The AskTheMartins Podcast with Kenyon and Taccara

On this episode of the Soul-Ties Podcast, We are answering a letter from a young lady who is dating a man that won't feed her in the love language she desires. She's tried EVERYTHING and he still refuses. What Should She DO?!?!? Listen in as we not only give HER advice, but also give some advice to the married people that may be dealing with this as well. Do you have a burning question that you'd like for us to feature on the Podcast? Send us a DM via Facebook OR IG @AsktheMartins. Want us to be your Private Coach and walk you through some relationship issues? Join the Healthy Love Club! Learn more at theHealthyLoveClub.com!

This Week On the Soul-Ties Podcast, We're Answering All Your Questions About SOUL-TIES! -Why They're So Hard to Break -Why Sexual Soul-Ties Impact Us So Much -Why Doesn't Anyone Talk About MEN and Soul-Ties?!? ...And So Much More! If You Are Ready to Break Soul-Ties With Your Toxic Past, Toxic Ex, Or Even a Divorce That You're Trying to Recover From, You Can Now Take the Soul-Ties Detox Course in The Healthy Love Club ANNND Get the Soul-Ties Detox Book For Free!!!

In This Episode of the Soul-Ties Podcast, We spend an entire hour answering your dating questions...And they are SOOOO Good! Take a listen as we answer questions like: "How soon is it to make your dating intentions known?" "Why do Toxic People Speak My Love Language So Well?!" ...And SOO MANY MORE!! Ask Your Relationship Questions at RelationshipGoals.Tv Want Us As Your Personal Coach for Dating and Relationship Matters? Visit Us at theHealthyLoveClub.com to learn how! Find us on all social media outlets @AskTheMartins

In this episode of the Soul-Ties Podcast, we are answering a letter from young lady who allowed a man back in her life from her past and he disappointed her...AGAIN. She made a New Year's Resolution that she would let him go for good but she is ITCHING to go back and give him a piece of her mind and let him know how badly he hurt her again...Should she do it? Listen in as we give her some sound advice on what to do, and how to move forward! Need some relationship advice or help navigating dating and relationships? Visit the Soul-Ties Healthy Love Club at theHealthyLoveClub.com

Welcome to Season 2 of the Soul-Ties Podcast! We are kicking it off in February and focusing on Love and Dating! On This Episode, we are helping you make some Love & Dating Declarations to help you lay a better foundation for your future relationships! This episode has been sponsored by the Soul-Ties Healthy Love Club! Have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Visit RelationshipGoals.tv!

In This Episode of the Soul-Ties Podcast, We are answering a letter from a young lady that is trying to figure out why EVERY man she's dated in the last 2 years has left her?!? We unpack some serious and gut-wrenching truths and you don't want to miss it. This episode has been brought to you by the Soul-Ties Crazy Self Love Challenge. If you're tired of giving your all in relationships and getting nothing in return, join us for a week of CRAZY Self Love and learn to LOVE YOU the way you've loved them. Visit Crazy Self Love Challenge TODAY and register for FREE!

On this episode of the Soul-Ties Podcast, we answer TWO letters. One from a young lady who is struggling with the idea of dating a man she KNOWS she is settling for. Another from a young lady who divorced her husband and, against her better judgement, let him back in. Listen in as we answer these 2 letters. Are you struggling to get over a break-up, divorce or toxic relationship? The Soul Ties Detox is the first of its kind, 40-day program that guides on a journey of discovery from heartbreak to wholeness. Visit theSoulTiesShop.com TODAY!

On this episode of the Soul-Ties Podcast, we answer a letter from a young lady who is trying to decide if she should give her husband a chance after he had an affair that resulted in a child! What would YOU DO?!? Listen in as we help her understand her options and give her some guidance for what lies ahead. Have a Relationship Question That You'd Like Us to Answer? Send us your questions via Facebook Messenger at Facebook.com/AskTheMartins! Learn More About Breaking Soul-Ties and Overcoming the Devastation of Heartbreak at TheSoulTiesDetox.com!

On this episode of the Soul-Ties Podcast, we answer a letter from a young woman who has just gone through a divorce but found out that she will NEVER be fully rid of him because of what he's left her with. Listen in on how we help her begin to navigate the idea of dating, love and acceptance! Have a Relationship Question? Send us your questions via Facebook Messenger at Facebook.com/AskTheMartins! Learn More About Breaking Soul-Ties and Overcoming the Devastation of Heartbreak at TheSoulTiesDetox.com!

