3 Men and Some Babies
Summary: Three Men and Some Babies is a podcast where three friends sit down to have real conversations about fatherhood, marriage and everything in between. The goal is to start a conversation about the everyday struggles and triumphs of men who are tired of the status quo.
The common "marriage script" looks like this: Boy meets girl, they fall in love, get married, go through the "Honeymoon Phase" where they can't keep their hands off of each other as sparks fly and fireworks are constant. Then time passes, and that passion is replaced with mothball robes and a conversation-less tolerance of each other as the once exciting couple just go through the motions. Is this unavoidable? What if you're already there, should you find someone new? Adrian, Duane and Leslie take this topic head-on, mothballs and all, as they respond to the plea, "Help, the passion in my marriage is gone!"
An episode where the guys aren’t exactly rushing to the front of the line to be the first to answer. Not sure why though. Tune in to see who’ll be sleeping on the couch and who’s brave enough to go first as the guys attempt to answer the question “Who wears the pants in the relationship?”
In the movies The Hero is the knight in shining armor willing to sacrifice everything for the people he loves. But what about when the knights armor starts to get rusty? Is it selfish for him to take some time out from “saving lives” to take care of himself? Trying to figure out the balance between taking care of yourself and taking care of your family can be tricky. On this episode of Three Men and Some Babies, the guys wrestle with this tension through conversation around the topic “Is it ok to put my needs first?”
The story often ends with "...then I looked across the room, our eyes locked, and I knew I'd found 'The One'." That's real love right? But is there even such a thing as "The One"? What if you've been divorced? Was the first person "The One" that you've lost or is the next person "The One" that you've found? On this episode of Three men and some babies, Duane, Adrian and Leslie, sort through their thoughts together as they respond to a question their wives are hoping they already know the answer to. You're invited to join the conversation and then of course, keep the conversation going.
When you’re dating, your dreams of being a professional pencil sharpener, rarely make a dent in your relationships. However from the day you decide to spend your life with one person, your dreams drastically affect the other person. How much of your joint time, joint budget, and joint energy goes towards you changing the world one pointy pencil at a time? What about resentment from the person that has to put their dreams on hold to help support the ambitions of their other half? On this episode the guys strive to answer the question “My dream or hers, who takes priority?”
You hear your wife say “I don’t feel loved”. Which triggers the response “Wait, what?!?! Even after I publicly professed my undying love for you forsaking all others, (because you know I had options) in front of family, friends and some people my parents made me invite, you still need more???” Well if you’ve ever felt like you are trying to be a good husband but your wife still feels like something’s missing this episode is for you. As Adrian, Duane and Leslie have a conversation around the question “How do I really love my wife?”
“Let’s talk about sex!” Well, unless you’re my son or God forbid my daughter. If that’s the case we can talk about it when you first start thinking about sex (you know, after you’ve been married for 5 years and are ready to have kids.) The problem is, if parents wait even until teenage years, it’s no longer an introduction, it’s a review. So then when is too early? When is too late? In this episode, the guys talk about “The Birds”, “The Bees”, “The Stork” and everything in between.
Children take on the personalities of their parents. This is fantastic when you see them pick up your strengths and positive traits. However many fathers worry about their kids also getting their short temper, bad habits and weaknesses. This worry has caused some men to avoid having kids altogether. Is this the only option left? On this episode the guys talk about a topic that rarely shows up on social media... Managing our flaws.
“Wait till your father gets home!” The phrase that would strike fear into the hearts of children for generations. Dad’s presence seemed to demand rapid compliance. Kids were immediately cleaning rooms, washing dishes and apologizing to their mothers. Then we became fathers and our presence doesn’t quite seem to get the same results. In this episode Leslie, Duane and Adrian discuss the fathers struggle of trying to get your kids to do what you say.
Should men care about the #MeToo movement? Or is it really just a woman’s issue? On this weeks episode the guys didn’t want to try to tackle this important dialogue as authorities on the issue but instead take some time to have an honest conversation about the #MeToo movement, how it hit them as husbands and fathers, and how it shapes the way they now raise their kids.
Many men feel a pressure to “provide for their family” at all costs. Naturally this means that you have to work... sometimes a lot. However that same family is often saying “We want you to be home”. What in the world is a man to do? On this weeks episode Leslie, Adrian and Duane have a conversation about managing the tension of work life balance.
Kids are awesome, but they never get tired. Father's are awesome, but they are always tired. In this week's episode, Duane, Adrian and Leslie, share the stories, survival tips, failures and successes that have come along with being a father in those times you feel too exhausted to parent.
Competition is seemingly downloaded into men from the womb. But with competition often comes the comparison struggle. You love your Honda Civic until one friend shows up with his Mercedes and the other jerk shows up with a Ferrari. On this weeks episode Adrian, Duane and Leslie discuss how this struggle can translate to our careers, marriages and even our kids.
This week the conversation turned to a topic that has been a source of conflict in many marriages. Can men, especially married men, be close friends with another woman? How close is too close? Does it matter what she looks like or how long you’ve been friends? Leslie, Adrian and Duane had very different takes on this topic, but the conversation produced some very thought-provoking takeaways.
This episode brings us to the final chapter of the Pregnancy Trilogy. Adrian, Duane and Leslie have a conversation how a man who loves his family manages the first few months after the baby is born. For Duane, he said he "put these man breasts to work." Join the conversation to hopefully make sense of what in the world that means. Because Adrian and Leslie are still uncertain.