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 How to Stop Masturbating: A Christian Singles Perspective | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 4:27

Wondering how to stop masturbating? In a world where the conversation around sexual purity and personal habits is often challenging to navigate, single Christians seeking to honor their faith while grappling with the natural tendencies of human sexuality can find themselves at a crossroads. Masturbation, a subject shrouded in taboo and often guilt, becomes a pivotal point of internal conflict. This article aims to shed light on how single Christians can approach the topic of masturbation with grace, understanding, and practical steps toward overcoming it. Understanding Masturbation in the Christian Context Masturbation is rarely discussed openly in Christian circles, leading many to struggle in silence. The Bible does not explicitly mention masturbation, leaving room for interpretation and personal conviction. However, the guiding principles of purity, self-control, and honoring God with one’s body (1 Corinthians 6:19-20) provide a framework for evaluating personal habits, including masturbation. Recognizing the Underlying Issues Often, the act of masturbation is not just about sexual gratification but is intertwined with deeper issues such as loneliness, stress, boredom, or the need for comfort. Addressing these root causes is a crucial step towards overcoming the habit. Engaging in prayer, meditation, and seeking counsel can help unearth and confront these underlying emotions in a healthy and constructive manner. Cultivating Healthy Outlets Redirecting energy and focus toward positive and productive activities can significantly reduce the temptation to masturbate. Whether it’s pursuing hobbies, physical exercise, volunteering, or deepening spiritual practices, finding meaningful outlets is essential. These activities not only enrich personal life but also build a sense of accomplishment and self-worth that goes beyond momentary pleasures. Accountability and Community One of the most powerful tools in overcoming any challenge is the support of a compassionate and understanding community. Seeking accountability partners or joining support groups within the church can provide the encouragement and perspective needed to navigate this journey. Sharing struggles with trusted friends or mentors who can offer prayer, advice, and accountability can make a significant difference in maintaining a commitment to purity. Embracing Grace and Forgiveness The journey towards overcoming masturbation, like any process of personal growth, is marked by setbacks and victories. It’s crucial to remember that God’s grace is sufficient in weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9), and His mercy is new every morning (Lamentations 3:22-23). Practicing self-forgiveness and embracing God’s forgiveness are foundational to moving forward without being paralyzed by guilt or shame. Practical Steps to Avoid Temptation * Set Clear Boundaries: Identifying triggers and setting boundaries around media consumption, internet use, and even certain social interactions can help avoid situations that might lead to temptation. * Cultivate a Prayerful Life: Strengthening one’s relationship with God through prayer, Scripture reading, and worship can fortify the spirit against temptations. * Maintain a Healthy Lifestyle: Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep can improve overall well-being and reduce the urge to seek comfort in masturbation. * Seek Professional Help: For some, the struggle with masturbation may be tied to deeper psychological or emotional issues. Consulting with a Christian counselor or therapist can provide professional guidance and strategies for overcoming the habit. Conclusion to How to stop masturbation Overcoming masturbation as a single Christian is a journey that requires compassion, self-awareness, and a commitment to spiritual growth. By addressing the root causes, seeking support,

 How to Deal With Stress as a Single Christian | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 44:19

How to deal with stress while being single is a much talked about topic among singles whether they Christian or pagan. Stress is in fact one of the biggest “joy robbers” of singles. In our fast-paced, ever-evolving world, stress seems to be a constant companion. From juggling work deadlines to managing home responsibilities, it’s easy to become overwhelmed. As Christians, however, we have a unique toolset to cope with these challenges. This article delves into practical and spiritually oriented methods […] The post How to Deal With Stress as a Single Christian appeared first on Christian Dating Service | Singles Advice. Related posts: Christian Debt Consolidation for Single Christians How to Deal with Loneliness as a Single Christian How to Deal with Rejection as a Single Christian Managing Transition-Making the Most of Change as Christian Singles Stress Reducers for Single Parents

 Christian Dating Advice for Men Seeking Marriage | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 37:16

Looking for Christian dating advice for men seeking marriage? Are you a Single Christian guy looking for that perfect Christian single girl to marry? In the quest for love and companionship, Christian men seeking marriage often face unique challenges. In a world that often emphasizes superficial connections and casual relationships, it can be difficult to navigate the path of finding a life partner who shares the same values and faith. This article aims to provide comprehensive Christian dating advice to […] The post Christian Dating Advice for Men Seeking Marriage appeared first on Christian Dating Service | Singles Advice. Related posts: Christian Advice for Singles: Navigating Life and Relationships with Faith Free Online Dating Advice Podcast How to Prepare for Marriage: Christian Dating Tips Marriage Builders for Singles Podcast Single Woman Seeking Man

