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Everyone is talking about the incident of family violence involving the 50 year old World Changers Mega Church Reverend Creflo Dollar and his 15 year old daughter. He allegedly choked her, punched her and inflicted a minor injury that the arresting officer noticed at the time of his assessment on the scene of the altercation. I will admit that since I wasn't there that I am not at liberty to say what happened, I will speculate the possibilities like everyone else is doing at this point because really that is ALL we can do! What makes this such a touchy issue is that Creflo Dollar is a man who hold a position in a church that is a highly visible establishment worldwide. Because of his stance on money (As well as his name, was he BORN with that last name? Somebody PLEASE help me!) and being classified by most as a prosperity preacher, his being locked up has brought out the worst in so many people in cyberspace judging from the comments that are so out there for the world to see. Many pretty much have rejoiced that he was locked up and I feel that it really wasn't because of the incident but because of the built up resentments prior to the arrest that many have against the flamboyance of those who are considered prosperity preachers. Yes, no matter what position one holds out in the world, these days with the many stresses and pressures that can rain down upon us unexpectedly we can sometimes overreact and bring undue attention to ourselves but I feel that when you are such a highly visible mega preacher who has so much to lose in a time when the economy is not at its best, you better walk a little more careful than most because the slightest infraction in your personal life is literally guaranteed to become front page news as this has within hours!  

Stalking is a term commonly used to refer to unwanted and obsessive attention by an individual or group to another person. Stalking behaviors are related to harassment and intimidation and may include following the victim in person and/or monitoring them. The word stalking is used, with some differing meanings, in psychology and psychiatry and also in some legal jurisdictions as a term for a criminal offense. “Virtually any unwanted contact between two people that directly or indirectly communicates a threat or places the victim in fear can be considered stalking.” Nine times out of ten, we use the word stalker in a lighthearted manner as a joke between friends and literally dilute how serious of a situation that it is when someone has a problem with being pursued excessively against their will. And because we usually make these jokes about this thing called psychos, we oftentimes forget the terror of realizing that a mentally imbalanced and delusional entity has become an unwanted part of our personal life and may know more than we wanted to share. It’s of my humble opinion that while this social phenomenon called “stalkers” has always been around since the beginning of time, the advent of the urban landscape and cyber technology has virtually made a breeding ground for us to cross paths with those who are not of the soundest of minds or the purest of hearts. So many of us claim that we want privacy and anonymity yet put our whole entire lives on display for the world to see! We have literally invited the world into our living rooms, kitchens and bedrooms as though we have found a way to become a reality television show star in our minds but never realizing the consequences most often until its much too late. I look forward to seeing you there this Friday night because I know that we are going to let it ALL HANG OUT!

This is the All Night After Party for the LanceScurv Talk Show as well as all who need to place to chill, vibe, relax, talk smack, laugh and have a good old time like we used to back in the day on the front stoop late at night! We flow and talk about everything and anything, but no matter WHAT we speak on it’s always a beautiful thing! No topic is taboo and as always in the LanceScurv tradition, it will Reflect Reality, Bold, Raw & Uncut! Come out and join us to participate or just listen in. I guarantee you will be hooked! And as always if you haven’t already found out, It is guaranteed to be OFF THE CHAIN! Time: Saturday, June 2,, 2012 @ 1:00 a.m. Eastern Standard Time Call In Number: 760-259-2310 – Call in to listen or join in with your opinions on the discussion. You DO NOT need a computer to participate in the show, all you need is your phone.

