Mind Over Matter: Podcast show

Mind Over Matter: Podcast

Summary: Mindset is everything. The moment you become fearless, life becomes limitless. I share stories of personal experience to inspire you to live the life you dream about. Use fear to fuel you, not rule you.

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 Bouncing Back From Darkest Days | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 00:23:40

Episode #147   Bouncing Back From Darkest Days Matt Beans joined me to share his experience and how he bounced back from his darkest days. Something I feel has a lot of stigma around it is the topic of suicide and that’s something we touch on in this episode.  Finding purpose When Matt fell to his darkest days and contemplated suicide he felt he had no purpose. He shared a brilliant thought with me that he discovered – if you have a heartbeat, you have a purpose. That means, we’re all here for a reason. I know what it’s like to feel down, get into a dark place and wonder when you’ll see the light of day. We all go through tough times or dark periods; the key to coming out of that is in serving others. Changing your focus and speaking of things you are grateful for. Mindset is everything We touch on some key points in this episode from mindset to perspective and the ability to change your viewpoint. Rather than focus on how bad it is, turn that around. No matter what your focus, what you focus on expands. If you’re sulking in how bad it is, that’s your reality. If instead, you find gratitude and joy, you’ll experience more of that. Focus on what you can control When Matt chose to shift his mindset his whole world changed. He’s actually become the calm in the storm and chooses to focus on what he can control. Emotions are one of them. Emotions are a clear indicator of your thoughts or vibrations. When you feel good or when you feel bad are immediate ways to know where your thoughts are. I always preach on getting out of your comfort zone. If you want to experience growth, you have to get comfortable being uncomfortable. This is something Matt has embraced and continually tries new things. Plus, if you don’t try you don’t know!   To listen in to the full episode, click below. TUNE IN

 It’s Time to Take the Leap | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 00:12:49

Episode #146 It’s Time to Take the Leap Now more than ever, it’s time to take the leap! As a society, we’re conditioned to certain norms. We go to college, get a degree, climb the corporate ladder all while living for the weekend or the next paid holiday. I had worked this monotonous routine for a decade before I finally had a strong enough nudge there was more I was supposed to be doing. Mindset is everything In my podcast, Mind Over Matter, I share weekly stories of overcoming obstacles, perseverance, life lessons and how no matter what you’re going through, mindset is everything. In my book, Take the Leap, I share with you how I leveraged adversity, overcame obstacles, learned to feel the fear and do it anyway and continually bust outside of my comfort zone. Leap of faith In 2017, I took a huge leap of faith and quit my stable corporate job. I learned to tap into my intuition and trusted the universe had my back. I didn’t have a plan but I’ve learned to step into a space of surrender. To let go of the need to have a plan or know my next step. For the past two years, I’ve been on an incredible journey and no matter the scenario, everything I’ve always needed has shown up. Whether it was money or other resources, it’s all aligned.  Take inspired action My goal is to empower as many people as I can who are unfulfilled and feel stuck, to take inspired action and create the life they dream about. The best way to do this – get comfortable being uncomfortable. To continually step outside of your comfort zone and embrace the fear – and do it anyway. Just like building muscle at the gym, you have to build your mindset. Each time you push past the fear you gain a little more strength. I don’t believe you’ll ever have no fear, but instead of it paralyzing you, you can use it to fuel you. Life is abundant  The key takeaway I want you to have it that life is abundant. Everything you desire is your desire for a reason. If you think it, you can experience it. The magic happens outside of your comfort zone. I’ve opened up my 12-week course where you will gain the confidence to take your next steps. If you’re ready to take the leap and live life on your terms, check out my 1×1 coaching here.   To listen in to the full episode, click below. TUNE IN  

 Consistency + Time = Results | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 00:36:05

