10 MINUTES TO LESS SUFFERING
Summary: Allison Carmen, Self-help author and Life coach, presents different techniques in this 10 minute podcast to reduce your stress, worry and anxiety. It's amazing how much you can get done in 10 minutes!
One of the most challenging things is to stop blaming someone for the hurt or pain they caused to us or someone we love. But, at some point, our blame stops serving us. It creates a distraction and a bitterness that doesn’t always allow us to give the energy we need to make the best of what is still possible in our lives. Listen to this podcast to see if letting go of blame will help you create a new beginning.
My friend wrote me an email the other day titled, “Has The World Gone Mad?” She feels overwhelmed by world events and is finding difficulty with avoiding negativity and despair. Even during challenging times, despair and negativity are connected to our need for certainty. It is our fear of the unknown that steals our hope and our inspired action to pursue the changes that we want to see. Nobody knows what will happen next, but uncertainty gives us hope that things in the world can still get better!
Many of us have trouble separating from the problems in our lives. If we have too many problems that we don’t like, we can start to believe that our lives are going in the wrong direction. This can make us feel scared, unsafe and we may make decisions out of desperation. Listen to this podcast to learn how to strengthen your inner world so you can face all your problems knowing that there are many ways to be okay.
At one time or another most of us have gossiped about somebody else. And whether we believe it feels good to gossip about someone who hurt us, someone who we resent, or someone we find outrageous, gossiping can have a negative impact. Sometimes what bothers us about other people is a sign to look within ourselves, and let go of old hurts, create better relationships, and find what would be meaningful to us. Listen to this podcast to take a huge step toward creating more joy and possibilities in your life!
Wouldn’t it be great if we could get through a day without any stress or worry? In order to accomplish this feat, we need to look at the root cause of why we actually get upset or stressed. Sometimes it has little to do with what is actually happening in our lives and much more to do with the fact that whatever is happening makes us feel unsafe. Listen to this podcast to discover the key to finding safety within ourselves to cultivate the ability to get through a day without any stress or worry.
Years ago, I would hear the phrase “it is what it is,” and I would think it meant the person saying it was losing hope and giving up. But now I understand that the phrase is about acceptance, which can lead us to new beginnings—ones filled with new relationships, new opportunities, and new beautiful moments to experience. Acceptance is the springboard for hope and can lead to what is possibly the greatest peace we can feel in our hearts.
Many of us will make New Year’s resolutions over the next few days. It can be quite inspiring to set our intentions and goals for the new year. However, these resolutions are often hard to keep as we lose steam when unexpected things happen or when things don’t work out as planned. This is why committing to a resilient perspective can be the most powerful New Year's resolution to find joy and success in 2020!
Many of us hold regrets about things we did and didn’t do in 2019. However, regret is nothing more than a made-up story that we tell ourselves about how choices we didn’t make “would have been better.” The truth is that we can never truly know the outcome of a choice we didn’t make. All we can ever know is here we are in this moment with the hope and possibility that we can have the lives we want from this day forward. 2020 can be a new beginning filled with new possibilities!
Some days our personal relationships are good, and other days they can be tough. We can have a good day at work, and another day, lose our job. Everything around us is always changing, and if we don't value ourselves under all circumstances, we might not have the strength, resilience, and positivity to create the lives that we desire. Listen to this podcast to learn tools to shift your inner dialogue and commit to not letting outside events make you feel bad about yourself. You got this!
Many of us fear that unexpected events in our lives will bring us pain and sorrow. We forget that the unexpected can also bring new jobs, new relationships, and new possibilities—many of which we can’t even imagine in this moment. If we fear the unknown, we also fear the unexpected changes that might bring us wonderful things. Listen to this podcast to learn how to embrace the unknown so we can experience less stress and more success in the days to come!
There are moments in relationships and in business that are stressful or hurtful, and our initial thought might be, “I need to change this right now.” But sometimes our first reaction to a situation will not lead to our best decision. Life has uncomfortable moments, but sometimes we need to sit in that discomfort before we know the right answer. When we don’t allow discomfort, we often end up exchanging one problem for another.
Sometimes we believe our dreams of starting a business, finding a new job, or starting a new relationship are not possible. We look at our current circumstances and can’t imagine that things might change. In these moments, it is best to remember that asking that our dreams be fulfilled is not a one-way street. What we feel that we desire from our hearts, life is often desiring from us. Hold on - your dreams are real and filled with possibilities!
Everybody has problems, big and small. Often, how we live with these problems is just as important as how we overcome them. Listen to this podcast to learn how we can face each day with more resilience and strength, trusting that we can handle whatever comes our way.
Most of us know what it is like to have an unpleasant business or personal relationship—it can leave us feeling bitter. Even though a situation might not be fair to us, our bitterness can further shut our hearts to new possibilities. At some point, we may need to make a choice about whether an experience will leave us “bitter” or “better.” It is not always easy to let things go, but if we can turn our attention to the “better,” we might find more expansion, opportunities, and wisdom in the
How many times have you scrolled through your Instagram feed and started to feel bad about yourself? Sometimes certain photos or ads make us feel that we need to be or look “better.” But our true greatness shines when we see our own perfection— accepting ourselves just the way we are. Your true self is the easiest person to be, and being true to yourself is the best path to find real joy and success in life.