Into The Lifestyle

You look down the bar and see a couple who you just know are lifestyle... how do you pick up strangers at the bar! Join us in this episode as we talk about the in's and out's of talking to people outside of the lifestyle club to see if they are open minded. We also dive into the beginning phase of developing our 10th anniversary celebration and a documentary project we have been invited into being a part of. As always we love to hear from you and to learn about your experiences so please leave us feedback here or reach out to us on ITL - intothelifestyle.com

Lifestyle Hygge - yes it's a thing and you will love it! Hygge (/ˈhjuːɡə/ HEW-gə or /ˈhuːɡə/ HOO-gə) is a Norwegian and Danish word for a mood of coziness and comfortable conviviality with feelings of wellness and contentment. Cindy LOVES this concept so we thought we would bring it to the podcast in the hopes that it will become part of your lifestyle as well. Hygge is all things comfort and sensory, which to us IS what the lifestyle is all about. From scents, to textures and onto warmth and sounds; if it makes you feel comfortable it's Hygge! We can imagine this would be an amazing concept to develop a themed swingers party around (hint, hint) - and one that will be a hit with all of your swinger lifestyle friends! Join us as we chat about Hygge, and as always reach out to use via the comment box on this website, on intothelifestyle.com or via mainstream social media to tell us about your Hygge experience! XOXO Cindy & James

There is an Art to saying No and one for receiving one. After recent conversations with members of the Into The Lifestyle community we want to talk about what giving a No can look like, and how receiving one can land in a good way. When was the last time someone told you no, and left you feeling great about the ending of whatever it was that brought them to that decision? We feel that with a little practice, every No can be a positive one... so let's explore how! Join us in the chat and feel free to share your thoughts or comments below or via one of the many channels we have available to connect with us. XOXO Cindy & James

Knowing where you are at and checking in with your partner is essential in the lifestyle. Join us as we dig into how you might be able to check in today to see if you are showing up at the right parties or events... and all of our other random thoughts like we tend to do! Also a BIG shout out to our USA based listeners for helping us climb into the #3 sexuality podcast in iTunes! We would LOVE to hear from you so please feel free to leave a comment here, reach out to us in IntoTheLifestyle or on any of the other platforms that we are on. XOXOX CIndy & James

When you have something occur in or around the lifestyle it can be easy to look at it and ask is it a Story or Me Too? Quite often the way we process and perceive an encounter or situation both in and out of the lifestyle can be filtered through all of our life experiences so it can be hard to see what truly happened. Join Cindy as she wades into this topic based on her own experiences and what she has seen while working with thousands of clients in her coaching business as they work through their own stories of experiences. Also be sure to join in on the ongoing conversation and growth on intothelifestyle.com

Having someone pass judgement in the Lifestyle can hurt even when it is from a place of not knowing all the facts. We recently experienced this from a group that we did not expect it from so join us as we process live what the feeling was like, how it is something that we see that we deal with all the time and what we are doing about it. Most likely if you are in the lifestyle you have a fear of judgement or you have experienced it so this is an important episode to tune in for! We also talk about the launch of Version 5 of IntoTheLifestyle.com in this episode as well so we will see you in the community soon I am sure!

We say Forget About Valentines Day! Hallmark has you hooked don't they??? The need to keep up with the guy in the cubicle across from you who makes sure the world knows how much money to spend to show his wife his "love". Not that there's anything wrong with that but we know your secret... Everyday is Valentine's Day at your house. You don't need flowers with a 900% price increase to show your partner how much you care. The last knowing look at the orgy you were at last weekend says it all and shows it more than you know. In this episode we also dive into some of the pillars of success in the lifestyle, what an ITLRing can do for you and our excitement for the upcoming launch of Version 5 of ITL! (and we let a few secrets out about it too) We also just realized during the recording of this show that we are only a week away from our 9th anniversary online serving the lifestyle community. How crazy awesome is that! Thanks as always for tuning in and listening! If you have comments or questions we are here to answer them! xoxo Cindy & James

Words and knowing how to use them can and will get you laid. It's a fact. Join us for Episode 50 (Yes this is number 50!!!) as we dive into a topic that we feel is one that will get you where you want in life and in the orgy rooms. Communication Strategies and knowing how to deploy them is such an important part of sexuality so you know this is going to be a juicy conversation! We also streamed this recording live on Facebook and had a bunch of fun with those that joined us so be sure to watch for future ones as we get into the groove of sharing across multiple platforms :) We love all the support and comments we get with each episode so please keep them coming! As always the best and fastest way to reach us is via Into The Lifestyle - we are there all day everyday (it seems like it anyway!) XOXO Cindy & James

You want your fantasies fulfilled and we want to help! Join us for episode 49 as we give you three tips to having your Fantasies Fulfilled Did you know that simply by following these three steps you can not only move towards having your fantasies fulfilled you will also help your partner move towards theirs. We also appreciate all the comments and love we are getting from the live Facebook feed of our shows; you are inspiring us to dig deeper into our show topics! If you want to catch our next live stream of our podcast follow us at: https://www.facebook.com/candj.intothelifestyle Thank you for all your support - we respond to every comment or message so please reach out and let us know what you think! Or join in the ongoing conversation on Into The Lifestyle! XOXO Cindy & James

