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This week we will attempt to go in on a very sensitive, touchy and emotionally charged topic indeed. The issue of the Successful Black men who prefer to date exclusively out of their race with White women only. First of all, allow me to clear something up proactively about the intention of this particular episode....... This week's show is not about playing a race card or using the color issue as some kind of divisive tactic in a show based in negative energy! NO WAY! But there ARE many angry Black women out here who just can't understand why they are scratched off of the list of being a potential mate to a man to whom they have supported, loved and dealt with over the years while too many of these same men after struggling to make it in their quest for success sadly turned away their Black Sisters as someone who was not adequate enough as far as their refined status or cultural pedigree while "upgrading" to having a White woman on their arm for life. This alone for many Black women is a big slap in the face because the fact of the matter is that Black women in America outnumber Black men in the areas of higher education and career achievement. As you can see, this program will be of a very cerebral nature and will not be one that will tolerate any ignorant "ghettofied" hateful confrontations or race bashing as I invite people of ALL races, viewpoints and statuses to call in and participate to boldly share their views so that we ALL can put this issue to rest and answer the questions that we all have secretly asked! BE THERE!

Politics, religion, life experiences, sports, relationships, health, current events, sexuality and the full range of the human experience good and bad, accepted and taboo will be welcomed and embraced on this special night! Buckle your seat belt and get ready for the cerebral ride of your life! Tonight we will have an open yet laid back mature adult conversation on the various issues and topics that are on our mind at this time. The conversation can and will flow in many directions as there is no set topic to speak on. The beauty of the program is that it will manifest in a truly unexpected manner.

Tonight we are going in on the latest stir caused by the recent public statements from Juanita Bynum on Frank and Wanda Morning Show on Atlanta’s V-103 about her intimate sexual affairs with women. Ever since those statements were made the various Social Media platforms have been ablaze with the many strong opinions either in defense of her "testimony" or "opportunistic attention seeking headline grabbing revelations." This show welcomes everyone to chime in and bring their perspective as to what her motivation was to publicly air her dirty laundry and the charismatic Pastor Damon Richardson of Atlanta Georgia has some very passionate things to say about Ms. Bynum as is evident in his following statement: "Juanita Bynum's head is filled with demonic teaching and the saddest part of it all is that ministry leaders continue to give her a platform to spew her venom. Church of Thyatira in our present day. Her claim to fame? Ridiculous eisegesis, TMI about her sex life past or present, Diva-ish/reality TV attitude and focus on materialism, typing in tongues on FB and other social media, erecting a "threshingfloor" like altar to dupe her followers out of money and prophetic deceit. Shame on Christians who buy into her and her nonsense." As always here at LanceScurv, we make a point of bringing to you the topics that YOU are speaking about  in the beauty shops and bus stops across the land and we urge all of you whether you approve or disapprove of Ms. Juanita Bynum's right to share her past discretion's to attend this show which promises to truly be a hot topic indeed!

While the initial "knee jerk" reaction of an answer is quite obvious, trust me, this weeks topic is not as clear cut as we try to make it seem. Many will profess to the world that they absolutely will NOT take care of a mate that refuses to work, but behind closed doors the many hidden factors that the world does not see comes into play in a very strong way. Work? That's a four letter word to some of us who have an ambitious significant other who seemingly possesses a long fuse and overlooks the obvious and blatant refusal to do their part as one who possesses an able body unfortunately connected to a slothful mind. It is not as cut and dried as we might think because many people infiltrate our lives with the facade of being an ambitious hard working person with the sole intent of getting past your protective barriers of common sense to "get in" and lay an egg of a problem in your life just to get that free ride. Trust me, they are out there and they are aggressively buzzing around and about the earth seeking their next victim if they don't have one already. So will YOU be the one to tolerate a relationship based on your lopsided work effort to improve the overall lifestyle while your mate sits at home doing whatever pleases them at your expense or will you grant a very short grace period for them to get their act together before kindly placing their possessions on the curb whether it's technically legal to do so or not! Whether it is a situation that you heard about or a personal horror story of character deception from the current time or the past or even a victorious tale of "taking back your life" from the clutches of a fool deficient in ambition, we want to hear about it! You just might be surprised at what some of the answers here may be! Don't miss it!    