Episode #145   Consistency + Time = Results Rad Palivan joined me for this week’s topic: Consistency + Time = Results. As a high performance and results coach, he knows a thing or two about achieving end goals. In order to truly achieve results, you need to be consistent and you need to know that it takes time. The length of time will depend on you and the result you want. The simple equation The good news, it’s not a complex equation, it’s rather simple actually. In order to achieve your end goal that you desire, you only need these two things: consistency and time. We’re in an age where we want instant gratification. Whether it’s to lose weight overnight, climb the corporate ladder in a week, meet a significant other – yesterday, we want it all and we want it NOW. The thing is, that’s not how it works. It’s about daily action Rad shares that small incremental changes add up to big results. For example, in the gym most people think you need to do 15-20 reps or more and up the ante to see results. Rad shares that even adding just one extra rep per workout, each week will add significant results in just one year.  For many, the thought of failure is too scary to even try. Therefore, they’ll never see results. A huge part in actually obtaining any goal is to know your WHY. Without a strong enough why, excuses creep in and win. What’s your why? Working with clients that’s one major question Rad asks, “What’s your Why?”. He goes deep – 5 layers deep to be exact. By asking why do you want something multiple times it helps drill down your real why. That’s where you get motivation. That’s where you gain momentum.  With anything, you will hit a wall or plateau. The question is, will you quit and throw in the towel or will you simply take a rest and keep going? By having a strong why, you can be prepared for the ups and downs and they will simply be part of the journey rather than a road block.    To listen in to the full episode, click below. TUNE IN

 This or Something Better | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 00:05:17

Episode #144 This or Something Better This or something better. Ah, rejection sucks but what if I told you to instead focus on “this or something better”? I know what it’s like to feel disappointed. If you could turn your perspective around from rejection and realize it’s simply a redirection, you’ll be able to bounce back into a higher vibration much more quickly. Rejection is simply redirection This weekend I met up with one of my girlfriends who just ended an 18 month relationship. Break ups are hard. Matters with the heart (emotionally charged) are that much tougher – if you allow it. I’m not suggesting you just brush off a break up, however, if you could embrace the thought “this or something better” you can get out of the dumps more quickly. Trust your journey Think back to a time when you were disappointed. Maybe it was interviewing for a job you really wanted but didn’t get, or on the hunt for your first home and multiple failed attempts or a new relationship ended that you were super psyched about. The next time you experience a disappointment, remember this, “this or something better”.  When you’re able to embrace – this or something better – you step into a space of trusting your journey. You step into a space of knowing that the job you are supposed to get or the home you will eventually live in or the relationship you desire will be everything you want and more.  Daily affirmation Affirmations are a great way to rewire your brain and help you out of a funk. Write this down and post it where you can see it daily: This or something better!   To listen in to the full episode, click below. TUNE IN  

 Redefining Success with Jake Frew | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 00:28:05

Episode #143   Redefining Success with Jake Frew This week I interviewed Jake Frew where he shared with me his journey on how to redefine success. Jake followed the norm – went to college, received his engineering degree, got married and was living in the ‘burbs. He had reached all of the milestones of “success” as society has deemed. Yet, he was unfulfilled.  Find a creative outlet After some life changes, Jake decided to chase his childhood passion of creating videos. He left his engineering job, sold his house and bought a camper van. He’s on a mission to redefine success for himself and he shares steps on how you can too. For Jake, success is having the freedom to travel and having a creative outlet. Although he still works a 9-5, this time in marketing, finding that creative outlet is fulfilling and ultimately success to him. Take the leap Jake’s advice – take a leap of faith. Tap into what brings you joy and take small steps each day to creating a life you can be proud of.  Now that he’s no longer chasing society’s definition of success, he’s been able to redefine it for himself. Jake shares his three pillars of success:  Consume less; create more Master your craft Tell a better story Bust outside of your comfort zone The biggest takeaway- comfort lacks fulfillment. What can you do or change in your life to bust outside of your comfort zone? How can you reignite passion and define success on your terms?    To listen in to the full episode, click below. TUNE IN

 How to Become a Human Being (Not a Human Doing) | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 00:09:32