 Christian Debt Consolidation for Single Christians | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 30:56

Singles stress out over money, so that is why we are talking about Christian consolidation debt today. I meet a ton of Christian singles who would like to learn about Christian debt consolidation and ways of avoiding debt, but simply do not know where to begin, If you’re a single Christian burdened by debt, you’re not alone. It’s a common misconception that faith and finances don’t interconnect. Yet, the Bible contains more than 2,000 verses on money and possessions, demonstrating […] The post Christian Debt Consolidation for Single Christians appeared first on Christian Dating Service | Singles Advice. Related posts: Crown Financial Advice for Singles Debt Advice for Christian Singles Worried About Finances Online Dating Services for Single Christians Pornography, Nude Women and Christians Stress Reducers for Single Parents

 Debt Advice for Christian Singles Worried About Finances | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 35:24

After looking for a mate, getting some good financial  debt advice is next on the “to do” list for many Christian singles. For example, we get lots of folks looking for debt advice geared Christian single parents, or college aged singles looking to eliminate debt with their financial school loans. That’s right,, Christian singles worry more about getting some great financial debt advice than getting dating or relationship  advice. Can we be real here? Financial debt is a big turnoff to […] The post Debt Advice for Christian Singles Worried About Finances appeared first on Christian Dating Service | Singles Advice. Related posts: Christian Debt Consolidation for Single Christians Crown Financial Advice for Singles How To Be Rich as Christian Singles Managing Transition-Making the Most of Change as Christian Singles Singles Relationship Advice Podcast

 Singles Chat-Hope for Christian Singles | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 30:40

Singles Chat? No, by using the term “singlse chat” we are not talking about the many singles chat rooms out there on the internet. What we are referring to is single chat message for single Christians regarding the trials and tribulations of single life. In the fast-paced digital era, where communication happens at the speed of light, finding meaningful connections can be challenging, especially for Christian singles looking for like-minded partners Thankfully, the rise of online platforms, particularly Christian singles […] The post Singles Chat-Hope for Christian Singles appeared first on Christian Dating Service | Singles Advice. Related posts: Christian Chat Rooms for Christian Singles Chat Christian Speed Dating for Single Christians Meet Christian Singles Online Christian Dating or Courtship? Relationship Compatibility Test for Christian Singles

 How to Prepare for Marriage: Christian Dating Tips | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 1:01:24

As a Single Christian man or woman, are you curious about how to prepare for marriage? The process of preparing for marriage can be a mix of excitement and nervousness. As someone who’s been in your shoes, I totally get it! In this article, we’ll explore some practical tips to help you get ready for the adventure of a lifetime. How to get prepared for marriage Steps Know Your Identity  Before you can share your life with someone else, it’s […] The post How to Prepare for Marriage: Christian Dating Tips appeared first on Christian Dating Service | Singles Advice. Related posts: Christian Dating Advice for Men Seeking Marriage Dating Older or Younger Women and Men Dating Tips for the Christian Single Interpersonal Dating Relationship Tips Marriage Builder Tips For Healthy Relationships

 Learning How to Love Yourself as Christian Single | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: Unknown

Experts say that learning how to love yourself is essential if you are to find loving and committed relationships with others. Not being able to love yourself, you will never be able to love others the way you want them to love you. Unfortunately, many single Christian women and men have a difficult time loving themselves, and their dating or married relationships suffer for it. Are you wrestling with the blessing of singleness? Whether you’re a man or a woman, […] The post Learning How to Love Yourself as Christian Single appeared first on Christian Dating Service | Singles Advice. Related posts: How to Deal with Rejection as a Single Christian Making Room for Love-Relationship Fights Sexual Feelings of Christian Single Women Signs of True Love in a Christian Relationship What Christian Single Girls Want in a Guy

 Relationship Compatibility Test for Christian Singles | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 5:21

Lately I’ve been reading about relationship compatibility tests.  Just Google “relationship compatibility test” and you will get hundreds of sites where you can take a test. While most of these relationship compatibility  tests are bogus, there a few interests ones out there that test dating couple on the physical, emotional and spiritual levels In the quest for a meaningful and lasting romantic relationship, compatibility plays a pivotal role. For Christians seeking a partner who shares their faith and values, relationship […] The post Relationship Compatibility Test for Christian Singles appeared first on Christian Dating Service | Singles Advice. Related posts: Christian Speed Dating for Single Christians Communication Skills for Christian Dating Singles Compatibility Love Test-How Compatible Are You With Your Date? Dating the Wrong Date? Soul Mate Test-How To Make Sure You Don’t Marry a Loser

