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In today’s episode, counselor Stephen Cervantes shares with us one man’s ups and downs of his journey of recovery – especially the ups and downs of faith. How does faith fit into recovery? What if Christianity doesn’t “cure” your addiction? Is it okay to wrestle with faith questions on a recovery journey?  We will peel back the layers of these questions and more to help you discover how faith weaves into recovery in a way that is hopeful, meaningful and life-changing. When you persist with curiosity on your recovery journey, breakthroughs happen! To help you understand the key principles it takes to break free from addictive patterns, check out the First 7 Days for Men at 7Days.Bebroken.com or the First 7 Days for Women at 7DaysWomen.Bebroken.com. More Resources:40 Days of Training for Your SoulResurrection and RecoveryIs Recovery Worth the Cost?Grace-Based Recovery Related Podcasts:Why Jesus?Breaking Free for Good ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

In today’s episode, we talk about beliefs and how they affect the way you live and interact with others. We especially focus on beliefs about emotions. Do these beliefs move you toward or away from deeper connections with others? To help you understand the “lens” through which some see the world we will highlight several comments from different men’s lives. Listen in to gain insights into yourself about what you believe and the effect this has on how well you connect with family, friends, and neighbors. More Resources for Emotional Growth:40 Days to Oneness by Stephen CervantesUntangling Emotions by Groves and SmithTraining for your Soul devotional Blog Posts:The Next Step: GrowingThe Good News About Depression Related Podcasts:Essential Truths to Heal and Mature Your Broken Emotional SystemAbout Your Emotional Connecting SkillsA 7-Day Challenge for Emotional Growth Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Originally Aired: July 6, 2021 Drew was a kid who loved Jesus and hated porn, but still couldn't stop his unwanted behavior. Are you a man who can identify with this vicious cycle? In this episode, our guest is Drew Boa, the founder of Husband Material, a ministry to help men outgrow porn by changing your brain, healing your heart, and saving your relationship. If you want to discover hope for true freedom from porn, tune in to hear Drew's story and practical insights. Learn more about Drew and his ministry: HusbandMaterial.com 40-Day Online Course for Men: 40Days.PureLifeAcademy.org More resources for Men: Men.Bebroken.com ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Originally Aired: January 26, 2021 Sexual betrayal is a tidal wave of pain, confusion, and grief for a wife. It can feel like the very underpinnings of her life have been destroyed; kind of like an emotional earthquake. In this episode, Geremy Keeton introduces Aftershock, a powerful book he co-wrote with Joann Condie to help wives overcome the pain of their husband's secret sin and gain a plan for recovering from such betrayal. Get your copy of Aftershock at FocusontheFamily.com/Aftershock Counseling Help: 1-855-771-HELP Online Course for Wives: Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal For more Wives Care Resources, visit WivesCare.Bebroken.com ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Today my guest is John Fort, the Director of Training at Be Broken and also a family care specialist. John brings a background in education and addiction recovery that gives him a unique perspective on dealing with sensitive issues in today’s modern family. He is also an experienced parent who can understand firsthand the challenges and difficulties of raising kids in a sex-saturated culture. In our discussion, we highlight the importance of parents being transparent with their kids about their history of sexual brokenness and leverage these conversations to help their kids navigate their own struggles with sexual topics and questions. This conversation deals with the fears that both parent and child likely have, how emotions connect to sexuality, and some practical applications to help families be more open about the ongoing journey from brokenness to wholeness in Christ. For help having these conversations, get John’s book: Honest Talk: A New Perspective on Talking to Your Kids About Sex. More Resources for Parents: Emotional Resilience (online course) A Family Game Plan for Responding to Porn (online course) Related Podcasts:A Hopeful Mom Shares How to Have Difficult ConversationsTalking to Your Kids About Sex: What Works and What Doesn'tPortrait of a Brave Parent ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

My guest today is Karla Downing, the founder of ChangeMyRelationship.com. She is a speaker, author, counselor, and Bible teacher. Karla grew up in a dysfunctional family and then found herself struggling with Christian codependency in her own difficult marriage. Through her personal struggles, she discovered biblical and practical principles, which she now teaches to others. Karla’s passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from the chains of dysfunction, misunderstanding, and emotional pain through a correct understanding of what the Bible teaches about relationships. In our conversation, Karla shares the 10 Relationship Changing Principles she uses to help difficult relationships thrive. We spend much of our time focusing on the principle she calls “Detach with Love” to help wives understand how to separate themselves in healthy ways from their betraying husband’s actions and reactions. To learn more about Karla and her many resources, visit ChangeMyRelationship.com. More Resources for Wives: WivesCare.Bebroken.com Blog: Why Self-Care After Sexual Betrayal is Good Stewardship Related Podcasts:Hope After Betrayal Sexual Betrayal and Spiritual BattleOnline Care Groups for Wives ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

