Marital Bliss Podcast
Summary: Marriage is a tough venture for anyone. Your hosts have been through a lot and are happy to find the bliss they are in.
Kids grow up. When they do, it is hard to let go at times. You still see them as the little ball of curious energy and wonderment. Yet you also start seeing them as young adults. Where do they fit. When you let them walk by themselves you wonder how badly they are going to hurt themselves. As parents of a 17-year-old we express out worries and angst on the next phase of our kiddos world.
We talk about how and why our show schedule has been a deplorable mess. Jana and Bryan talk about her mother's illness and the effects of Alzheimer on the patient and the family members. Talk about how the reclusive man that is married to Jan, has caused more problems trying to keep information from us than helping. If it wasn't for us worrying about him we would not of found out that he was in the hospital for several days. He has been sick before Suffered through prostate cancer and didn't bother to tell anyone. So though there has been family problems to keep things up and moving you can also have another marital problem of... Being stuck in a rut. This is a challenge for most families to keep adventure and the desired type of excitement going on in a family life. People have a tendency to need to just survive, and they fall into the 'Daily Grind', but many times it is good to mix it up. In fact we are going to dance! So, I am going learn to dance. Take the family out on adventures have them enjoy the world. Go to some of the different state parks that are around Oklahoma. There are many great hiking, biking, museums, and other fun centers around the area. Amusement parks are an option. Enjoy your family because the kids will be gone before you realize it. Don't let life live you, take the reins and direct life. GO LIVE!
Everyone here at The Marital Bliss Show and The Hayrolling Podcast Network would like to wish everyone a Merry Christmas, and a Happy New Year! Hope everyone had a good year considering... But next will be bigger and better and we cant wait... Thanks again see you in 2013!
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One of the biggest items in a marriage is very important in a relationship. This is something that can actually help a marriage grow stronger. Fights, arguments, heated debates, or discussions are all lumped into one. Now there are differing levels of fights and some fights should be avoided, but a good bellowing shout fest does and will happen from time to time. This is because a fight relieves pressure that has built up for sometime. Now fights do a few things one is lets the couple know that they are not on the same page and there is a slight adjustment needing to be made. These adjustments can be good for the couple or they can hurt. It all depends on whether both sides are playing fair or not. How to fight fair First off no Low Blows these are dredging up the past and throwing it in the others face. The past is gone. It is not going to do anybody, any good, being dug up. So leave past crimes where they are. Focus on the problem at hand. Next timeout are great for when the argument is getting very heated and no traction is being made. Some people call it 5 by 5 or Step 5 feet away for 5 minutes. Grab the dog, who is cowering under the coffee table, and take it out for a walk. Come back to the problem after 30 minutes to an hour, you will see a difference and maybe even a solution. This also give you time to come up with an "I'm Sorry". Yes Say you are "Sorry" for whatever the infraction is. It helps to start building a fresh layer of love,when foundation has been fertilized with a healthy helping of Humility. From here you can get a lot more done. Yet when the discussion starts back up don't jump in with an accusation of "You". You start out with the word you and the fight will not be fixed come up with a way to say what the problem is without accusing.
Sex Yes that is the topic of this episode. It is fun exciting, naughty, and sometimes a bit sticky. But there can be times when sex can keep you from achieving that level of marital bliss you desire. We cover some of these topics Holding on to old baggage and wrong ideas can hamper Sex People are people. No this isn't about an old Depeche mode song it is just the truth we have our own life paths. Some people have had sex before marriage and some have waited till they said I do. Even then Men find out that their most common miss conception about marriage is that sex is going to happen every single day. Come to find out it is closer to once a week after the honeymoon is over and life has started in. Sometimes people have old baggage that they experienced from previous relationships and they can hamper the sexual relationship of a marriage. This can cause problems if the issue is not address with understanding, and caring. Many times these problems are fixable, but it is going to take time for that wall that was built up to be torn down and healing to take place. though you my good spouse didn't inflict that damage nor would you want to. Yet, as the song goes Don't ask her on a straight tequila night, She starts thinking about him and is ready to fight. She blames her broken heart on every man in sight On a straight tequila night - John Anderson ""Straight Tequila Night" There is sometimes baggage and there is sometimes misconceptions. Talk about them or resentment starts to grow and you will drift from marital bliss. Mixed libito Yours is through the roof and your spouse; do they even have a libito? The problem that has plagued the ages. Seems that one always wants it more than the other person.What should you do about it? How Often should you have sex? is a great article by the folks at Hot, Holy, And Humorous blog. They mention that once a week is a good frequency. While Jana Cried Balderdash find out why. Masturbation in marriage Choking the Chicken, Flogging the Dolphin, getting you rocks off, However you say it men do it and women do to. There can be a problem with it when you spouse doesn't understand why you have to do it, sometimes at all. Us men just have to. Whether women understand why or not we just do. We like some time alone with our penis'. It is not that we love you any less. It is not that you are doing something wrong. It is just that we like our willies.
