Talking To Teens
Summary: Parent-teen researcher Andy Earle talks with various experts about the art and science of parenting teenagers. Find more at www.talkingtoteens.com
David Allen is the author of "Getting Things Done", one of the best selling business books of all time. On this episode, he explains how to get teens excited and motivated about their goals and productive as they pursue those goals.
Suanne Kowal Connelly, author of Parenting Through Puberty, shares insights from her years as a pediatrician helping teens navigate the waters of their changing bodies and brains. She reveals when to start talking about puberty, how to start the conversation, and the important topics to discuss. Suanne also explains how to use techniques from Motivational Interviewing to improve your effectiveness during these talks.
Robert J. Meyers is the author of "Getting Your Loved One Sober". In this episode, he explores strategies that parents can use to get teenagers to stop using drugs and alcohol.
Paul Angone, author of 101 Questions You Need to Ask In Your Twenties, gets into a discussion about the process of finding your identity and discovering your unique "secret sauce" to bring to the world. The key is to push teens to take on increasingly more responsibility in their lives while also taking the right kinds of risks. Paul reveals exactly what parents should say to get the best results.
Todd Cartmell, author of 8 Simple Tools for Raising Great Kids, is an expert in dealing with difficult teenagers. In this episode he goes into extreme detail, revealing additional specifics and strategies not found in the book. He explains how to get a strong bond with a teenager and then use this as a home base to redirect them to a better way.
Dana Suchow, founder of Do The Hotpants, discusses what parents need to know to discuss eating disorders with a teenager. She also explains how to connect with teenagers about exercise in a positive way, words you should absolutely avoid when talking about food, and a lesson in where negative body image comes from.
David McGlynn, author of "One Day You'll Thank Me" along with two other books, as well as a college professor, gets candid on this episode about some truly awkward conversations he had to have with his two teenage boys. But by stepping up and doing to awkward talks (and by polling his students about how their own parents discussed sex) he developed some important insights about how to approach the tough conversations.
Neal Thompson, author of the book Kickflip Boys, discusses the drama of raising rebellious and defiant teenagers. His boys were swept into skateboarding at an early age, which Neal enjoyed at first. But as the kids hit their teenage years, the skateboarding lifestyle led them to develop extremely defiant attitudes. On this episode, Neal discusses the strategies he found that worked for getting through to his kids in the end.
Amy Morin, bestselling author of 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do, and a leading expert on how to instill grit and emotional strength in children, discusses lessons she learned from her years as a foster parent to dozens of children and as a psychologist who helps families through difficult transitions.
Brandilyn Tebo, bestselling author of The Achievement Trap and a retreat leader and life coach, talks to Andy about how parents often instill harmful beliefs in their teens without even realizing it. Because we love them and want them to be happy, we tend to teach our teens about the importance of doing well in school and other activities. But, as Brandilyn points out, it's important to also help teens develop a practice of unconditional self love. This episode is full of word-for-word scripts you can use to make it happen.
Lucy Maddox, author of Blueprint, discusses adolescent neuroscience on this episode. She explains that, when we look back later on, teenage memories can seem bigger than others because we often try many things for the first time during the teenage years and our first experience with something can be very heightened. Of course, social experiences are also heightened during the teenage years. Lucy reveals what you should teach your teen about friendships and relationships.
Chris Voss, the former lead international hostage negotiator for the FBI and author of the bestselling book Never Split the Difference: Negotiating as if Your Life Depended on it, speaks with Andy about how to win negotiations with your teenager over things like curfew, cell phone usage, and other rules.
Tim Bono, author of When Likes Aren't Enough, takes us behind the scenes of the science of teenage happiness. He reveals some strategies parents can use to help teens cope with setbacks and maintain a positive outlook in the face of obstacles and failure. Ultimately, the tools discussed in this interview are things that can also improve your own life if you apply them.
Thomas Lickona, author of How to Raise Kind Kids, reveals how parents can combat the constant barrage of influence on teenagers from peers, media, and the internet. This requires creating a family culture so strong it overpowers the negative influences. In this episode, we lay out a guide for how to apply these techniques with teens.
Hannah Seymour, author of The College Girls Survival Guide, reveals what she has learned from years of running a Christian advice blog for teenage girls. She explains how to share stories with teens about your own mistakes and how to encourage them to make the right kinds of friends.