returned home that evening a discontented and depressed single woman, thinking I was doomed to be a childless old maid.” Does this sound familiar? In the Scriptures Paul writes: “Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content”. (Phil. 4:11) Hello? The guy was in jail when he wrote this. Is that remarkable or what? So just what does it mean to be content? The gist of this word means to have a sense of sufficiency and contentment with one’s lot, regardless of external circumstances. Wow! I wish could I could have the kind of contentment Paul spoke of, but too often I allow circumstances to choke it out of me. Like my single friend with her story, many Christian singles, men and women alike, also tend to struggle in this area as they wait on the Lord for a mate. When we don’t see anything happening externally, we fret and worry. Yet, our Lord desires us not to react to every single twist and turn of life, but to proactively step out in faith, expecting His grace to be sufficient for us. Contentment and Single Life Tips If contentment is a touchy issue for you, here are some practical points that may help: Don’t compare what others have, or what they are doing. In John 21, Peter made this mistake when he looked at John’s life. “Hey, Lord, How about this guy?” Jesus’ response? “Don’t worry about John. You follow me.” When we stick close to Jesus, and stay focused on Him, He’ll take care of your every need. Be thankful in all circumstances (1Thes. 5:18) It’s really simple:You can’t have discontentment and be thankful at the same time. Remember, contentment in singleness  is a learned response. (Phil 4:11) It’s a mindset you need to practice, so don’t beat yourself up when you fall. It didn’t happen over night for Paul, it won’t happen for you. Are you a Christian single with something to share about contentment and the single life. Help other singles by making a comment. Related Posts: Single Christian Parenting Christian Dating and Waiting on God Christian Podcasts

 Christian Dating Without Losing Your Brain | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 31:37

Don’t you just love that title? I do. Christian dating without losing your brain. Now there’s a novel thought. How many Christian dating singles have acted irrationally in pursuit of their perfect date? From Christian single girls who date bad guys, to dating mistakes by both guys and girls, it seems many need a little help in this area. And it’s especially the case with internet dating. Well. here’s some good news: in our Christian dating podcast of the month, Pastor Bob Gibson, of the Vineyard Church in Ithaca, NY, delivers a message entitled, you guess it, Christian Dating Without Losing Your Brain. Enjoy! Oh yeah, this Christian dating message has a musical intro of 40 seconds, so be patient.

 Finding the One |Find the Right Person | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 42:18

Looking for or finding the “one, that special soul mate you wish to spend life with can be a tedious experience, especially if you’ve been through a couple of bad Christian dating relationships that have left you heart broken, burnt out or rejected. Finding true love is never easy, but the things in life that are worthwhile are worth the investment of time and effort. In today’s Christian podcast, Pastor Randy Smith of Discovery Church in Vorhees, NJ, discusses how we can have hope  as single Christians in the process of finding that one soulmate you’ve been looking for to share that special Christian dating relationship leading to marriage. Overall, whether you’re waiting on God at home or actively pursuing a dating relationship through online Christian dating services such as eHarmony, you will definitely get something out of this message entitled, “Looking for the One”. Enjoy!   What is a Soulmate Christian Podcasts Christian Dating Service

 First Kiss Tips for Christians | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 33:16

Who can forget that first kiss? Remember? I know some of us have yet to experience that first kiss but be patient. A first kiss is well worth the wait if done at the right time, place and way. Many unbelievers and not a few single Christian singles may be surprised to find first kiss tips in the Bible. Fact is one of the most romantic love songs ever, the Song of Solomon, speaks about the thrill of that first kiss and the first signs of attraction between and man and a woman. Listen, you can never go wrong if you follow the Lord’s way to kissing and romance. First Kiss Tips Podcasts Our church singles podcast of the week, “The Adventure of Attraction and the First Kiss” comes from Emmanuel Baptist Church in Danville, Kentucky (KY). I hope you enjoy this biblical message on kissing and attraction. By the way Christian Dating Service Plus! now has a FREE singles forum where you can connect for fellowship, penpals and more. We set up the forum where you can send started it this week so get in on the ground floor now by registering and filling out yopersonal messages or just post whatever you want, including first kiss tips…LOL. We justur profile with text and a pic and introducing yourself in the forum. Remember you are 14 times more likely to get contacted back with a picture. Enjoy! Have first kiss tips for single Christians? Christian-Dating Service

 Christian Single Sex Addicts Anonymous | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 38:23