 Learning How to Argue and Fight | Fighting in Healthier Ways | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 42:27

The best dating tip we could give Christian singles is learning how to  argue and fight. That may sound like whacky dating advice unless you know that the top reason both dating and married couples break up is a lack of communication in the area of conflict-resolution. This is very important, so let me reiterate this dating advice a different way: Learning how to fight and argue successfully is the best way to a lasting and happy dating and/or married relationship. Why? Because conflict in this life is inevitable, so you better learn how to deal with it. Single Christians who never learn the art of fighting and arguing will most likely fail in any romantic dating relationship they enter. This is true whether they seek a soulmate through an online Christian dating service such as eHarmony, or any other way. Additionally, ever meet that dating perfect match who looked so good together, and claim they never argue or fight? Don’t believe it. That romance made in heaven will be headed south soon unless they acknowledge the reality of conflict and arguments, and learn how to fight. Whether you are a single person already dating or only hoping to, the following dating tips on learning how to argue and fight will be helpful: Learning How to Argue and Fight Dating Tip 1: Honestly and lovingly confront the problem, but leave out the personal attacks on your dating mate. If the argument or fight devolves into attacks on personhood, the battle (and possibly the dating relationship) has been lost. Adam did this in the Garden after God confronted him with the problem of eating forbidden fruit. Instead of honestly acknowledging the problem, he put personal blame on both Eve and God: “This woman you put here with me-she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate.” (Gen. 3:12) Honestly addressing conflict sometimes means swallowing our pride by admitting we are part of the problem. Ever wonder what God would have done if Adam honestly admitted his part? Dating Tip 2: Listen to what the other person is actually trying to communicate. That means having earnest eye to eye contact as you open up your ears and heart, because communication can take place verbally, by action or body language. So, it’s important that you understand all these forms. Many dating singles have a lack of communication in the area of conflict-resolution because they’re too busy thinking about their argument response rather than listening from the heart. Don’t forget there was a reason God (James 1:19) told us to be quick to listen,

 Single Moms Tips Podcast | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 35:43

Single Moms Tips Podcasts? Looking for Single Moms Tips? The church needs to know that single moms of all backgrounds, whether divorced or married, have great needs, and meeting those needs can be powerfully effective in showing the love of Jesus to those single moms and kids inside and outside the church. Single Moms TIPS Based on our own interviews with single moms, and listening to the myriad of single moms podcasts out there,  here are some of the top “single mom needs” out there: Finances and Money Saving Worries Single Moms tip for Legal Advice related to Family Court Issues (ie:Custody, Child Support Payments) Positive Male Role Models for the Kids Spiritual and Emotional Fellowship Positive Relationships with other Singles Help Around the House with Repairs Babysitting I’m sure other single moms could think of a dozen other “single moms tips”, but I think you get the point. Just think about the outreach possibilities to single moms in need. Here’s a problem though: Manny single moms, whether they be Christian single moms or unsaved, often feel it difficult to ask for help. That’s why the church needs to reach out to them with practical help. Single Moms TIPS Podcast Anyway, I found this Single Moms podcast called the Sisters Podcasts. Two Christian single women sharer a number of great single mom tips that I think both single women and men will enjoy.Have some single mom tips to shaere? Related to Single Moms: Christian Single Parents Christian Podcasts Christian Dating Service

 Free Online Dating Advice Podcast | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 37:48

Getting into a dating relationship is easier than ever since there are so many decent  free online dating advice sites out there, including, Christian dating advice sites like Oasis Singles.  However, keeping that dating relationship growing will be almost impossible without good conversation starter skills. Free Online Dating Advice On Listening Skills In fact, most couples, whether they are married or in a dating relationship, give lack of communication and listening as the major reason for breaking up. These relationships break down because the parties have forgotten or never learned how to listen to the each other. As someone who has done quite a bit of relationship mediation, the truth of the above staement can’t be overstated. That’s why our church podcast for this week centers on improving your dating relationship chances by learning how to listen to your partner. Pastor Bret Avlakeotes, of Spring Hills Community Church in Santa Rosa, California (CA), speaks from the James 1 on this topic sure to interest all Christian singles looking  for free online dating advice for a great Christian dating relationship. Related to Dating Advice: Dating Advice-Learning How to Argue and Fight Christian Podcasts Christian Dating Service

 Eros Dating and Christians | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 45:23