Tonight we will have an open yet laid back mature adult conversation on the various issues and topics that are on our mind at this time. The conversation can and will flow in many directions as there is no set topic to speak on. The beauty of the program is that it will manifest in a truly unexpected manner.Tonight we will have an open yet laid back mature adult conversation on the various issues and topics that are on our mind at this time. The conversation can and will flow in many directions as there is no set topic to speak on. The beauty of the program is that it will manifest in a truly unexpected manner. Politics, religion, life experiences, sports, relationships, health, current events, sexuality and the full range of the human experience good and bad, accepted and taboo will be welcomed and embraced on this special night! Buckle your seat belt and get ready for the cerebral ride of your life!

Some say it’s risky business. Others say that you have nothing to worry about if you are secure in your marriage or relationship. Still others will ask that why would their mate need to spend time with a member of the opposite sex when they have THEM to spend time with as the significant other? Is this type of connection between a married/attached individual and a member of the opposite sex even appropriate?Well on Friday the 13th 2012 we will delve into this topic which has been an issue with blurred lines depending on who you ask! One couple will have absolutely no problem with their mate hanging out with a member of the opposite sex while to others it is a taboo issue and a straight violation in any form! We have to question ourselves as a society and ask have we lost that sense of decency and standards that have always been that built in hedge of protection in our marriages or have we become the source of our on romantic doom by being just too permissive in what we allow to be acceptable in our private lives in the form of time spent with someone of the opposite sex that is not our mate? Granted, we are not speaking of your significant others brother or sister depending on what sex they may be. And we are not talking about that unplanned unexpected emergency where a friend of the opposite sex happens to be nearby when a mishap transpires and their help was appreciated when no one else was around. NO! These are not the scenarios that we are not speaking on in this episode! What we are seeking to clarify are those friendships where you mate seems to desire time around someone to whom their role is downplayed when the subject of maybe them being a bit too close comes up.

Tonight we will have an open yet laid back mature adult conversation on the various issues and topics that are on our mind at this time. The conversation can and will flow in many directions as there is no set topic to speak on. The beauty of the program is that it will manifest in a truly unexpected manner. Politics, religion, life experiences, sports, relationships, health, current events, sexuality and the full range of the human experience good and bad, accepted and taboo will be welcomed and embraced on this special night! Buckle your seat belt and get ready for the cerebral ride of your life!

As we move forward as a society there are many social phenomenons that are rising to the surface that just weren't previously noticed before. The question is whether these particular social arrangements were always in existence in small amounts or whether it has become something of an undercover movement because of the many unique variables that are available today that were not readily there as much in the past. In the bigger cities there are more people living within closer proximity to each other in less and less space, this forced social interaction has to play a bigger role than it ever has before and must have an effect on a person to possibly bring out thoughts, reactions, feelings and desires that were once a lot easier to completely quell. You have many who feel as though the many lifestyles manifest in the present day are not in keeping with the way things were meant to be just as well as you have many others who believe that thet traditional unions have failed the masses and that it is their right to acquire the love and satisfaction that they need where ever they can find it. This is what we will be discussing tonight as we place the scope of our discussion more so into the case of the women who have other women as lovers and would be considered on the down low. But here is the irony of the situation and really why I am asking the men how THEY feel about it on our show - While it is accepted that the MAJORITY of most women would be utterly devastated once they found out that their significant other was involved intimately with a man, it seems as though many of the men that I have spoken to in passing about the flip side of this issue really had no problem with it as long as they could participate in the festivities! This show is an adult program but insults and buffoonery will not be tolerated. Understanding is what we seek!

Tonight we will have an open yet laid back mature adult conversation on the various issues and topics that are on our mind at this time. The conversation can and will flow in many directions as there is no set topic to speak on. The beauty of the program is that it will manifest in a truly unexpected manner. Politics, religion, life experiences, sports, relationships, health, current events, sexuality and the full range of the human experience good and bad, accepted and taboo will be welcomed and embraced on this special night! Buckle your seatbelt and get ready for the cerebral ride of your life!