Most people who view my inquiry pretty much won't think to hard about the question asked until they get into some type of family feud do to the fact that someone in their family overstepped their bounds and went a little too far in dipping into the intimate relationship of their family member. Then it becomes an issue that many in that same family won't ever want to touch but the fact remains that the limitations must be respected whether it is spoken on or not. There are certain places that one just shouldn't venture no matter HOW close that family member may be! But you and I know that in most families it doesn't seem to work that way. There is ALWAYS that sharer of D.N.A. that HAS to push the envelope and go where no one has gone before into the business of their coupled kin! So the question that I put out to you is....... How Much Of A Role Should Family Play In Your Relationship? While some may mean no harm when they want to be close to you as a couple, how much of a role is TOO MUCH? We know that different cultures have a different tolerance to the close proximity of their extended family members, but no matter where you limitations may stand, everyone has a point of no return regardless as to how much they claim they love and adore each other. Where is YOUR breaking point and WHAT are the areas that you consider untouchable to that very curious Mother-In-Law or that always visiting Sister or Step-Child? .......this will surely be a very entertaining and revealing show and definitely would love your input into this potentially highly volatile situation. Let's get ready to rumble!!!!!!! You DON'T want to miss this my friend!  

We've all been lied to in life at some point or another. From the simple so called white lies that are most often easily forgiven to the major premeditated relationship deceptions that will leave scars on the deceived and heartbroken for literally a lifetime. No one that I know enjoys being lied to especially when it is in a serious relationship, it hurts and for the most part most of us have developed a trust in one another after a time that we would have never anticipated being broken. In today's dating/relationship scene, the lack of trust is understandable because in this modern day culture across the board it seems as though breaking promises as well as splitting hearts wide open is the norm and also something to be expected. So the question and topic of todays show is, what was the biggest lie ever told to you in a relationship? Of course infidelity seems to be raging on throughout relationships no matter what the race, culture, status, pedigree or lifestyle preference. Untruths in the area of finances just might equal or surpass the cheating because usually it is easier for a cheating spouse to also lie about that stolen stash of money that they needed for those cash only hotel fees. It also doesn't have to be a lie about money or a secret lover, it could be a falsehood about ones past. Such as a criminal background and incarceration, marital status, health status, credit scores, hidden financial obligations such as child support arrears or even a fugitive from the law! So tonight will be our forum to share the most embarrassing or life changing lies that have been told to us while in relationships, I am quite sure that this will be an interesting evening so be prepared to laugh at the fact that you werent the only one taken for a ride! I know I've been! Lol!

It's the age old question that has seemed to baffle the most knowledgeable of individuals since the beginning of time. What might that be you ask? It is the question of what truly makes a woman happy on the deepest of levels. Too many of us miss the mark when attempting to define what will manifest that state of ever elusive bliss as we focus too much on one specific category of life. No matter what that woman may say will make her happy, there is always that intangible that lurks below your radar of perception that she craves so intensely but may not readily share with you in an upfront manner. We may focus on the purchasing that big house for her but neglect the fact that she needs those countless hours of intense cuddling and conversation. We might tell her that she is beautiful on the outside in public but treat her in a manner behind closed doors that makes her feel worthless and ugly to the world. She might appear to be this strong woman on the outside, but may need the reassurance and support from all that are in her world in order to continue being that person who has always been the bedrock of stability for her kids. Woman are not as complex as we make them out to be but because we as men miss the mark in our relationships with them, we tend to over complicate a situation that could have been dealt with by stepping back and truly evaluating what was really needed. Tonight without any reservation we will get to the bottom of this Rubik's Cube of a puzzle in human nature in order to enhance our relationship mentally, physically and spiritually to form a deeper and more satisfying connection the way our Creator meant for it to be! So pull up you recliner closer to the conversation, kick back and let's ride out for a few hours on the LanceScurv Show and go where we have never gone before! Fasten your seatbelts and start your engines please!