On This Episode of the Soul-Ties Podcast, we are answering a letter from a wife who says her husband is a mama's boy and she always comes second to her mother-in-law! Listen in to how we answer this letter and give her some actionable steps to help heal her marriage! Have a Relationship Question? Send us your questions via Facebook Messenger at Facebook.com/AskTheMartins! Learn More About Breaking Soul-Ties and Overcoming the Devastation of Heartbreak at TheSoulTiesDetox.com!

This week on the Soul-Ties Podcast, we answer a SIMPLE question that's often complicated to navigate: How Do You Break Soul-Ties When Children Are Involved? For more information on the Soul-Ties Detox OR to get your relationship questions answered, visit TheSoulTiesDetox.com

This week on the Soul-Ties Podcast, we are answering another explosive letter from our DMs where a woman, devastated after a break-up feels she can't move on until she gets closure! For more information on the Soul-Ties Detox OR to get your relationship questions answered, visit TheSoulTiesDetox.com For Information on How YOU Can Find Freedom After a Devastating Break-Up, consider the Soul-Ties Detox program found at TheSoulTiesDetox.com! The Letter: Dear Ken & Taccara, I was referred to your podcast by one of my friends and I am hoping you can help me. So My ex and I were together for a little over a year. We met online and it was long distance because he was Military. Even at a distance I felt the connection because I was there for him when he felt really alone at times. Over a few months we got to know each other pretty well because all we could do was—TALK. We talked about everything. our lives, our upbringing, and our pasts. I learned that he had a pretty tough childhood and he thought it would scare me away, but his honesty made me fall in love with him even more. The fact that he trusted me made me open to trusting him. As soon as he got home from deployment, we finally saw each other and it was a done deal, we were together. He was great and took care of me and made me feel really special. We began to make plans together for the future. To me that didn't just mean knowing him, it was knowing his family, But he would never talk about his family. I mean, I introduced him to my family… everybody, my mom sisters…friends… That's normal right? So I thought he was being weird, but he insisted that his family was distant and they didn’t have a good relationship…AND he didn’t even have friends that were close enough to come visit…I know, I know that was a red flag… but still I loved him and I was planning my Life with him.  So One day I did it, I went through his phone when he was in the shower. I know it was wrong but I couldn’t help it. Part of me was just hoping he was sharing me to his family or a friend…even a military buddy…the other part of me was just looking for what's really going on. I didn't see nothing about any family I thought I’d see…Oh I saw some family and I saw some friends BUT NOT WHAT I WAS LOOKING FOR. I saw different women asking him “when are you coming back?” OR “not sure if you’ll see this since you’re deployed but…then a naked pic” all these texts from different women… But then I saw a message from a little girl asking "daddy, what day do you come back again? “” and he told her February for her birthday… the same month he told me he was being deployed again… I'm sitting here planning my life with a man who I just found out has a whole family, fiancée, daughter, all of that.  Yall My world was shattered but I was praying that it was just a big mistake or big misunderstanding. I confronted him about it. He got so angry like I did it.  He started throwing things and telling me that I was insecure and disrespectful. He told me I was needy, he felt sorry for me… He blamed me for him being with me... Like I made him do that.  After that He changed, he got cold. I had no idea who this man was. He wasn’t the same guy who I was messaging and texting. And I was torn into pieces! He moved out and I haven’t heard from him. My heart hurts from what he did to me… and this will sound dumb BUT I miss him… I need to know why he chose me…hell maybe why didn't he choose me…. idk It’s been 8 months. I’ve tried searching for him online. I’ve tried calling people I knew he was deployed with (they won’t answer my calls) and I should've kept those numbers I saw… But I was too shook…. I honestly don’t even have enough information about who he really is. I just keep searching for answers AND HIM because this just CAN’T be how it all ends. I know the relationship is over, but I can’t seem to move on until I get closure. HELP