So many stories have come to the surface over recent decades about pastor after pastor who has been living a double life that has hidden all kinds of sexual brokenness and sin. Much pain has been left in the wake of these stories. In this episode, we read a blog post from Allison Fallon about her personal story of how this kind of betrayal played out in her own life. Then we spend time unpacking some of the key factors that often establish and perpetuate environments of hidden abuse within the church, such as isolation, unchecked and unaccountable power, pride, and even hiding behind one’s “calling.” We close with giving hope and insights for how true grace-based environments can fight against these kinds of sins and abuses. We hope this episode will help both individuals and leaders to recognize the warning signs of danger and how to fight for truth and genuine grace. Read Allison's blog post at AllisonFallon.com/grace. Related blog: The Christian Response to Moral Failure in Church Leaders Related Podcasts:Help and Hope for Women to Heal from Sexual AbuseFreedom and Healing from Shame, Addiction, and AbuseResponding to #MeToo ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

There is one simple starting point for men who want to work on emotional development: practice sadness. This may be overly simple, even simplistic. But after engaging with hundreds of men for over 30 years, counselor Stephen Cervantes has discovered that most men hate dealing with sadness. They don’t know how to practice sadness. Most men think emotions are messy. They hate when women cry. They think sadness is sloppy, crazy, and unnecessary emotion. Most men are good at positive emotions such as fun, play, laughter, and pleasure. They are not so good at disappointment and sadness. In this episode, we explore the issue of sadness in men and how men can better practice sadness well. We unpack the impact of fathers in training their sons to avoid or ignore sadness. Finally, we help men see sadness as an asset to growth and maturity rather than a liability. More resources for men: Men.Bebroken.com Book: Untangling Emotions by Groves and Smith Related Podcasts:Replacing Escaping and Hiding with Healthy Thoughts and BehaviorsGoing Deeper: How Your Inner Child Impacts Your Sex AddictionWhat Can You Learn from Your Anger? ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

My guest today is Linda MacDonald. She is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist with over 30 years of counseling experience. She has written numerous books and articles and spoken on a wide range of topics related to marriage restoration. She is a wife, mother, and grandmother who enjoys hiking and kayaking near her home in Gig Harbor, Washington. Our conversation today centers around her book, entitled How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair. We begin by exploring the 5 options that the betraying spouse has in choosing what to do next after the affair. Then, we explore some of the 15 essential steps for repair, including healthy disclosure, rebuilding trust, responding to your spouse’s triggers, and changing your core character. For couples who want to rebuild after an affair, this book helps provide a solid road map for the betraying spouse. To learn more about Linda and her resources, visit lindajmacdonald.com. Book: How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair Blog: Through a Wife's Eyes More Podcasts on Marriage Restoration:Navigating the Revelation of an AffairUnderstanding Therapeutic DisclosureA Thank You Letter from a Repentant Husband ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

My guests today are Michael and Heather Norgren. They are the founders of Triggered.app. For much of his life, Michael struggled with an addiction that he couldn't seem to overcome. He tried counseling, pastoral support, recovery programs, bible studies, and conferences. In all of these environments, he learned the importance of vulnerability and reaching out for support when he was feeling triggered. As a wife to a former addict, Heather is now able to use her story of betrayal to help others who are hurting from broken relationships. Throughout her journey, she has learned much about her own individual healing and how to come alongside someone struggling with addiction with healthy boundaries. Michael uses his abilities of developing software to create tools to help people in their journey to healing. Heather is using her gifts and passions to connect with individuals, businesses, and ministries to find more effective ways to partner together to bring hope and healing to more people. Together, they use their story to bring God glory. In today’s episode, Michael and Heather will share with us their story so that it might draw others out into the light of truth, grace, and a new life of joy and purpose. Please check out their amazing one-click app to help you overcome addiction at Triggered.app. Related Podcasts:How to Fight for Love in Your MarriageWhen and Why Do Men Escape to Porn?What Porn Use Does to Your Wife Blogs:Psalm 51: A Betrayed Wife's Prayer for Her HusbandIs It Possible to Quit Porn and Masturbation? ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