Episode #142 This week I’m sharing with you how to become a human being not a human doing. We have years of conditioning and beliefs that in order to get ahead, we must hustle and grind (doing) rather than get into alignment (being). I’m here to debunk this myth. Stop Efforting Think of a tree for just a moment. A tree comes from a space of allowing. It stands tall, not efforting and all of the resources it needs come to it. A tree is simply being. I want you to grasp this analogy and step into the same space of allowing in your own life. You’re not here to hustle and grind. That is not the effortless way to achieve your goals, desires and dreams. Instead, I want to share with you ways in which you can step into a state of allowing and into alignment so that your desires can come to you. Let go, Let flow When you can let go of the need to control – the who, what, when, where, and how, the details will come to you. It may be through resources such as other people or you may get an intuitive nudge for your next step. No matter the scenario, the how will always be shown to you. I want you to step into a space of being and stop doing. The struggle is not real. The obstacles and resistance you may be facing are entirely self imposed. To listen in to the full episode, click below. TUNE IN  

 Go Big or Go Home | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 00:20:25

Episode #141   Go Big or Go Home Lorenzo Roybal joins me this week to share how he’s followed his calling and the necessity to go big or go home in all that you do. At just 19 years old, he did what most don’t – he dropped out of college and broke free of the social norm to follow something bigger. Lorenzo comes from a very faith centered background and has learned to follow his calling, or intuition. And, by following his calling, he has become a very successful businessman that travels the world and has the opportunity to connect with thousands of people.  Go All In Something Lorenzo shared with me that I think is powerful is to go big, or go home. Life experiences aren’t about half-assing. Stop dipping your toes. Go all in on all that you do. If you have faith and certainty that no matter the direction you choose, you will always be supported, that will be your outcome.  Your Faith Must Be Bigger Than Your Fear There will be a lot of unknowns throughout your life. Despite the unknowns, the doubts, the worry, be willing to go for it. Whether that’s moving across the country to your dream city, starting a business, creating a bucket list or public speaking, your faith must be bigger than your fear.  Like many successful entrepreneurs, Lorenzo shared the importance of having goals. An easy and fun way to set out goals is to create a vision board or at least know your end result. By knowing the what, you can reverse engineer the how. Daily Discipline + Consistency = Results With daily disciplines and consistency, results will come. Healthy habits are what create solid foundations to benefit from. If you aren’t already, implement some healthy daily disciplines to create momentum. Final note, create goals so big they demand that you bust outside of your comfort zone.   To listen in to the full episode, click below. TUNE IN

 How to Get Out of a Funk | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 00:05:26

Episode #140 This week I’m sharing with you how to get out of a funk. There are times in life when you will feel down, maybe bummed out, feeling worried or doubting your abilities. There’s good news, I have three strategies to teach you the next time you’re in a funk. Find your rainbow Just last week, I was in my own funk. I was feeling down for yet another cloudy, dreary day in what felt like a never ending winter. I sat there feeling pity and cranky and it didn’t feel good. Since I know what to do when in a funk, I chose to change it around. It was snowing, yes, end of May and snowing in Denver. Only a few weeks prior, I had bought a new winter coat and snow pants on a super sale and I was excited to get to wear next season. Seeing the opportunity in front of me, I chose to get out of my funk. I found gratitude for the snowy day – I could test out my new coat and decided to embrace the weather rather than resist it. I also went out on a walk. By moving, changing my focus, and finding gratitude, my mood had done a 180. 3 steps to get out of a funk First of all, when you’re in a funk I’m willing to be you’re sitting or laying down. First step to get out of a funk – change your physiology. It’s as simple as getting up, taking a walk, dancing, jumping jacks  – whatever you choose, get moving!  Next up, change your focus. Being in a funk means you’re focused upon something negative. Flip it around to see how the event is happening for you, or better yet, find gratitude.  Finally, change your language. Speak of your situation in a positive light. Think of solutions rather than focusing upon the problem.  To listen in to the full episode, click below. TUNE IN  