It's the traumatic happening that most would never wish on their worst enemies. It's a life altering thing that has the capacity to cause those who have suffered this travesty to feel as though they are the walking dead as well as internalizing a shame that should have been felt by their attacker. It causes one to be disconnected from any opportunity of intimacy as well as making one lose out on any chance of true love. The act of being violated puts a person in a place where it is hard to relate on many levels and most do not understand the challenges of someone who has been the victim of molestation. The pain of what happened often times keeps one trapped in the pain of the violation and every little seemingly unrelated innocent thing is a reminder of of that painful time when ones perceived purity was snatched. Even the greater pain of feeling betrayed when the very people that you've gone to for help whether it is a trusted parent or authority figure ask you if you are sure that the violation ever happened or just flat out just don't believe you. We will attempt with this show to address the many overlooked factors that those who had to face the ultimate violation must go through and what those who have overcome the shackles of abuse have done successfully to move on from it. Too many of those who have overcome abuse move about the earth with the unseen scars that the violator gave them while we internalize all of the toxicities that we do not deserve to own. So we are calling out to all people who have something to share about this topic in the hopes that what you share will help someone who is going through what you may have conquered. Someone needs the truths of your experiences and this is the place to share it on this night on the LanceScurv Talk Show.

This is the All Night After Party for the LanceScurv Talk Show as well as all who need to place to chill, vibe, relax, talk smack, laugh and have a good old time like we used to back in the day on the front stoop late at night! We flow and talk about everything and anything, but no matter WHAT we speak on it’s always a beautiful thing! No topic is taboo and as always in the LanceScurv tradition, it will Reflect Reality, Bold, Raw & Uncut! Come out and join us to participate or just listen in. I guarantee you will be hooked! And as always if you haven’t already found out, It is guaranteed to be OFF THE CHAIN!

In this life unions are formed in the most unexpected of ways, some connections are brief, shooting through your life like a shooting star, soon to be forgotten just as quickly as it appeared. Others will come into your life unannounced with no pressure to commit to anything more than for the moment yet have a presence in your life lasting longer than most romantic relationships. These are the things that friendships are made of, those mysterious ingredients that hold the secret to the lifetime connections that are so desirable and so elusive even in most marriages. Think about it, our friends are like the stitching that holds together your favorite outfit, no matter where you look on that garment, the stitching is there. Most close friendships usually outlast marriages, relationships and even family connections! Amazing! Our closest friends can repeat back to us the many important milestones in our lives and reminisce on the most intimate and hidden details of that very same life good and bad! We will sometimes share information with a close friend before we will even begin to think of doing the same thing with the one to whom we've committed our life to. And while it really shouldn't be that way, it is a reality that for many people is the norm. What real or perceived dirty deed could destroy such a wonderful joining? So I do believe that the questions that I raise are valid as we seek to find the answers to a phenomenon that has been with us since the beginning of time yet continues to bedazzle us into senselessness when it does. Lifelong Friendships - What Are The Things That Can End Them? Let's discuss this and go where no one has gone before on the LanceScurv Talk Show!  

With all of the dating options available in this world, why is it that some of us refuse to go beyond the inner circle of people to graze on the grass that has been feasted on by our best friend? Many do not have a problem with it and think nothing of it and others will get downright violent at the thought that you are now enjoying the fruits of their former mates company, this realization alone can literally drive a person crazy! Why? .......because even if your best friend has no issue with the pairing of you with their ex, somewhere in the back of their mind they will probably wonder if there was an attraction between the both of you when THEY were an item on a romantic level and that is not a happy thought at all! As I've stated on other programs dealing with completely different subject matter, NO ONE desires to be deceived or lied to or considers any form of deception to be an ideal characteristic in a friendship or a relationship.  Granted, many of us who dive into a new union are not aware of what this new person is all about but if they were dating or married to your best friend then you MUST have a clue as to what this person is about due to your close proximity to their union when they were together. So is it in bad taste to hook up with your best friend's ex or is it a divine pairing of two people who were really meant to be with each other with the union of the best friend merely being the necessary precursor to bringing two soul mates together into each others arms as destiny had intended in the first place?Do not miss this episode of the LanceScurv Talk Show! It won't cost you ONE THIN DIME!  

