Brave Marriage Podcast

Do you know what the very best way to change your marriage is? Change yourself. I know, I know…maybe not the answer you were hoping for, but the most promising, nonetheless. Listen in to discover how to get to the root of what most bothers you about your spouse…and then learn how to change yourself in the process. Mentioned on this Episode: FREE Relationship Quiz Marriage Friendly Therapists Michele Weiner-Davis Music: John Tibbs Music @johntibbsmusic Podcast Editing: Evan Duszynski If you enjoyed this episode, please: Subscribe Share Review on iTunes To work with Kensi, please visit bravemarriage.com: Marriage Therapy Pregnancy Loss Counseling Courageous Conversations Workshop

Have you ever tried to change something in your marriage to no avail? On today’s episode, we discuss the counterintuitive ways to enhance your relationship, the importance of going slow and taking baby steps toward change, and how to overcome a couple of mindsets that often keep couples stuck in the same old patterns.

The pattern is what matters, not the problem. We’re talking conflict patterns on today’s episode, acknowledging how each of you co-creates the marital dynamic that becomes your set norm, when your marriage isn’t functioning healthily. Identify your conflict pattern & stay tuned for next week, as we talk about what to do differently to create change in your marriage! Mentioned on this Episode: Sue Johnson: Hold Me Tight FREE Relationship Quiz Music: John Tibbs Music @johntibbsmusic Podcast Editing: Evan Duszynski If you enjoyed this episode, please: Subscribe Share Review on iTunes To work with Kensi, please visit bravemarriage.com: Marriage Therapy Pregnancy Loss Counseling Courageous Conversations Workshop

Changes in marriage can be complex, especially when couples sense something is off, but can’t put language to what exactly needs to change. On today’s episode, we discuss our primary tendencies toward disconnection, which we tend to utilize when our relational needs aren’t being met. The goal of this episode is to help you as a couple know what to pay attention to when it comes to your own relational dynamic. Mentioned on this Episode: Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs John Gottman’s Bids for Connection Music: John Tibbs Music @johntibbsmusic Podcast Editing: Evan Duszynski If you enjoyed this episode, please: Subscribe Share Review on iTunes To work with Kensi, please visit bravemarriage.com: Premarital Coaching Couples Coaching Marriage Therapy Grief Counseling Communication Workshop

Is your attitude keeping you from making the changes you want to make? If you’re working toward a certain goal or outcome in your life, your attitude is either facilitating your growth or keeping you stuck in the same place. On today’s podcast, discover what attitudes might be holding you back, and what to do to change them. Mentioned on this Episode: Liturgy of the Ordinary, Tish Harrison Warren http://www.tishharrisonwarren.com/books/ Music: John Tibbs. Connect with him on Instagram @johntibbsmusic or listen on iTunes or Spotify. https://www.johntibbsmusic.com/ Podcast Editing: Evan Duszynski If you enjoyed this episode, please: Subscribe Share Rate + Review on iTunes To work with Kensi, please visit bravemarriage.com: Premarital Coaching Couples Coaching Marriage Therapy Grief Counseling Communication Workshop

Did you know 80% of New Year’s Resolutions fail by the month of February? How do we not only start a habit, but plan for its success long-term? On this episode, we take a long-term, contextual approach to helping you form new habits. Plan for success this year by learning to change your habits in a way that suits you, takes your environment into consideration, & helps you identify some of the psychology behind how you’re wired to make change. Mentioned on this Episode: Gretchen' Rubin’s “The Four Tendencies” Music: John Tibbs. Connect with him on Instagram @johntibbsmusic or listen on iTunes or Spotify. Podcast Editing: Evan Duszynski If you enjoyed this episode, please: Subscribe Share Rate + Review on iTunes To work with Kensi, please visit bravemarriage.com: Premarital Coaching Couples Coaching Marriage Therapy Grief Counseling Communication Workshop

Have you ever tried to implement a change that didn’t work for you long-term? As a marriage & family therapist, that doesn’t surprise me at all. Why? Because humans & relationships are too complex for there to be a one-size-fits-all solution to the changes we’re wanting to make. Today, I’m sharing with you what I know about change from a systems perspective, in hopes that at the end of this episode, you’ll have a better understanding of your relationship to yourself, to your spouse, AND to change itself. Music: John Tibbs. Connect with him on Instagram @johntibbsmusic or listen on iTunes or Spotify. Podcast Editing: Evan Duszynski If you enjoyed this episode, please: Subscribe Share Rate + Review on iTunes To work with Kensi, please visit bravemarriage.com: Couples Coaching WedWell: Premarital Coaching Marriage Therapy Pregnancy Loss Courageous Conversations Workshop

You asked, I answered. Four follow-up questions to our family of origin series, plus a brief review of the past 30 episodes in 2018! Also, Happy New Year's Eve, friends! -Music on the Brave Marriage Podcast by John Tibbs. Connect with him on Instagram @johntibbsmusic or listen on iTunes or Spotify. -Podcast Editing by Evan Duszynski -If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a rating + review on iTunes, & be sure to share with your friends! -To learn more or work with Kensi, please visit bravemarriage.com for: Couples Coaching Courageous Conversations Workshop WedWell: Premarital Coaching Marriage Therapy Pregnancy Loss