Know any Christian single sex addicts? Perhaps they may need sex addicts anonymous? Fact of the matter is if we believe what George Barna writes about the sexual practices of Christians, there are probably many sex addicts in the church who could use a good sex addicts anonymous small group. .For crying out loud, a few years back Focus on the Family estimated that 25% of Christian ministers were sex addicts, addicted to stuff like internet porn and masturbation. Many of these folks have suffered in much pain, shame and guilt, feeling they had no where to dump the burdens of their hearts. Sex Addicts and Christian Singles The great thing about a Christian singles site is that many can share their deepest sex secrets without worrying that they will be scorned. It’s a sad and despicable thing that most churches don’t provide this kind of environment, but just sweep the topic of sex addicts under the rug, making believe the problem is not even in existence. This behavior only encourages singles to hide their own desperate state instead of seeking help in a sex addicts anonymous program. If we as a church really want to shine for Jesus, we need to be transparent to the world, scars and all. Let it all hang out (no pun intended) and let people see what God’s amazing forgiveness and grace is all about. Having dabbled in pornography myself I am familiar with the vicious cycle of the sex addict: Excitement-Guilt-Despair, but also of the way to victory in this area that is literally eating the heart and soul out of the next generation of single Christians. Sex Addicts Christian Podcast Our Christian podcast on sex addicts breaks the mold of what we usually find in most churches and I am thankful for men of God like Pastor Steve Nicholson, of the Vineyard Christian Church of Evanston Illinois (IL) for his sharing. This message on this difficult topic will be sure to help many singles languishing alone in their pain and loneliness. Sex Addicts Signs Are you a sex addict? Rate yourself on these questions: * Do you feel like you’ve lost the ability to control your sex life (went over boundary lines you know you should not have, unable to stop sexual acting out even though you confessed them to God and made promises to Him)? * Is your risky sexual behavior causing your life to be effected negatively in other areas of like health, work, church, present relationships or the law * Do you obsess or dwell over sexual activity even when you try not to? * Do you keep secrets about your sex life fom the closest people in your life? Or would you say you are living a double life? If you answered yes to any of the above you need help for a possible sexual addiction. Related to sex addicts: * Great Sex Tips for Christians * Sex Confessions * Homosexuality, the Bible and Singles * Self Control and the Single Christian Life * Sex as Intimate Communication *

 How To Be Rich as Christian Singles | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 1:02:06

Wondering how to be rich? Did you know Christian singles  worry more about money than relationships? That’s crazy but true.   In most Christian dating relationships, money issues can cause lots of problems!  Even if we try not to worry about money, it can still find a way to sneak into many different areas of our lives to create stress and even cause relationship problems. How to Be Rich as Singles Podcast  This week our speaker speaks out of 1 Timothy – the first week of a series called “How To Be Rich”  Whether you are  a Christian single in a Christian dating relationship, or married, you will find this weeks message to be encouraging and helpful.  The most important thing to remember is that with Christ, you are rich and financial problems or not, He will provide you with everything you need and more!  It’s all about letting go and putting your trust in Him alone! Christian  Podcasts For Christian dating articles, advice, and online dating service reviews check out  Christian Dating Service

 Single Woman Seeking Man | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 49:23

Are you a single woman seeking a man? Many single women are seeking a man for a serious Christian dating relationship leading toward marriage. There is certainly no lack of Christian relationship advice out there for single women seeking a man. But doesn’t it make sense that one of the first logical steps for attracting the right guy to date would be understanding what Christian guys actually need and want in a wife? Single Woman Seeking Man Podcast Some people feel the best way to man’s heart is not just food; but to understand what exactly a man is looking for in a relationship. In other words to find his love language. In today’s Christian podcast, from Concord Baptist Church in St. Louis, Missouri (MO), Pastor Bob Werner brings a message entitled, “What Men Want.” This is some good advice for both Christian single men and single women seeking a man. Are you a Christian single with advice for single women seeking a man? Christian Podcasts Christian Dating Service

 Lonely Holidays | Holidays Make Me Feel Lonely | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 37:40

Lonely Holidays and singleness often go hand in hand. Are you single, lonely, and just dreading the upcoming holiday season because they are depressing? I know holidays make me feel lonely.   If you are also in this category of being single and hating the holiday season, you’re not alone. Lonely Holidays Podcast Loneliness during the holidays is tough. The following Christian podcast is our Oasis singles Christmas Eve service. It’s very apropos for those feeling lonely and sad at Christmas. The first few minutes will have a a couple of songs. The message that follows will be very encouraging to singles that struggle with a sense of failure and discouragement  during the holidays. Do you have tips to help those struggling with lonely holidays? Christian Podcasts Redeemed Singles Podcast Christian Dating  Service  

 How to Forgive a Cheater | Forgiving Dating Cheaters | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 40:28

Learning how to forgive a cheater is one of the most difficult things in life. When I was a Family Court  mediator teaching how to forgive was one of the most important things we taught Yea, that includes learning how to forgive a jerk, abuser or user. Why? Learning how to forgive speeds the healing process, and prepares for future, healthy boyfriend/girlfriend dating relationships. Conversely, a lack of forgiveness brings bitterness and additional suffering. How to Forgive  a  Cheater Podcast Don Henley of Eagles fame sings about the need for forgiving and forgiveness in his song by the same name. Yet, some Christian singles simply do not want to forgive others for past hurts. Instead of making peace with the past, they prefer to hold grudges. But as our Christian podcast of the week speaker states: “Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and hoping the other person who hurt us gets sick.” What about those folks who want to forgive, but are confused as to what that means or how to actually forgive a past hurt? I do believe the following Church podcast on learning how to forgive a cheater will minster to you, and answer all questions in this difficult area. In closing, I would really hate to leave this topic without speaking to those who are desperate for forgiveness and are living with intense guilt. If you don’t know God offers you total forgiveness and brand new start in life, please read how you can have forgiveness and peace with Him right now. Have a forgive me poem or something to share about learning how to forgive a cheater? Christian Podcasts Christian Dating Service

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