This is the All Night After Party for the LanceScurv Talk Show as well as all who need to place to chill, vibe, relax, talk smack, laugh and have a good old time like we used to back in the day on the front stoop late at night! We flow and talk about everything and anything, but no matter WHAT we speak on it’s always a beautiful thing! No topic is taboo and as always in the LanceScurv tradition, it will Reflect Reality, Bold, Raw & Uncut! Come out and join us to participate or just listen in. I guarantee you will be hooked! And as always if you haven't already found out, It is guaranteed to be OFF THE CHAIN!

Growing up most of us were taught that above all else that it would be our family who we can depend on in life when times got rough. Being young this was drilled into our heads and we assumed that because we had our Brothers, Sisters, Uncles, Aunts, Cousins & Parents getting along for the most part (With a few exceptions! LOL!) that we had a built in insurance policy that shilded us from ever having to deal with this cold cruel world past a certain point. Help, support, nurturing and unconditional love would only be a phone call away! How wonderful! .......until we got older that is! Now while there are many wonderful close knit families out here who maintain pristine loving relationships with those who share their bloodline, there seems to be just TOO MANY bad situations out here within many family structures that go above and beyond what would be considered dysfunctional! The childhood rivalries that were never banished, the perceptions of parental favoritism that have isolated an unknowing Sister or Brother, the jealousies that lay dormant until a funeral or sickness transpire or the good financial fortune of one sibling over the next are all but a few of the reasons why we have the phenomenon called "Backstabbing Family Members!" We will share stories on this all too common situation as well as offer our solutions on how we can prevent this from happening because when this type of emotional corrosion sets in, believe me, it can and most likely will last an entire LIFETIME! Do NOT miss this program and do share the word to all of your friends and POSSIBLY your family!

This is the All Night After Party for the LanceScurv Talk Show as well as all who need to place to chill, vibe, relax, talk smack, laugh and have a good old time like we used to back in the day on the front stoop late at night! We flow and talk about everything and anything, but no matter WHAT we speak on it’s always a beautiful thing! No topic is taboo and as always in the LanceScurv tradition, it will Reflect Reality, Bold, Raw & Uncut! Come out and join us to participate or just listen in. I guarantee you will be hooked! And as always if you haven't already found out, It is guaranteed to be OFF THE CHAIN!

This is 2012 and the dynamics of relationships and dating are operating under a completely new set of rules and a different dynamic. No longer is it the traditional man meets woman - woman marries man - couple makes children and lives happily ever scenario. Most would agree that there are so many offshoots of that original relationship template that are manifest in this day and age but what I wanted to focus on was the phenomenon called men living on the Down-Low. Before you ask me why I chose THIS to be the topic of discussion for this week, let me tell you that out of all of the types of connections that could be made between two people, this is one (There are a few others!) that is based on secrecy and deception in order to thrive. Do understand that this is NOT an attack on any man who chooses the Gay lifestyle as his way of living but the spotlight is on those men who choose to indulge in reckless dangerous activity behind the backs of their unknowing significant other and never gave her the choice of knowing when they either got together or when he felt a need to explore his sexuality with men. Not only that, but the reckless lifestyle of having anonymous unprotected sex with multiple partners who are total strangers puts that innocent woman in the crossthreads of death because of the potential of catching AIDS and other dangerous Sexually Transmitted Diseases! Out of all the vast types of unions that there are out here in the world, not ONE of them requires that their partner be secretive. No one wants to be lied to and deceived and this is what tonights show is all about! Tonight we want to hear your reactions to the question asked as well as your real life stories of what it was like when you found out that horrible secret as it was brought out into the light. There are more ladies dealing with this type of heartbreak and letdown than you might think!

This is the All Night After Party for the LanceScurv Talk Show as well as all who need to place to chill, vibe, relax, talk smack, laugh and have a good old time like we used to back in the day on the front stoop late at night! We flow and talk about everything and anything, but no matter WHAT we speak on it’s always a beautiful thing! No topic is taboo and as always in the LanceScurv tradition, it will Reflect Reality, Bold, Raw & Uncut! Come out and join us to participate or just listen in. I guarantee you will be hooked! And as always if you haven't already found out, It is guaranteed to be OFF THE CHAIN!