The Place We Find Ourselves show

The Place We Find Ourselves

Summary: The Place We Find Ourselves podcast features private practice therapist Adam Young (LCSW, MDiv) and interview guests as they discuss all things related to story, trauma, attachment, and interpersonal neurobiology. Listen in as Adam unpacks how trauma and abuse impact the heart and mind, as well as how to navigate the path toward healing, wholeness, and restoration. Interview episodes give you a sacred glimpse into the real-life stories of guests who have engaged their own experiences of trauma and abuse. Drawing from the work of neuroscientists such as Allan Schore, Dan Siegel, and Bessel van der Kolk, as well as Christian thought leaders Dan Allender and John Eldredge, this podcast will equip and inspire you to engage your own stories of harm in deep, transformative ways.

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 64 Emotions in the Time of Coronavirus: Wriiting Your Own Psalm | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 29:57

What would it look like to begin writing—and praying—your own psalms? When we are feeling big feelings, it can be very healing to put words to those feelings and then to pour the feelings out in prayer. By writing and praying your own psalms, you can facilitate integration in your brain and liberation of your heart. I’ve developed a guide entitled How to Write Your Own Psalm which you can access from my website. 

 63 Emotions in the Time of Coronavirus: Praying the Psalms | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 25:54

This is an emotional time. We are all having big feelings. And when we are having big feelings, the place we need to find ourselves is… in the Psalms. Today I hope to open up the power of the book of Psalms for a moment such as this. And by the end of the episode, my invitation to you will be, “What would it look like to begin writing your own Psalms and then praying the Psalms you write?”

 62 When Suffering Lingers | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 45:01

I am joined today by KJ Ramsey. KJ has written an important book about suffering called This Too Shall Last. Sometimes suffering lasts… and where is God in this? How are we to live when the place we find ourselves is one of lingering suffering? KJ invites us to allow our emotions to become a compass, leading us to a God who is present… even in suffering.

 61 The Coronavirus Episode | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 21:26

Three main points. First, the coronavirus is spreading exponentially, not linearly. Second, as a result of the exponential spread—in the absence of aggressive action—the US healthcare system will become overwhelmed and this will affect everyone, including young, healthy people. Third, the only way to stop really bad things from happening is to implement extreme social distancing measures immediately.

 60 Warfare Part 9: Soul Ties | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 38:34

Season 3 concludes with the final episode on Warfare. I am joined again by Cathy Loerzel to talk about soul ties—what they are and how they are formed. We also address how to break curses, agreements, vows, and soul ties.

 59 Warfare Part 8: Curses, Agreements, and Vows | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 52:22

I am joined by Cathy Loerzel to talk about curses, agreements, and vows—what they are, how they come to be, and where to find them in our stories. Cathy articulates the difference between a curse, an agreement, and a vow. She also explains how it is the design of evil for a curse to lead to an agreement, which then leads to a vow.

 58 Healing From Trauma: Your Posture Toward Yourself | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 26:05

If you have experienced trauma, you likely have difficulty with the whole category of kindness… either receiving kindness from others or being kind to yourself, or likely both. When you are not doing well, what is your posture toward yourself? Are you willing to bring kindness, care, and comfort to your suffering heart and body? And, if not, why not?

 57 How To Know If You Have Experienced Trauma | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 26:56

Many people are unaware that they have a history of trauma. Trauma has a tendency to hide. But the symptoms don’t lie. If you have the symptoms of trauma, it is highly likely that you have a history of trauma—whether you can locate that trauma in your story or not. Today we will look at the symptoms of trauma, as well as address the questions, “What exactly is trauma? What makes something traumatic?”

 56 Affect Regulation: How Mindfulness Can Help Integrate (Heal) Your Brain | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 27:27

Trauma impairs integration in the brain. When you experience trauma, the neural circuits in various regions of your brain do not make enough connections with one another. Here’s the good news: there is something you can do to promote integration in your brain. In the book Aware, Dan Siegel shares a mindfulness practice that he developed called The Wheel of Awareness. The Wheel of Awareness helps people to integrate the various regions of their brain.

 55 How to Engage the Younger Parts of Ourselves with Kindness | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 40:50

Today I interview Paul Quinlivan, a therapist in the Seattle area. We begin by talking about the potential dangers of engaging your story alone. Then, Paul shares a story of himself as a boy… a boy who was a deep feeler. Paul and I talk about the paradox of a parent who can be physically present for sporting events and the like, but emotionally absent in day to day life. We also explore the crucial category of one’s posture toward oneself as a younger boy or girl.

 54 Warfare Part 7: The Modern Screwtape Letters | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 21:09

The title of this episode comes from a book by C.S. Lewis called The Screwtape Letters. The Screwtape Letters is a collection of letters written from a senior demon, named Screwtape, to his nephew Wormwood (a lower ranking demon). Screwtape’s goal is to advise Wormwood about tactics and strategies for tormenting humans. Today’s episode is my attempt to continue in the vein of Lewis by writing six additional letters.

 53 Why Family of Origin Triangulation Is Such A Big Deal | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 39:44

Triangulation occurs when Mom or Dad becomes emotionally closer to one of the children than to their spouse. Patria and I discuss the fallout of triangulation in the life of the family and the life of the "special" child. The triangulated daughter often becomes hyper-attuned to Dad, and is setup to be envied by Mom and her (unchosen) siblings. It’s a devastating dynamic that does immense damage to the heart of the triangulated child.

 52 How Your Story Leads to Your Style of Relating to Others with Becky Allender | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 44:37

Becky Allender and I talk about her book Hidden In Plain Sight, which is a collection of stories designed to invite the reader to engage his or her own story in more depth. Becky shares how her relationship with her Mom led to a style of relating in which she became committed to “staying out of the way and becoming invisible.” Becky goes on to talk about the importance of experiencing “sorrow in the care of wise guides” as we engage our story. 

 51 Having Conversations with God with Sam Williamson | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 29:56

I interview Sam Williamson, author of Hearing God In Conversation. Conversation is possible... even with God. Sam and I talk about what gets in the way of hearing from God, why we tend to have low expectations about hearing from God, and how to begin to learn to hear in our ordinary day to day life. If you enjoy this episode, you might want to go back and listen to Episode 38 — The Process of Learning to Hear from God.

 50 Struggling with Sexuality Part 2: How Understanding Your Story Can (Surprisingly) Help with Jay Stringer | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 36:27

This is Part 2 of the episode about sexuality, lust, fantasy… and your story. Are you curious about how your story can help you understand your current sexual struggles? Jay Stringer presents a surprising—and deeply refreshing—approach to understanding your sexuality in light of your story. He is the author of Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing. 

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