What messages did you need to hear as a kid, but didn’t? Find out on today’s episode what’s true about you, why it matters that you believe it for yourself, & how it positively impacts the life of your marriage & family. There will be no episode next week, but I’ll be back on New Year’s Eve! In the meantime, have a Merry Christmas & I hope you enjoy Redeeming Childhood Messages. -Music on the Brave Marriage Podcast by John Tibbs. Connect with him on Instagram @johntibbsmusic or listen on iTunes or Spotify. -Podcast Editing by Evan Duszynski -If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a rating + review on iTunes, & be sure to share with your friends! -To learn more or work with Kensi, please visit bravemarriage.com for: Couples Coaching Courageous Conversations Workshop WedWell: Premarital Coaching Marriage Therapy Pregnancy Loss

Fill in the blank: I am loved + accepted when I _________. Your answer is most likely the result of a childhood message you received growing up. Today, we’re talking about how childhood messages are formed, internalized, & how they affect us as we grow up. Listen in for 5 common messages that most individuals resonate with. Music on the Brave Marriage Podcast by John Tibbs. Connect with him on Instagram @johntibbsmusic or listen on iTunes or Spotify. Podcast Editing by Evan Duszynski. *If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a rating + review on iTunes, & be sure to share with your friends! **To learn more or work with Kensi, please visit bravemarriage.com for: Couples Coaching Courageous Conversations Workshop WedWell: Premarital Coaching Marriage Therapy Pregnancy Loss

How does your upbringing impact your marriage? Find out on today’s episode! -Music on the Brave Marriage Podcast by John Tibbs. Connect with him on Instagram @johntibbsmusic or listen on iTunes or Spotify. -Podcast Editing by Evan Duszynski. -If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a rating + review on iTunes, & be sure to share with your friends! To learn more or work with Kensi, please visit bravemarriage.com for: Couples Coaching Courageous Conversations Workshop WedWell: Premarital Coaching Marriage Therapy Pregnancy Loss

What role did you play in your family of origin? How has that impacted you as an adult? On today’s episode, we explore 5 different roles that each of us play into as children in our families of origin: The Entertainer; Peacekeeper; Role Model; Baby; & Fixer. In upcoming weeks, we’ll explore how these roles impact our sense of self & our marriages so that we can be intentional about creating the lives, marriages, and families we desire to have as adults! -Music on the Brave Marriage Podcast by John Tibbs. Connect with him on Instagram @johntibbsmusic or listen on iTunes or Spotify. -Podcast Editing by Evan Duszynski. -If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a rating + review on iTunes, & be sure to share with your friends! To learn more + work with Kensi, please visit bravemarriage.com for: Couples Coaching Courageous Conversations Workshop WedWell: Premarital Coaching Marriage Therapy Pregnancy Loss

It’s Thanksgiving week, friends! And I’m so grateful for you. Today on the podcast, I’m simply taking time to reflect and give thanks. Next week, we’ll dive back into the roles we play in our families of origin. Music on today’s episode by: John Tibbs. You can find John’s music on iTunes or Spotify, or connect with him @johntibbsmusic To work with Kensi at Brave Marriage, click the link below: Marriage Therapy Couples Coaching Premarital Coaching Grief Counseling Courageous Conversations Workshop If you’re enjoying the show, please: Rate + Review the podcast! Screenshot + Share with your friends! Thanks so much for joining us today!

What does it mean to honor your father and mother as an adult? During the month of November, we’ll be exploring family of origin issues to see how our upbringings impacted us + continue to impact our relationships. On this episode, we discuss how to honor your father & mother as an adult, when you had a more difficult childhood or upbringing. Music on today’s episode by: John Tibbs. You can find John’s music on iTunes or Spotify, or connect with him @johntibbsmusic To work with Kensi at Brave Marriage, click the link below: Marriage Therapy Couples Coaching Premarital Coaching Grief Counseling Courageous Conversations Workshop Thanks so much for joining us today! If you’re enjoying the show, please rate + review the podcast! Also, feel free to share with your friends!

What does it mean to honor your father and mother as an adult? During the month of November, we’ll be exploring family of origin issues to see how our upbringings impacted us + continue to impact our relationships. On this episode, we discuss how to honor your father & mother as an adult, when you had a good childhood or upbringing. Three ways we do that are by (1) naming what’s good, (2) honoring our individual experiences, and (3) learning to see our parents as 3-dimensional. Music on today’s episode by: John Tibbs. You can find John’s music on iTunes or Spotify, or connect with him @johntibbsmusic To work with Kensi at Brave Marriage, click the link below: Marriage Therapy Couples Coaching Premarital Coaching Grief Counseling Courageous Conversations Workshop Thanks so much for joining us today! If you’re enjoying the show, please rate + review the podcast! Also, feel free to share with your friends!