Lifestyle Travel Random Ramblings Alright we admit - we attempted to record this podcast AND Live Stream on Facebook and we were a wee bit distracted! Lots of viewers joined us as we recorded this episode though so we are going to figure out a better way of including live streaming more often... which means we will need to be sure to be presentable lol. And Yes..... Saying Huatulco IS that fun - try it! In this episode we talk about lifestyle travels and random ramblings, our upcoming ITL Takeover of Paradise Lifestyle Villas and lots of random (some wine induced) ramblings... you can thank Cindy for these! As always keep the feedback coming! We are very active on the Into The Lifestyle community and also can be found on various social media platforms so reach out and say hi! XOXO CIndy & James

the Little Things Matter the Most It's so true in every aspect of your day. All of the little things matter the most when they add up to inspire a bigger outcome. In this episode we take a deep dive into the idea that an accumulation of small instances can and will add up to something bigger in your life. We also take a look at how influences, both good and bad, can affect the outcomes that you will get in every moment of your day. If you really want to see how this does change your way of being and your day start taking note of the little things that do it for you, write them down and then share them with our partner... ask them to do it as well and then compare your lists! You will then start to see the little things that work for you showing up more often in your day... (trust us this works so well, your partner just needs to be told what your little things are!) We love of the feedback we receive on the multiple platforms that we are on but truly mean it when we say that when you connect with us via ITL - Into The Lifestyle, you will get a response so much faster! Also for future episodes we would love to have a guest or two join in on the conversation so if you are in the Vancouver BC area let us know and we can see if it will work! Much Love XOXO Cindy & James

No one wants More Dick Pictures... Please! We were at a party on the weekend and the conversation evolved to I wonder who is here that is on the prowl... So at the recommendation of a friend Cindy downloaded a well known app and started swiping left... and right! It was astonishing how different the approach was by single men and their need to get off. Hey Baby, how's your Monday Damn Girl, you are super fine I can't believe you are looking, it's my lucky day! And the list goes on, and on, and on! Super fast unrequested photos of dicks ensued and Cindy started categorizing these unfortunate people before they had a chance to let their personalities shine. So this is definitely not the case on Into The Lifestyle - the single males there seem to get it and have embraced what works... and what doesn't! So have a listen as CIndy tells it like a woman on the other side of the screen is thinking - guys this is an opportunity for you to learn what works and what doesn't! Cheers everyone! XOXO Cindy & James

Meaning Making Machines We all do it but are we aware of the consequences? In this episode we talk about the meaning we make in all situations due to living in the past. The stories that we tell ourselves every second of every day based on the experiences that we have had throughout our lives brings us to a place that we are making meaning out of every encounter. But is it the right meaning? Most likely not! Every person on the planet makes their own meaning and no two will ever perfectly align. This is why recognizing this as a possibility and having the tools to have clear communication is a must; both in and out of the bedroom! Its not a bad thing to be a meaning making machine, we just need to recognize that we are doing it! When you do see the pattern it allows us to have more meaningful connections like the ones you will find on Into The Lifestyle We love hearing from you on all of our channels and we invite you to comment and leave a review if you are inspired by this subject. XOXO Cindy & James  

Disappointment and Heartbreak is everywhere but it doesn't need to be if you use a few simple tools. Join us in this episode as we talk about our experiences around dealing with disappointment and heartbreak both in and out of the lifestyle. Also in this episode we have a gift for one lucky winner, just comment on this specific post on our podcast website and one random commenter will receive a copy of one of James' favorite books; The Thank You Economy by Gary Vaynerchuk. I don't even know why I say this every time in the show notes but as always our conversation is all over the place in this episode and we cover a wide range of ideas and topics so you never know what you might pick up from this show! Thank you so much for tuning in, commenting and all of the amazing reviews! Be sure to catch us for a live chat on Into The Lifestyle :) XOXO Cindy & James

Navigating the Lifestyle can have its ups and downs... But that is normal! We hear it time and again from so many people that they are not feeling the lifestyle and then a few weeks or even months later they are back 100%. Its natural to be in the feeling and out and it is perfect as it is your journey. Check out NeuropathyHelp.co's post for guidelines in taking care of oneself. In landscaping, we dig into what the ebb and flow of the lifestyle could look like for you and how we see navigating the lifestyle can be based on our experiences as a numbers game. We also dig into online communities and what can make the special for you based on keeping your needs first as a core value in their operation. Also (and this seems to be more of as an always) the conversation takes in in lots of other directions too, so tune in and listen to what falls out of our mouths lol. If you want to take advantage of the opportunities of becoming a truck driver, here is everything you need to know. For more details, My CDL Training can help you. Lots of love everyone, thank you for listening and sending in the comments and feedback! XOXO Cindy & James Want to connect with one of us real time? Join us on www.intothelifestyle.com - we are ITLJames & ITLCyn