The Adult Chair

Trauma is such a heavy word and when we think about overcoming it, many of us feel defeated or that it could take a lifetime. In today's show we learn otherwise. Courtney Armstrong joins me in a discussion of trauma and offers tools that we can begin using today that can change our trauma, heal and transform it for good. This is not a show to be missed!

Many people think acceptance is weak or it's something we do when we are defeated. It's actually the opposite. There is great power in acceptance. It's a choice we make from a clear intentional place within. When we do this our drama or anger can be done and gone. In today's show I speak with you about accepting things we are not happy about, things we cannot change and how our lives can transform with acceptance.

After four years of this podcast, I felt like it was time for a refresher of the three chairs. In this show, I discuss where the Adult Chair model came from and a review of the three chairs. For long time listeners, this will reinforce your knowledge of the Adult Chair. For new listeners this will help you to build a foundation for this model. Either way, it's filled with great information about the three chairs!

Abandonment can leave an incredible wound inside of us. We do our best to bury it and not feel that pain but it leaves its mark on us. We move through life unconsciously guarded and ready for abandonment to happen again. We want to be free of this wound but don't know how. In today's show I go over the two types of abandonment and offer steps to heal this wound.

There is huge power in owning our reality, yet most of us don't know how. We hide behind masks to cover our true selves up and show up in the world how we think others want us to be. This can be exhausting and so wearing on us. In this show, you will learn about the power of owning your reality and the benefits of doing so.

We feel responsible for fixing and taking care of others. When we aren't "helping", we may feel anxious or useless. These could be symptoms of codependency. In today's show, I review what happens in childhood that sets us up for codependency, what it looks like in adulthood, and how you can heal and transform your life.

When we experience a trauma, there is a part of us that can get stuck in time, yet we continue to physically grow. Part of the work of the Adult Chair is finding these parts and integrating them into the self in order to help us to feel whole and healthy. My client Sarah graciously agreed to share her session today which demonstrates the integration of her 10 year old part. It was a beautiful session and I am so grateful to Sarah for sharing her experience.

Betrayal is the worst kind of pain. It blindsides us, it can shock us and leave us in total disbelief. We wonder how we can move through such pain and feel ok again. In this show, Michelle shares her own experiences with betrayal and offers an 8 step process that walks us out of our pain and helps us to find trust again.

We don't end relationships well, unfortunately no one teaches us how to do this. We get stuck in our victim or get caught in the blame game which only keeps us stuck! Katherine Woodward Thomas offers us a fresh perspective on breaking up and ending well. On today's show we discuss her book and process called Conscious Uncoupling, which Gweneth Paltrow and Chris Martin made famous. She shares with us the 5 key elements in the book that teach us how to live happily even after.

Life can be overwhelming at times and it can cause us to lose ourselves. This may look like difficulty in making decisions, setting boundaries and or standing in your truth. This meditation will help change that, as it helps you to tap into your inner strength and regain empowerment.

It seems like a growing number of kids today are suffering from anxiety. As parents and caregivers of these kids, witnessing their anxiety can leave us feeling helpless and not sure what to do. Often times, what we do doesn't help and even makes things worse. Today Sharon Selby, Registered Clinical Counselor and expert in the field of anxiety with children, teens and families joins me on the show. Sharon offers some incredible advice for those of us needing help with our children and teens struggling with anxiety, and gives us tips on how to bring more peace and empowerment back into the family.

Anxiety, ruminating thoughts, stress and negative impulses can make us feel like we are imploding! When we implode, it feels like our world is collapsing and we have no way out. In today's show, I help you find your way out of imploding and even stop yourself before you collapse with 10 easy tips. The great news is that it only takes minutes to change your emotional state with these, and you don't even have to do all of them to feel better!

Meditation 28: Connect to your Higher Self

In the episode today, I talk with you about how we can go through the ending of relationships in a new way, a conscious way, from our Adult Chair. Sitting here can change how you navigate the end. In today's show, I offer 6 "Truths" for relationships and how and why they may be ending.

I believe we can access the state of flow and ride it like a wave! In today's show I explain how we do this, with a 4 step process to access and harness your own flow state.