 How to Step into Your Authenticity With Passion and Purpose | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 00:27:35

Episode #139   How to Step into Your Authenticity with Passion and Purpose Lauren Simms joined me for today’s episode in which she shares how to step into your authenticity with passion and purpose. It wasn’t always this way for Lauren – she shares how she stepped out of the role of trying to please everyone to choosing passion over popularity. Not the traditional route Lauren has a diverse background in health and fitness and multi-level marketing. For her, the traditional route of working a 9-5 sounded dreadful so she found another way.  The key to Lauren’s success was stepping back and asking a powerful question, “What would make me happy?” So many of us are always trying to please others rather than coming from a space of authenticity. Eliminating negative self talk Self criticism is something that seems to come so easy. Disliking who we are or our body. Lauren shares how she has turned around her negative self talk into empowering affirmations. Start with acceptance and love yourself exactly as you are.  It’s equally important to know your triggers. What brings upon insecurity, doubt and fear? Embrace these moments and then find a way to break your pattern. It could be as simple as replacing with an I am statement or taking a walk around the block.  Your vibe attracts your tribe Lauren has stepped into her authenticity by making herself a priority as well as choosing good vibes to consume. Whether it’s podcasts or reading, she is constantly filling herself up with motivation and inspiration. By doing this, she’s able to give the same to those who surround her.  In closing, be you; shine bright.    To listen in to the full episode, click below. TUNE IN

 Life’s a Marathon, Not a Sprint | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 00:12:14

Episode #138 As cliche as it may sound, life’s a marathon, not a sprint. I just ran a full marathon – that’s 26.2 miles this past weekend and I have so many takeaways from finishing this race.  I realize not everyone is a runner and if you’re not, you don’t understand the “runners high”. That’s ok. You DO have your thing – maybe it’s painting, or music or dancing. I’ve been a runner since I can remember and used to go for a jog on the reg. It’s my moving meditation. Try something new Back in 2011, I decided to challenge myself and signed up for a half marathon. To say I was unprepared is an understatement. I “trained” some but the longest distance I got to was 8 miles. I ended up finishing that race in 2:04 which is a decent time, but I was in excruciating pain for weeks after. I learned the hard way what lack of preparation will do. I created a wall and a story that running was painful and although a love of mine, I no longer wanted to do. To me, running meant pain and I never wanted to experience that again. Don’t quit – learn and try again We all do this. After a bad experience we create walls and barriers to keep us safe. It’s called a shield or our comfort zone. That’s a fine place to hang but you’ll never grow or really experience what life has to offer if you stay there. Something clicked in me last summer after dominating a box jump that I was equally afraid of. After stumbling and falling while trying to jump on top, I finally made it and had inches to spare. That’s when I had the thought – I’m going to run a marathon. When you can step into the unknown and challenge yourself emotionally, physically and mentally, you grow leaps and bounds. This time around, I followed an 18 week training plan, watched documentaries on running, read books on marathons and learned about mindset. This time I would not learn the hard way. Enjoy the journey The day finally arrived; I barely slept the night before but I wasn’t even tired. I lined up for the start and off I went. To my surprise I was cruising, averaging under 8:30 miles which was one minute faster than training pace. I kept well under 9:00 most of the race.  I hit obstacles along the way. Fatigue felt real. The pain felt real but my mindset was so tuned in I was beyond confident I would finish. And, I did with a time of 4:14. I’m mostly proud that I truly enjoyed the journey, every step of the way. I gave it my all. Get back on the horse Life’s a marathon, not a sprint. Where have you quit when things got tough? Where have you thrown in the towel? Where have you stayed inside of your comfort zone because it was safe? I challenge you to be brave. To take a leap of faith and go all in – on something. What have you been resisting? Is it starting a new project, quitting your job, getting into or out of a relationship? Whatever you fear most, go TOWARDS. You’ll learn along the way and the fear will no longer have power of you.   To listen in to the full episode, click below. TUNE IN  