Back finally! Yes folks we have been gone way too long as you can hear we are still full of mucus and phlem. Yet, we know you dear and wonderful listeners were waiting for our return. So, Here we are! Vacations, some classic movies have been made on the adventures of the family vacations. These great moments of Americana can make or break a family. the more complicated the more structured it is the harder it is for the family and kids to relax and enjoy themselves. So, We give some suggestions on how to survive the family vacation, and watch your kids actually have fun for a change. Saving money on a vacation is a challenge pack a lunch or two or at least get supplies so that a lunch can be made along the way. Bring entertainment to keep the dreaded "are we there yet" and "how much longer" at bay.
This week we expand on the Three Deadly A's of marriage, and we turn our focus for a little closer examination of Affairs. Why it looks like society condones affairs. What is wrong with a little extracurricular activities? Right? Well a lot of problems come from Affairs besides the hurt feelings of the spouse. In the artical We desire other people - But not each other Talks about how they have lost the loving feeling for each other. While the article The recipe for happiness? An enduring marriage and an affair with lots of sex, actuall goes off and ecurages people to go out and have sex with other people because why? Other cultrues do it so why not Britian? I would actually say the very same reason that you mother would of told you, If Everyone else was jumping off a cliff would you? Just because France, Japan, and Finland thinks it is ok to have infidelity in their marriage doesn't mean that it is good. This author may think that it helps a marriage but it is very one sided. One person is going off and exploring a fantasy land while the one left home with the kids and responsibilities of life is still stuck in life mode. Marriage affairs are just a sign of being selfish and that there are problems in the marriage. These are symptoms to a larger problem that really needs to be addressed and easily fixed. Sure people go off and fantasize about different people they see in the world but acting on those impulses doesn't help the family and if you have kids doesn't show the kids how a marriage is suppose to work. This article completely takes this very important element out. It throws the Vows, or your sacrid promise that you made on your marriage day, and just applies an eraser to it lit it never happened. There is a line in the majority of vows of To have and to hold, To honor and to cherish, Forsaking all others, Till Death does you part. When you have an affair you are not honoring your spouse. You are not Cherishing your spouse. You are forsaking your loved one for some other person. Now I maybe wrong but that seems like some of the most important lines of marriage have been thrown out and deemed insignificant. This raises a very alarming flag, so we have decided to discuss this this week.
Marriage is one of those institutions that is extremely resilient. It is able to handle some surprisingly tough situations. Yet, there are a set of situations where divorce is often encouraged. These are known as the 3 A's Addiction, though many health officials like to call an addiction a disease. That is not the case here and I express my thoughts as to why it is not a disease in the show. Basically addiction is a sign of selfishness gone unchecked. This is where the addict out their wants and desires before their family members. This can be anything from drugs, cocaine, heroin, and meth.To porn and alcoholism. Whether it is one or a combination, people are able over come, but many times it exposes the rest of the family till dangers physical, mental, or financial and the person who is addicted does not want to give up their high. Abuse is a another A that causes sometimes irreversible harm and damage to love one's who are affected. This can be any abuse, be it, mental, physical, or sexual. This is a situation that many times end in a person going to jail and the other might find themself dead. If you are or know that a family member is being abused. Don't think you can fix it. Get out off the relationship immediately. If the abuser does realize that they have gone too far then the burden is on them to get help. Once they start getting help they have to keep getting help for a year then you can try rebuilding the family with a team of councilors help. Affair is a heart wrenching A that is often a sign of other problems in the marriage. Unless the cheater is a narcissist. Again though this is a huge violation of trust and if the man or woman want to prove they are not going to do that ever again. They have to subject themselves to the 5th degree of questioning. And work tirelessly to prove they are not sleeping around.
Marriage Expectations and What to Expect Oh so nice, you get home and What! The house is a mess. Supper is not even started much less even on the table. Then your spouse hands you the kids and proceeds to inform you of what you are needing to do. What happens? Usually a fight breaks out, right? In this episodes we talk about how we have used a very unique philosophy to manage these expectations. How this philosophy works, why it works and why you should also incorporate it at once. The Couples Movie Woman in Black Well little Harry Potter is not so little any more but he is for some reason still in that charactor. We talk about how we like and dont like this movie. Rating: Rent it Money Savers This week we talk about lay-a-way's and how much they are truly still needed in todays society because the alternative is high credit card bills and fighting over that last Cabbage Patch Kid Jana's Reality Wow Lots happening. Jana loads up with Kardashin's bashing someone named Rob. The Umpa-Lumpa's of Jerseylicious actually have a neat idea. And Project Runways Sweet tooth.
Marriage has to have friends outside of marriage. Everyone needs friends and everyone is going to have friends. Some friends are good for the marriage and others are not so good. Friends are good for helping you or your spouse let off steam. Either that is guys poker night or Margarita night with the girls. Couples need time apart to recharge the "Family Battery". Same as the kids like to see their friends so should you and your spouse. Yet, with that said, you don't spend all your time at friends or your friends at your house. For this will also bring in its own set of problems. For example, Wife feels like she is playing second fiddle to he husband's friend. This can cause resentment and late night arguments, and nobody likes to fight about friends. Make that late at night and this goes double. This episode of Marital Bliss Show we tackle several issues that are found in friends that the spouse brings in or even your friends. How to recognize the problem and some solutions that will help fix it. The problems married couples run into with friends. Friends that are always hanging around. Friends that like to meddle in your relationship The Emergency friend, This is the person who you don't talk to unless there is a crisis in their life. Friends of the opposite sex Long time ago once lover. We talk about each of these topics and express solutions to those problems. But there is also a issue that comes up where the husband or wife is of the jealous sort and doesn't want their spouse to have any friends and this also causes problems that sometimes leads to abuse. These, you have to look out for and get counseling. Also Dont forget to rate us in iTunes!
One of the More adventurous parts of getting married is the In-laws. They are not what you grew up with and you are not what they have raised. In this Episode of Marital Bliss we tackle the subject of the in-laws and use some examples from our lives. Many times the issue of diapered butt syndrome crops up. This is where someone who changed your diapered butt believes they know better than what you do. Many tiimes they are just trying to help in very intrusive ways but the vast majority of the time they mean well just lact the ability to smoothly exicute. You have to learn how to build boundaries for your new relatives that will be showing up when you are in the act of love and who idiosyncratic ways will make you feel like you have an extreme case of OCD. Yet if you set boundries and have an actuall open discussion with the people from another life you will be able to live in marital Bliss. Jana's Reality Wow! she got caught up listen as she talks about Dance Moms, The Kardashians and their irrlevance, Why she didn't watch the Umpa Lumpas of Jersylicious this week, and she found a new game show The Great Escape. Parental Tech This week we talk about using Google Voice to see what your kids are texting and who are they calling. Couples Movie The Grey This movie is action packed and has a twist that will piss Jana off. Couples Money We talk about budgeting. Why and how should you budget. At last we add a new Segment Romantic Quickie This is where Jana Gives a tip to the guys and Bryan Gives a tip to the wives And as Always Rate us in iTunes!
Dealing with kids' Friendships Friends, your kids are going to have friends. The issue is when those friends have an influence on your child, and that influance is that is unwanted. Whether it is that you child starts to miss cerfew by a couple of minutes, or they start experimenting with drugs. These are problems most parents do not want. Dealing with kids' friendships can be hard This is the topic that your brave hosts take on for this weeks episode. When should you tell your kids, that they can not be friends with little Billy down the street? Why and how to fix that issue. Where to rebuild that trust after it has been summarily smashed by a horrible choice your child made? Jana's Reality Suprisingly Jana is Joneing for her reality shows. She didn't get to catch many of her shows this week but hear what she did catch. Parental Tech Smart phones are all the rage they can be good and they can be used to keep your kiddos safe. My App choice this week is The Eye This is a great app that has a parental lock on it and can pull up the phone's location anytime of the day or night so you can see if they are sneaking out and where are they sneaking out too. The Couples Movie Review This week we talk about Sherlock Holmes: The Game of Shadows and we talk about why we both really liked it with no spoilers! Cost Savers Shopping for food is always a place where your money seems to hemorrhage in unbelievable ways. Jana has some great tips as to how to patch those leaks. And PS Dont forget to Rate us on iTunes
Today we talk about what happens when we get a little older, besides the fact that body parts start shifting to new locations. Everyone believes that they know whats going to happen till it happens to them. We talk about when you set up a will inform your beneficiaries of your intentions. Dont keep it a secret. Doing so only leaves unanswerd questions and many time resentment that is plainly unneeded. Inform educate what you want to be done. Think of Living wills, do you want a Do Not Recisitate (DNR). Who do you want to have what? Get a will and read it to your children when they are old enough to understand. This week we also had some fun and introduced Some new segments. The Couple Movie review (Working title) - If our listeners have a better idea please let us know. This week we talk about The Brave Parenting tech We talk about routers and how to use them to keep your kids safer. and Finally we round the show off with... Jana's Reality! We cover the basics of what Jana's reality show addiction entails. Next week we should have a phone Number that you can call and leave a message talk to you later BYE!
In this episode is pretty much an introduction to who we are and trip a little into what the show is going to be. I start off with. I go into a high speed gloss over of our 16 years in marriage. Covering my time in the Navy and Jana being the navy Wife. The moves and our stints in the true to life Ghetto were some of the most memorable and interesting times we spent together. We talk a bit about how mean we are to our children. Get a few laughs and talk about having a good sense of humor.