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This my friends is the age old question that cuts through all categories of class, race, pedigree and culture. The question of whether to live with someone before marriage in order to see if the marriage would work. In my travels I have heard both sides of this argument and have heard some very strong points to support the claims of the opposing sides. But it always comes down to what is the correct thing to do according to Holy Scripture and even then many have their points in working around that. Now you are wondering how in the heck could someone work around an issue that is clearly defined in the Word of God? I recently had someone say to me that once you have sex with someone, then THAT'S you spouse as the divine forces of the universe and soulties have been activated to join you in a special way. So in essence, this throws the "piece of paper" marriage situation out of the door. So much for that! Does it really mean that you will truly get to know what this person is like merely because they have agreed to live under the same roof with you? Many feel that if you give away the milk for free then why should your mate buy the cow? After "test driving" the union for a stretch of time, does it make it easier to leave with no legal commitment when the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence? What about that proverbial couple that has lived together for many years and have all but forgotten about their plan to marry after a "while" but have become too complacent with things as they are? Some will say that if you have to live with someone before marrying them that you need to date them a little longer to find out what attributes or weak traits you are looking for in order to make the decision to take the plunge. So as you can see, we have a lot of ground to cover tonight as this issue is NOT as simple as it appears.  

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This is the All Night After Party for the LanceScurv Talk Show as well as all who need to place to chill, vibe, relax, talk smack, laugh and have a good old time like we used to back in the day on the front stoop late at night! We flow and talk about everything and anything, but no matter WHAT we speak on it’s always a beautiful thing! No topic is taboo and as always in the LanceScurv tradition, it will Reflect Reality, Bold, Raw & Uncut! Come out and join us to participate or just listen in. I guarantee you will be hooked! And as always if you haven’t already found out, It is guaranteed to be OFF THE CHAIN!

Who do we think we are fooling? Anyone who is in the "know" knows that the most effective place to get some of the hottest sex that you could ever crave is right there in church amongst those who claim to be saved, sanctified and delivered! I know that I am going to piss someone off with this statement but it's true. I am not putting down those who are living a clean and righteous life according to God's divine law, but you have to admit that if you have any type of eyesight and discernment, that this has been an issue in churches in all communities whether it is Black or White and everything in between. But what makes this such a problem when in fact this is the place where there should be even MORE control and restraint when it comes to our sexual energies running wild? I have a theory on this and want us to maybe use this as a starting point with our discussion on this night but I feel as though "out in the world" where there is absolutely no restraint on doing whatever it is that we want to do there is not the same sexual tensions as in a place where you are told what NOT to do but never taught how to deal with those same desires. Face it, we ALL get horny! I know I do, and you do too whether you wish to admit it or not but many of us will NEVER admit that or confess to their sexual feelings as they seem to always sweep them under the rug and act as though they are going to go away only to return again ten times more powerful than they did when they first appeared. This is a problem. Tonight we will address this phenomenon in depth as we share our tales of unbridled lust in the pulpit as well our own inner struggles in that special place where our minds should be on our salvation as opposed to our freakish cravings. On our knees to pray? Some of us are on our knees to accomplish a few OTHER things when we lay hands on you!  

This scheduled program will ask some of the toughest questions that must be addressed if we are to make any personal growth and progress when it comes to how and why we choose the mates that we do. While I steered the title of this particular program toward women and asked the title question in a way that inferred that this will be a woman’s issue, let it be known that in actuality this show is for everyone because we have just as many men who consistently make some very bad choices in the women that that choose to be in their lives. While no one is perfect or can even read minds, we all most likely have looked past the well concealed danger signs that in retrospect where screaming red flags that we chose to ignore because of our possibly needs that blurred our vision about what was so obviously bad for us. Now when I say the wrong type of person, I am not referring to that slightly uncomfortable mismatch that came from not seeing a few mild traits that we have decided through dating would never justify any further explorations into any relationships possibilities…….NO, what I am getting at is when one allows the union to meld into a full blown relationship and sometimes marriage where there is constant arguing, put downs, blow ups, persistent tension, all consuming stress and even sometimes extreme abuse mentally, physically, emotionally/spiritually! Yes, on this night we will ask the TOUGH questions that need to be asked of ourselves and what role have WE have played in all of this when we have noticed that we find ourselves in the same sorry state of emotional relationship affairs time and time again like clockwork.