This week our Christian podcast is all about eros dating, sex and Christian singles. Sound interesting? Yeah, I thought so too!  Does eros have any place in Christian dating? Pastor Andre Wallis, of Bristol Vineyard in Horfield, Bristol, England, speaks on eros dating, sexual and relational brokenness in all types of relationships, including C dating. If you’re looking for some straight talk about your sex life in the context of Christian dating life, this is where to begin. Eros Dating Podcast Pastor Wallis’ message, entitled “Eros Dating Redeemed”, comes directly from the Song of Songs, one of the sexiest books of the Bible, and very much misunderstood. If you are a Christian single who has been affected by this eros dating message on sex and Christian dating, or you have another view, feel free to leave your comments. Bristol Vineyard may be contacted directly at Tel: 0117 3731414. Blessings! Related Articles on Eros Dating Sex and Singles: Sex as Intimate Communication Sex Life of Christian Singles Christian Singles and Sexual Impurity Masturbation and Christian Singles Christian Podcasts Christian Dating Service

 How to Deal with Bitterness as a Christian Single | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 45:29

Today we’re going to deal with bitterness as a Christian single. Many of us today are hiding a bitter spirit. Maybe some of us feel bitter and anger because we are still single. If you came here today feeling bitter because you are still single, you’re in good company. People are bitter about many things. The good news is that whatever junk is in your hearts, Jesus can change all that if you really want Him to. How to Deal With Bitterness as a ROOT Cause of All Sin I believe a root cause of all evil is a bitter heart.  What destroys relationships if not bitterness? It’s also bitterness that causes people to walk into a synagogue or a church or a movie theater and shoot it up.  Bitterness causes divorce and adultery. Why, you can trace a root of bitterness to absolutely every sin under creation. Dealing With Bitterness and Your Past A bitter person has a difficult time dealing with the past. I hear bitter people say things like this all the time: “Lord why did this person leave me?” “I can’t believe how my “ex” treated me. Now he’s found someone new, and I’m just stuck reliving  what went wrong. It’s not fair!” “Why did I get such a raw deal?!” How many of us have a hard time letting go over a past hurts, rejections and relationship issues? We are tortured by past hurts, and it makes us bitter.  Different Types of Bitterness Singles Face Just as there are many types of fruit, there are types of manifestations of  bitterness,. With that let me just say this: You can’t help what happens in your life, but you CAN help how you react. The Characteristics of Bitterness Bitterness is Deceptive. It’s deceptive on so many different levels. First of all, it’s hard to spot. We may be bitter and not even know it. Or others may be bitter against us, but we will not be able to spot it. Why? Because as the Scripture states, it’s a “ROOT of Bitterness that we must be careful to avoid. We can’t always see everything that meets the eye, even when it comes to our own heart. A bitter person ultimately is a person who holds a grudge against God. This was actually the devil’s first sin. He was self deceived. A bitter person feels he or she deserves better that what God is offering to them. That somehow God is holding back His best from them.  This is deception, and it’s exactly the form of deception the devil used on Eve in Genesis. Bitterness is Defiling.  If we refuse to deal with bitterness that has taken root deep in our souls, and perpetuated by a grudge holding, unforgiving spirit, we can ruin any hope for a joyful life and future successful relationships, romantic or platonic. Bitterness is really a form a pride, and that is why it’s so destructive. In fact, if you think carefully about it, it’s the same root of bitterness Satan had that caused him to challenge God. Bitterness is Duplicating. What do we mean by that? People who can’t deal with bitterness by rooting it out from their hearts, are bound to spread their poison, like Satan did, to others. Ever date a bitter person or family member? Well, you know how easily that spirit is spread to others. The Remedy for Bitterness The best way way to get rid of bitterness is to kill it with compassion. We must confess it to Lord, and have Him help us root out any remnant of bitterness: Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. 32 Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.  Eph 4:31,32 Are you a Single Christian who is struggling with bitterness?

 Dealing With Corona Fears and Social Distancing as Singles | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 20:39

Single people are used to being alone. But adding in Corona virus fears and social distancing could put a lot of us over the edge. Let’s face it, Zoom dating during a pandemic quarantine can only go so far.   For many singles who are not in a dating relationship, social groups and church involvement  are the primary places to get support and love. Dealing with Corona Fears Podcast What are singles’ major anxieties about COVID-19? After polling numerous singles, it turns out major concerns include finances, health, loneliness and fears that Jesus is gonna come back before the get married. In the following Christian singles podcast, Pastor Dave Butler at Oasis Church addresses this relevant issue.    


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