In 1999, I began my recovery from over 13 years of porn and sex addiction. One of the first books I read was Russell Willinghams’ foundational work, Breaking Free: Understanding Sexual Addiction and the Healing Power of Jesus. To this day I am reaping the benefits of this resource. In fact, the name of our ministry, Be Broken, is due in large part because of chapter 9 in Breaking Free, entitled “The Courage to Be Broken.”  Today’s guest is none other than Russell Willingham. Russell has worked full-time with sexually broken people since 1993. He oversees individual, couples and group counseling at New Creation Ministries in Fresno, California. He has spoken widely across the nation on issues related to sexual addiction, the healing process, marital intimacy and spiritual formation.  In this episode, Russell shares insights from his 30+ years of experience to understand sexual brokenness strongholds and how we can be truly set free from such compulsions. He unpacks the goodness of our desires, the reality of the struggle with sexual temptation, and the practical application of God’s Word in experiencing freedom, peace, hope, and joy that comes from authentic community. Learn more about Russell and his counseling ministry at NCMFresno.org. Related Podcasts and Media: Breaking Free from Your Secret HabitFreedom vs. AbstinenceFreedom and Healing from Shame, Addiction, and Abuse ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Can you relate to stress and anxiety in a constantly changing world? Do God’s promises of peace and joy still apply in the world today? How can you find real peace, grace, and Jesus in the midst of the chaos? My guests on today’s program are Steve and Jamie Wiechman, founders of Breathe Life Ministries. They got married in 1998 and have four children. They have traveled through many peaks and valleys, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. They bring answers and insights to the questions around stress and pain from a place of deep personal experience.  Steve began ministry as a youth minister in Houston, TX and has served in pastoral ministry in four different churches in Texas. Jamie, after 10 years in the trenches as a pastor’s wife and home educator, obtained an Advanced Counseling Certificate through the Townsend Institute at Concordia University – Irvine, CA. God has captured their hearts for sharing the freedom of the Gospel with Christian leaders and their families.  Steve currently serves as the Director of Strategy and Operations for Breath Life Ministries. Jamie currently serves as the Director of Ministry and Programs. Learn more about Steve and Jamie and their ministry at BreatheLifeToday.com. Helpful Book: Untangling Emotions by Groves and Smith Blog: The Missing Connection to Healing More Related Episodes:Working Through Marriage ChallengesGrowing a Stronger Marriage Even When It's DifficultFinding Rest for Your Marriage ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

The world seems to always be ready to criticize and complain. What happens when those criticisms and complaints are directed at you? How well do you respond? In this episode, Stephen and Jonathan unpack how our responses to verbal barbs affect (and measure) our emotional growth journey. Discover the path of grace and love that sets your heart free from being offended and offers others the hope of Jesus. Book: Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better More Podcasts:A Biblical Framework for EmotionsAbout Your Emotional Connecting SkillsEssential Truths to Heal and Mature Your Broken Emotional System Help for Men: Men.Bebroken.com Help for Women: Women.Bebroken.com Help for Families: Family.Bebroken.com ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Chris and Steph were high school sweethearts who were "following all the steps that the typical southern church would have spelled out." They got married in college and everything seemed to be fine, even great. But Chris began to have doubts that didn't align with his view of faith. This episode is a conversation about Chris and Steph's journey through peaks and valleys related to faith, marriage (and divorce/remarriage), fear, freedom, and authentic community. Learn more about Chris and Steph and their music at OutoftheDustMusic.com.  More podcasts on marriage:Restored to More: Clinton and Charity's StoryA Thank You Letter from a Repentant Husband4 Skills to Transform Your Marriage ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

God calls his followers to live a life of sexual integrity (see 1 Thes. 4:1-8). Sometimes this is also stated in the phrase "sexual purity," which gets a lot of bad press -- even in the church. In this episode, our guest Jasper Hall, president of Pure Hope, helps us understand God's greater story of sex, how to reframe what it means to be "pure," and how we can better reflect the holiness and purity of Christ. Learn more about Jasper and Pure Hope at PureHope.net. More Resources: Parenting in a Sexualized Culture Pure Hope App Pure Hope Podcast Join pastors, ministry leaders, and care givers in the sexual integrity movement at SexualIntegrityLeaders.com. (Next national Summit is April 28-30, 2022 in St. Louis. Mark your calendar!) ---------- Please rate and review our podcast: Apple Podcasts Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations