Summary: Michelle Vasquez was a therapist focusing on families and relationships in Texas then moved to California and became interested in singles matchmaking for people over age 40. She became a coach and now helps people find meaningful and lasting relationships. She refers to herself as a shy woman, but has been able to land two husbands. After becoming a young widow, Michelle waited several years before seeking romantic connections again. She invested in online dating to find her second husband. By following her own counsel Michelle has created meaningful relationships that make her happy. Michelle did not meet her first husband at an online dating site. She used the method she offers her clients. She had met him and felt an attraction, but her shyness prevented her from taking a direct approach so she made herself available to him by visiting the places she knew he would be. She said her mother had advised her to follow the cliché, “Chase a man until he catches you.” She said she kept showing up. She was charming and creative, but never offered her phone number. She dressed pleasantly and put herself out there in a nice way. He finally noticed her and approached her, and their relationship started. Some of the things that help people when seeking relationships, besides just attractions, include looking for someone with some of the same interests you have and some different interests as well. She said that creates a balance and time for the pair to be together and separate, but you must have something in common. Without it, relationships die quickly. Also, Michelle said that people tend to have attractions with people who are on a similar mental level. She spoke about online dating, too and said that you have to be careful, but by practicing caution and being yourself, it can be safe. Her current marriage was discovered at an online dating site. At her website she offers free reports with advice and helpful tips. Go to http://www.trueloveafter40.com to get them. When counseling for her singles matchmaking practice, Michelle tells people to be themselves, but to present themselves at their best. Charm is a key factor when finding attractions and making connections in singles matchmaking. She defined a charming person as one who has the power to delight and attract, and that can happen on different levels with different people.
