The #staymarried PODCAST
Summary: Real Life Advice for Beating the Odds. Brought to you by Tony and Michelle Peterson, founders of the #staymarried blog. Find out more at staymarriedblog.com
"Dear Tony and Michelle, I am just coming out of 3 years of postnatal depression and lost all connection with my husband who I was blaming for all our problems. I am a child of divorce and if it wasn’t for the children I would have broken off the relationship very easily. I see things differently now and I am determined to be happy and allow and create happiness around me. I could use your help..." In this episode we tackle this question from Maya and cover topics like blame, being a safety net, and why community matters. Find out more and submit your own question about marriage at staymarriedpodcast.com
Shawn and Dorina have been married 2.5 years and live in Central California with their three active daughters. Shawn works in financial investments and Dorina is an author/speaker. This multicultural couple loves to travel, train for marathons, and have food adventures together. If you saw them on the beach you'd never know that theirs is a love story of triumph. After Dorina's first marriage ended swiftly, leaving her a widow and a single mother, Shawn's friendship turned affection came as a complete surprise. Their story shows us that life will never head in the same direction straight in front of us that we imagine it will. But, even when we face utter heartbreak and complete upheaval of our dreams, love wins in the end. If love hasn't won, it's not the end. Find out more at staymarriedpodcast.com
By now we know that if we want our marriages to be healthy we have to do a better job of connecting with each other. But, the common demands of life make it more and more difficult to remember that connecting means more than living life alongside each other. We have to be purposeful. Making connecting with each other simpler was the major motivation behind writing the book #staymarried: A Couple's Devotional. This book contains 52 chapters, one for each week of the year, and is designed as an invitation into your own marriage. In this episode, we go through one of the chapters together for the first time since the book was published - Week 17: Pay Attention - and answer the discussion questions candidly. We were each surprised by each other's insights and responses, and we both finished the conversation feeling pretty good about ourselves and each other. We hope you do, too. Find out more at staymarriedbook.com
In case you missed it, we're taking a short break for the holidays. We'll be back with new episodes starting January 2nd. Keep your eye on Instagram for December giveaways. Find out more at staymarriedpodcast.com
Do you ever feel like you are just all the way done doing all the things all the time? You know you need help, but how do you even ask? In this episode, Tony and Michelle answer a question from Ask #staymarried, a wife wrote in asking for help with some burn-out she’s experiencing. They dig into unpaid work and inequality as well as what it really means to build a life together. Find out more at staymarriedpodcast.com
Money matters are often listed in the top 5 reasons couples argue. But, what if something as intense as the topic of finances could instead bring us closer together? In this episode Tony and Michelle sit down with Elle Martinez of Couple Money to get to the root of these arguments and come out financially stronger as a team. Find out more at staymarriedpodcast.com
Tommy and Codie Oilver are the creators of Black Love, a docuseries on the Oprah Winfrey Network featuring married couples talking about what it takes to make love last. Codie is the director and the couple produces together. The show debuted on OWN as the highest rated unscripted series in the network’s history and featured couples like Viola Davis & Julius Tennon, Tia Mowry and Cory Hardrict, Sterling K. Brown and Ryan Michelle Bathe, and Grant Hill and his wife Tamia. Now, the reason I’m doing all of this name dropping is because, as you’ll hear in our interview with them, Tommy and Codie really won’t. But this intentionality they have with choosing their guests is significant to me because, what they’ve done by interviewing everyone from celebrities to non-celebrities is to show that nobody is above fights over dishes and laundry. They show clearly that there is no one perfect way to make a marriage work. Find out more at staymarriedpodcast.com
Today we're going to tackle a couple of the most common marriage problems we hear about from you through Ask #staymarried. We're answering, not one, but TWO questions from listeners. With the first question, we'll address Laura and answer how to take criticism from your partner, and then we'll answer a question from "Not into Horses" on how to navigate boundaries with the in-laws. Find out more at staymarriedpodcast.com
Team Peterson get Jesse and Marisa Butterworth involved when requests for an adoption story come in. In this episode the Butterworths share their adoption story and invite us into the reality of what being adoptive parents is really like.
In this episode, we look at a question from Rachael submitted to Ask #staymarried. She’s concerned that her husband Shawn, who once attended church with her regularly, would now prefer to spend his Sundays hunting and fishing. She asked us if we have advice on how to “get him to come to church” with her. We address that, as well as our own perspective on our current “church shopping” journey. You can find out more at staymarriedpodcast.com
"I used to think miscarriage and infant loss were women's issues," Adriel told us. "But, after going through this with my own husband, I see that these things impact both men and women, and your entire family and community." Ryan and Adriel Booker generously share their experience with grief and loss and also hope. After experiencing 3 miscarriages, they reflect on their journey and share much wisdom for the rest of us. Whether you've experienced miscarriage and loss in your own life or not, statistically speaking you know someone who has and this episode will shine a light on what it's really like and how to navigate these rough waters with your marriage intact.
It's tough to work on your relationship when your basic needs are threatened. Losing your job, your home, or your business unexpectedly can be one of the greatest strains a relationship can endure. Tony and Michelle use Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs as a lens to talk about why this season of unemployment has been such a strain on their own relationship. They also share the practical tools they used to make sure they were still on the same team.
At just two and a half years in, Ochelle was wondering if she'd made a mistake marrying O'Brian. This young couple from Brooklyn made a decision at that point to pivot, and that decision has made this their best year yet. We think you'll enjoy hearing about O'Brian and Ochelle's Devotional Journey. Learn more about OluvesO and other resource links at staymarriedpodcast.com
A lot can happen in a year. Some years of our marriage have felt like imprints of the years before, but not this year. This year had more twists and turns, highs and lows, wins and losses, than any of our previous 11 years together. Whew! We are still trying to catch our breath from this whirlwind and we know we are far from settled just yet. But, that's not stopping us... We are thrilled to be back with Season 4 of The #staymarried Podcast. Go to staymarriedpodcast.com for complete show notes.
Tony and Michelle are back! Season 4 of The #staymarried Podcast starts September 19th! Become a #staymarried supporter by heading over to patreon.com/staymarried or leave us a message and be a part of the show by calling 262.622.6638