Better Than Happy

I’ve been wanting to talk about a particular emotion that comes up a lot in my coaching: relief. Relief is the emotion we feel when we finally relax after feeling stressed, tense, tight, or under pressure. Many of my clients talk about wanting to feel relief from something, typically a negative emotion or a stressful circumstance. I’m breaking down relief in this episode and talking about why it’s important to really examine what it is you want relief from. Often, we’re creating stress for ourselves with our thoughts about external circumstances and that’s why we want relief. We think that by changing the thing that’s making us worried, unhappy, or stressed, we’ll finally feel relieved. But relief is often much closer than we think. Listen in as I share some stories about clients who have been seeking relief, what I recommended for them, and what I want you to think about when you’re feeling negative emotions that make you want to seek relief.  We’ll also talk about dirty emotions versus clean emotions, locating your emotions in your body, and why joy is the ultimate form of relief. Like what you heard on today’s show? Join me this week for one of my free webinars! I’ll be answering your questions, talking about how to stop emotionally eating, sharing the secrets of successful mompreneurs, and so much more. I’m also hosting my first-ever, live, public coaching call – come join us! What You’ll Learn on this Episode: * Why you should examine what you want relief from before you try to seek it. * How we seek relief from “dirty” negative emotions, while “clean” negative emotions are a relief in themselves. * How to feel relief even when things aren’t going the way you wanted or expected them to go. * Why we often layer negative emotions on top of each other (e.g. “I’m stressed about being worried all the time!”) rather than simply allowing ourselves to feel our negative emotions. * How to move from a neutral emotion like relief to a positive emotion like joy or peace without having to change your external circumstances. Mentioned on the Show: * Come hang out with me in Seattle at Better Than Happy Live! I’ll be there in June to spend a whole day with you, give you a taste of coaching, and record a live podcast all about how to create a deliberate future. My Utah date in April is all sold out, so hurry and grab your tickets! * Join me for one (or more!) of my free webinars this week!: * Ask Jody Anything * How To Stop Emotionally Eating * When Your Child Is Struggling * Success Secrets For Mompreneurs * Or join me on a live, public coaching call! I’m Jody Moore and this is Better Than Happy, episode 193, Relief.

Relationships surround us every minute of every day. We have relationships with our spouse, our kids, our friends, our community, and even ourselves. Even though these relationships can all be very different, every single one of them is made up of the same three components: what the other person thinks of you, what you think of the other person, and what you think of yourself. On this episode of the podcast, I’m walking through these three components to explain why every relationship we have exists entirely in our own mind. This is great news: it means that we are 100% in control of our relationships with other people. And that means we can choose to have compassion, curiosity, and love for other people, rather than worrying about whether or not they really like or approve of us. Together we’ll explore what it looks like to love people even when they criticize or doubt us, how Christ embodied this approach to relationships, and why your relationship with yourself is a key component of any relationship you may have. Like what you heard on today’s show? Join me this week for one of my free webinars! I’ll be answering your questions, talking about how to stop emotionally eating, sharing the secrets of successful mompreneurs, and so much more. I’m also hosting my first-ever, live, public coaching call – come join us! What You’ll Learn on this Episode: * The three components that comprise every single relationship. * Why every relationship actually exists inside your own mind. * How to practice compassion and curiosity in relationships where the other person may not like or approve of you. * Why the idea that everyone must like you for you to feel good about yourself is completely misguided. * How your relationship with yourself affects all of your relationships (and every other area of your life, too). Mentioned on the Show: * Join me for one (or more!) of my free webinars this week!: * Ask Jody Anything * How To Stop Emotionally Eating * When Your Child Is Struggling * Success Secrets For Mompreneurs * Or join me on a live, public coaching call! * Pema Chödrön I’m Jody Moore and this is Better Than Happy, episode 192, Three Components of a Relationship. This podcast is for people who know that living an extraordinary life is not easy or comfortable. It’s so much better than that. This is Better Than Happy, and I’m your host, Jody Moore. Hey everybody, welcome to episode 192. We’re going to talk about the three components of a relationship. This is an idea that I wanted to share with you after teaching a class to some of the young women in our stake last week. I thought, hmm, that’s kind of an interesting way to present it.

On last week’s episode Brooke Castillo and I discussed religion and the response has been so overwhelming about how much you loved it. This week I share some additional thoughts based on 5 years of coaching members of The Church about how we sometimes, unconsciously use the very beliefs that can make our lives better, to hurt us. Tune in and gain some awareness to help prevent falling into these traps. To register for a free upcoming webinar with Jody CLICK HERE.

Today I am sharing with you a conversation I recently had with Brooke Castillo about religion. We discuss the difference between your relationship with God and your relationship with your religion, where God fits in the model and why our experience of God is so much stronger when we’re suffering. Thanks to Brooke for her willingness to come on the show. I know you’ll enjoy this episode.