 How to Overcome the “Shoulds” | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 00:40:37

Episode #137   How to Overcome the “Shoulds” James Grima joined me to share with you how to overcome the shoulds and step into your authenticity. This is a common phenomenon – I should do this, I should do that, I should’ve done this, I should’ve done that… Stop shoulding all over yourself! Rather than worry about the “should” it’s time to focus on what you actually want to be doing. James spent years doing what he “should” do and he finally hit a wall. He didn’t want to live a life by default or what he should do. He wanted to live life doing what he wanted to do. Just fucking own it In order for James to step into his authenticity and out of the shoulds, he had to own himself. He had to tap into who he really is and make that his new default. Stop living by default What happens when we live by default or according to the shoulds, we tend to feel trapped. I know I can relate as I worked in corporate for over a decade and just couldn’t do it anymore. James asked himself important questions – “What do I want for my life, myself, my career, relationships? Who do I want to be?” If you’ve found yourself living a should life, maybe it’s time to start asking yourself these questions. If you could do anything, what would you be doing? How would you wake up each day? What makes you fulfilled? Enjoy the journey When you make a decision to living through authenticity know it’s a process. You have to be ok with stepping into uncertainty. And then, you have to trust that all will work out. And it will as it has for James. Although cliche, be willing to jump and let the net appear. On a final note, live by values you choose. Not from default.   To listen in to the full episode, click below. TUNE IN

 7 Steps to Build Self Confidence | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 00:07:04

Episode #136 I’m stoked to share this week’s topic with you – 7 steps to build self confidence. Confidence is a sexy trait to have and many people lack belief and trust in themselves. That’s why I’ve decided to share seven simple ways to help you build more confidence.  Have you ever been to a party, or noticed somebody at work or attended a networking event that seem to work the room effortlessly and draw people to them? That’s confidence in a nutshell. I’m not talking about cocky or arrogance, but rather owning and knowing one’s capabilities.  Just try it I’ve struggled with confidence at times – we all can fall into the trap of not feeling enough. Whether we believe we’re not smart enough, fit enough, good looking enough, tall enough etc., it’s time to stop feeding your insecurities and boost up your confident beliefs. 7 Steps to Build Self Confidence Here are my 7 steps to build self confidence: Fake it ’til you make it – the easiest way to start something new is to try. Even if you don’t believe you’re smart enough or pretty enough or have any chance at whatever task you’re trying to accomplish, fake it by pretending you are and can. Your mind will believe whatever you tell it.  Straighten up – posture is everything. Stand tall, be proud. Look up and face those around you. Nobody wants to talk to a slouchy person who wreaks of insecurity. Turn it up – find that song that makes you feel like Madonna or Justin Timberlake (or whoever you think is rad). This song will pump you up and have you struttin’ around like you actually believe in yourself. Dress like the person you want to be – when you look good, you feel good and anything is possible. If you wear baggy clothes or never step out of athleisure, you probably feel a bit dumpy too. Try something new – it can be as simple as saying hello to a stranger. Bust outside of your comfort. You’ll realize you’re far more capable than you give yourself credit for and hey, you’ll become more confident too. Say thank you – learn how to accept a compliment. Whether or not you believe it, just say thank you. You might even start to believe in what others see in you. Repeat – practice makes perfect. The more you do these steps the quicker they become natural habits which makes for a more confident you. Confidence is sexy. Own it. Finally, believe in yourself and you will be unstoppable. To listen in to the full episode, click below. TUNE IN  

 Blindsided to Blessed: Welcome to the Second Act | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 00:40:37