Tune in on This Episode Where We Answer This Explosive Letter Where the Listener Asks "How Could He Move On Like I Never Existed?!" The letter is posted below. This Episode Has Been Brought to You by The Soul-Ties Detox 8-Week Program. Join Us as We Walk You From HeartBreak to Wholeness using our healing centered framework found in our book, Journey to Freedom: The Soul-Ties Detox. Visit TheSoulTiesDetox.com/Course for more info! Registration is Open from 8/19-Sept 3rd Letter: Dear Kenyon and Taccara Martin, What do you do when your ex of SEVEN YEARS has a whole new life (with another woman) after only 4-months?! Please tell me cause that is where I am right NOW.  I thought we were in love. I just knew we would last forever. I thought we would end up married, eventually, but he’s always said he wanted to take his time on such a big commitment. SO, I accepted that and made a life with him in every other way. Meaning…we made plans for a future together, we saved money for a future together, we even bought a house for our future…TOGETHER. It got to the point where I just bought a ring to wear on my finger because we literally had everything else that most had in a marriage. And did I mention..WE WERE HAPPY?!?   Until last year.  Suddenly, we began fighting all the time.  I began to feel like he didn’t like me or like he was always disgusted with me or disappointed with me. Over the past year it was like he went from being the man of my dreams to living in a nightmare on elm street. As time went on, he started staying out late. On some nights he didn’t even come home. One time I didn’t see him all weekend and I literally called the police to report him as a missing person. He wouldn’t answer my calls. I didn’t know what else to think other than something happened to him.  When he finally came home, he said he was staying at his mother’s house doing some “soul searching” and came to a tough decision…he didn’t want to be with me any more. He doesn’t love me like he used to. He made a mistake staying with me for so long. He even said he felt like I took some of his best years from him because I was so needy and it made him feel obligated to stay. None of these things are words you would say to a woman you said you’d marry. But he did. It’s been 4 months since he walked out that door and, not only did he leave me with a mortgage and 2 dogs, he’s created an entire whole life with another woman. She’s friends with one of my co-workers on Facebook I found out that they live together, are planning a future together and are having a baby together. They seem so happy and I’m over here still spinning from it all. How is it that he is able to move on so EASY after leaving me so broken and feeling betrayed? For more information on the Soul-Ties Detox OR to get your relationship questions answered, visit TheSoulTiesDetox.com

On this episode of the Soul-Ties Podcast, we are answering a letter from a young woman who has been deeply hurt by someone, but she keeps going back. We've posted the letter below. For more information on the Soul-Ties Detox OR to get your relationship questions answered, visit TheSoulTiesDetox.com Dear Ken and Taccara, I am SOOO excited to have met ya’ll at woman evolve! You have no idea of how ON TIME this was…Thank you for your openness…   I picked up your detox box and book because I was hoping it would help. I know we talked a little there but I want to give some details. I can honestly say that I keep going back to someone who hurts me over and over again. He’s a "man of God" and, when we first started dating, he said I was everything he was looking for in a wife. And I have to admit that he had me right there at hello. I jumped full-speed into preparing to be his wife and began to make all of the changes and compromises for US… . We spent all of our time together, began making all sorts of plans for our future and EVERYONE of my friends that met him REALLY loved him. He was amazing.  About 5 months in, I started seeing some changes in the way he acted towards me. He stopped spending as much time with me, saying he’s gotten busy. It felt like I came at the end of whatever else he was focused on… an after thought or when he had spare time for me. Every time I asked him if we were good, he would say "yeah" and that he loved me. But it was still off. Ok.…I'm going to hurry this up… One morning, I think it was a Sunday somewhere around 3am I got a call. Not a text, not an amber alert an actual call.. I thought somebody had died…don't nobody in their right mind call like that unless they dead or in jail… But it wasn’t. It was a woman who said she’d seen my number in her man's phone and she was trying to figure out if this was what it FELT like... I asked her who her man was and sure enough, it was the same guy I'm dating. They had been together for 3 months. So I confronted him about it… He didn't even try to hide it. He was up front and said that he was “talking” to this woman. But he wouldn't be if not for me… Like what? He said that after a few months with me, he noticed things about me that weren’t exactly what he’d consider “wife material”…and this is After he called me his whole wife from Jump? When I asked him what he meant? He said I don’t support him enough. I don’t give him the attention he needs, and he wasn’t sure if I would ever change. And….because he questioned me, he was TEMPTED by other women. I know this makes me sound stupid ya’ll, but I didn’t break up with him. I tried harder to please him. I tried to be what he said I wasn't. I really believed that I wasn’t doing enough. It’s been 2 years and he’s still saying that I’m not doing enough AND during this time he’s cheated at least 2 more times. And each time, I get mad, say I’m done…leave . And then he finds his way back in either by guilting me or romancing me…both have their way of working. SOOO  That’s why I purchased your book. I'm ready for this CYCLE to be over. I'll start reading… but I wanted to get some of your insight too. Is there something wrong with me. Why can't I let go, or when I think I do…how does he keep making me feel like he did when we FIRST met! I love him. I admit it. But I don’t think he will ever give me what I deserve. What do I do?!? I want to be free, but I keep going back

In Part FOUR of our explosive series, we tackle how to get over a narcissist, while also answering some of the most common questions about these relationships. Join us as we complete in the FINAL phase of this series and then get ready for August 2018, where we return to our NORMAL Format and answer some FIRE relationship questions! For more information on the Soul-Ties Detox OR to get your relationship questions answered, visit TheSoulTiesDetox.com