Part of our ability to interact with one another in an appropriate way means we censor ourselves. This is healthy and I wouldn’t want you to drop it. But sometimes we have an opportunity to be more honest with one another about what we think or feel. I wonder what would happen if we all started saying what we mean a little more and believing other people a little more as well. Tune in as I share some ideas about how this can deepen your connections with one another.

If you’ve listened to this podcast for long you know that I teach that your circumstance doesn’t need to change for you to get the result you want in your life. I also teach that focusing on the circumstance is not the most effective way, but today, I want to talk to you about the irony of how circumstances sometimes do change once we do the work of not needing them to. Tune in to learn more and for tons of real life examples. If you want to come to a live call and get some free help from me, click HERE. Grab your ticket to Better Than Happy Live in Salt Lake City or Seattle click HERE.

One of the questions I get a lot is, “What is the difference between traditional therapy or counseling and coaching?” Today Natalie and I are tackling that question. We’ll tell you what we love about therapy and why we think coaching is a better fit in many situations. Tune in as we discuss the challenges of marriage, how a coach helps you through it, and why we believe not all marriages should last forever. Sign up for a free consultation with Natalie

SIGN UP HERE for Ask Jody Anything to learn how to solve any problem in your life and to learn about how to get more help from me. Today I’m answering questions sent in by you, my listeners. I’ll be answering the following questions: * How do I teach this to my kids? * What do I do if people think I’m the difficult one in the family? * How do you learn to hold yourself accountable and follow through? * Where is the line between though work and changing up something that isn’t serving you in your life? * What advice would you give to a classroom of 11 and 12-year-olds? * How do I find my passion and purpose after being a stay-at-home mom for a long time? * How do I slow down my thoughts enough to stop yelling at my kids? * How can I stop being annoyed at my husband when he plays video games?”   You’ll also hear why I’m not a fan of love languages. Thanks to everyone who sent in a question for today’s episode. CLICK HERE to access my free course “How to Stop Yelling At Your Kids.”

CLICK HERE to ask me a question. Is there such a thing as right and wrong? Yes. And no. Today I’m talking about this concept with regards to decisions you make to help you be more confident and timely in your decision making. Indecision is a dream killer. Don’t fall for that. We’ll also talk about right and wrong with regards to your past, and to the decisions people in your life may be making that your brain keeps telling you they shouldn’t be. CLICK HERE to read the full document The Family: A Proclamation to the World  

Come ask me a question and learn how to solve any problem all for free: CLICK HERE I love to sleep. I could be a professional napper. But sometimes I just don’t get as much as I wish I could. Sometimes it’s the kids in my bed or my brain running wild in the night. Other times it’s me staying up too late doing something important like a Netflix binge. Today I want to tell you why those nights when you didn’t get in the hours you wanted don’t have to create problems for you the next day. This is simple but has been life changing for me.

Today I have a fantastic treat for you. Natalie and I sat down with our daughters (ages 9, 10 and 11) to talk about emotions, thoughts, friends, advice for parents and what’s so great about being a kid today. You’ll hear about the tools Natalie and I teach which our girls understand, and the parts they don’t. Teaching this work to your kids begins with you being an example of it, but it also isn’t something you need to feel badly about if they don’t “get it.” Please enjoy this conversation with some of my favorite girls on the planet.

Sometimes we have thoughts that we know are negative. We may not be able to change them but it’s easy to identify them as problem thoughts. Then, other times, we have thoughts that sound useful. They feel necessary. They sound pretty or righteous or feel very justified and reasonable. Maybe other people offer them to us or agree that they are the right thoughts. These sneaky little guys are the ones I want to talk to you about today. They can be just as detrimental to us as the more obviously negative ones and your ability to identify them for that will help to give you authority over them.

After achieving some mind-blowing goals in 2018 I decided to take a look at the 4-step process that got me there so I can utilize it again in 2019. Today I’m sharing that process with you to keep in mind as you set your goals. My most favorite part of achieving a goal is the part that requires faith and magic. I always leave lots of room for them and I know how to invite the magic in and keep it alive. Tune in to learn how to utilize these tools in your life to solve problems or rock your goals.

Today’s episode is the third and final segment of Better Than Happy Live. If you’ve been listening to this series you’ve heard just a tiny bit of what I cover at this full day workshop style event, but I hope it gives you a deeper look into how applying these tools in your life literally changes everything. In today’s segment we talk a lot about emotions. Specifically, what to do with the negative ones and why being willing to feel them and not resist them is the secret to achieving your dreams.

Today I’m bringing you a second segment from Better Than Happy Live. Listen in as I coach real people with real issues and we apply the tools you’ve heard here on the podcast. Before the live segment I’m sharing with you some perspective on the perfect Christmas. It’s right around the corner and I want to help you have the perfect day. You ready? Let’s do it. CLICK HERE to get your ticket to Better Than Happy Live