Episode #135   Blindsided to Blessed: Welcome to the Second Act Frank Clark, a.k.a. Mr. Orange joined me this week to share how he went from blindsided to blessed and created his second act. There’s two things in life that are absolutely guaranteed – death and disappointment. How you deal with tragedy is totally up to you. Blindsided and devastated After returning from Date With Destiny (a Tony Robbins full immersion life changing event), Frank was stoked to go home and implement what he had learned, especially in his marriage. To his surprise, shortly after returning his relationship turned to divorce and he was devastated. Frank shared with me a very powerful statement “You create, promote and allow everything that happens in your life”. What I loved about this is how he embraced what was happening, although unplanned, and turned it into a huge blessing. He found the silver lining. Grieving, it’s a process The grieving process wasn’t easy but it was necessary to move on.  A key point Frank shared was that all events in life only have the meaning you attach to it. Will you play victim or victor?  When the grieving process was over Frank turned to gratitude and chose to find peace in order for him to begin his new chapter. For many people, their identity is wrapped up in a relationship or being a parent and like parents who become empty nesters, getting divorced in his late 50’s, Frank had to create a new identity.  If in hell, keep going Rather than play victim and have a pity party because life didn’t go as planned, he found opportunity. He found the blessing. Just like you, Frank has survived 100% of his worst days. He states that your focus and attitude are choices you get to make each day. Go out with no regrets Frank has turned this devastation into a declaration – it’s his second act. He has nothing but zest for life. He even said, “Hell on earth is to meet the person you COULD have been”. Wherever you’re at in life, embrace the suck. Each day is a fresh start. Don’t wait until the end, become the person you wish to be NOW.   To listen in to the full episode, click below. TUNE IN

 Seeking Contentment vs. Fulfillment | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 00:05:58

Episode #134 I had planned to do a podcast on one episode and then after two nudges this morning, I realized I needed to talk about seeking contentment vs. fulfillment. Contentment and fulfillment are NOT the same thing. By definition, contentment is happiness or satisfaction, fulfillment on the other hand is the achievement of something desired. Contentment vs. Fulfillment Contentment is fleeting because as it’s based on happiness, happiness is circumstantial. It comes and goes. We also tend to place being happy on outside circumstances such as I’ll be happy when ___________. If you expect external things to bring an internal condition, you’ll never find it. Fulfillment on the other hand comes from within. To me, being fulfilled means my cup runneth over. It means tapping into passion and purpose. It may also mean feeling peace and zen from within. That to me is what life is all about. Don’t be another robot In our society, he have been conditioned to become content. We dread Monday’s and cheer on Friday’s week in and week out. We’re content with a stable paycheck even if we hate our job. We’re content in a relationship because we’re comfortable, but not fulfilled. We’ve “settled” for this will do. You have one chance at this thing called life. I hope you want to tap into fulfillment and leave being content behind. Make this year, a year of finding fulfillment, joy, peace and purpose. To listen in to the full episode, click below. TUNE IN  

 How to Unwrap a New Mindset | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 00:29:12

Episode #133   How to Unwrap a New Mindset Danny Torres joined me this week to share his steps on how to unwrap a new mindset. I talk about mindset all of the time. In fact, I truly do believe that mindset is everything. What you think about and focus on is what you will experience. Be intentional with what you’re consuming. Have you ever heard the term 80% psychology, 20% mechanics? If your beliefs, habits and self talk are on point, everything else will line up. In this episode, Danny shares his tips on how to unwrap a new mindset. The first step is being aware – what are your limiting beliefs, negative self talk and your environment? In order to transform you first have to know where you’re starting. When you become aware of your patterns and habits, you can better understand your triggers and anchors. What you speak about, you bring about. The next step is paying attention to your language. What words are you using? Do you speak from a space of abundance, possibility and excitement? Or, do you speak from a space of lack, struggle and no way out? Danny gave a perfect example of how he was aware of a trigger of feeling anxious and then how we created a new anchor. Anytime he felt a bout of anxiety he would laugh! Laughing created a new anchor and the feelings of anxiousness turned into excitement.  Creating new habits. You can literally do this with anything. Procrastination, eating habits, follow through, laziness, you name it. The key though, having a strong why. Without that, motivation dies off and then old patterns return.   To listen in to the full episode, click below. TUNE IN

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