Let's Talk About It With Taylor Nolan
Summary: On the Let’s Talk About It podcast, Taylor Nolan gets candid with her long time friend, musician Kitt Bender, along with various celebrity guests and experts. The podcast focuses on mental health, relationships, and personal development. Taylor's unique perspective comes from her studies in psychology and counseling, as well as her time spent on The Bachelor and Bachelor in Paradise reality TV shows. Join Taylor each week, and let's talk about it. Please Subscribe on iTunes and leave a review. We read the reviews, and love to hear from our listeners.
The co-host of the Here to Make Friends podcast and Senior Women’s Reporter at HuffPost, Emma Gray, joins Taylor to discuss her new book, A Girl’s Guide to Joining the Resistance. Post Presidential election, Emma interviewed activists, senators, and women from different backgrounds. From intersectionality to therapy to lady clubs to feminist mixtapes, this book has you covered! Emma opens up about her struggle with anxiety and how to avoid losing your mind while changing the world.
After every mass shooting in America we see polarizing viewpoints on gun violence and mental health. Is mental health to blame or are guns? After having strong reactions to Alex Woytkiw’s tweets on the subject, Taylor invites him on the pod to get a better understanding on what being a “gun loving American” means to him. Taylor and Kitt discuss the research on gun violence and mental health and wonder where we can all meet in the middle to help save innocent lives.
A different perspective on celebrating Black History Month with family friend Robb Valentine, a biracial male. Taylor shares her struggles about being biracial, and the two discuss how one becomes color brave and how to embrace B (being) L (learning) A (affirming) C (culture) K (knowledge). Robb shares reflections from Ep.10 on privilege, and why it is important to talk about slavery and black history before it.
Taylor invites The Bachelorette star Eric Bigger to share what the show taught him about race, his experiences growing up in Baltimore, and how he’s evolved as a universal human. The two discuss misconceptions of black males in America, and how to create an emphasis on the quality of the person rather than their race.
Relationships are hard work...but how hard are they supposed to be? Taylor and Derek, Bachelor in Paradise golden couple, do relationship maintenance. They struggle just like everyone else! Through identifying the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, they share their struggles and how to reach the magic 5:1 ratio in a relationship. They share how they've worked through arguments, and what each does to deposit a positive interaction into their emotional bank account when there is a withdrawal.
Taylor invites good friend, Colin Christianson to discuss white male privilege to kick off Black History Month. Talking about privilege isn’t easy, but by being color brave, instead of color blind, we can start these conversations with courage. The two clear up confusion around what privilege is, ways that society has overlooked white male privilege, and how we can move towards a state of equality for people of color.
Taylor invites good friend, and The Bachelor and Bachelor in Paradise co-star, Danielle Maltby on to discuss self-care, especially as caregivers. As women in the helping field they are very familiar with giving so much to others and forgetting to give to themselves. The two discuss what self-care looks like and how to know when your cup is empty, while reminiscing on how their friendship developed.
Taylor gets personal and invites Crystal Byal, her mom, to share her journey so far with “Dry January”. Coming from a family with a long history of alcohol abuse and alcohol addiction, Crystal has reflected heavily on her drinking habits and patterns. Taylor shares her experiences with drinking and her decision to not drink. We examine the role alcohol plays in our society, in our personal development, and of course, on The Bachelor.
It’s in your letters, it’s on The Bachelor, and it’s in our daily lives. We have trouble getting in our heads and it’s hard to be happy or confident with ourselves when our thoughts are going in a downward spiral! Taylor and Kitt discuss 3 steps to getting out of your head: acknowledging your self-confidence, practicing your authenticity, and observing your inner roommate.
Taylor and Kitt discuss the personality differences of introverts and extroverts and the introduction of ambiverts! They examine how these personality preferences can play a role in social dynamics by pulling examples from The Bachelor. The two also reflect on some emotional challenges that women faced in this week’s episode, and Taylor shares her Bachelor journals to reflect on her experience.
It’s the premiere of The Bachelor Season 22 and all we can think about is…anxiety! Anxiety is normal to feel, but how do we cope with it? And when does feeling anxiety turn into having an anxiety disorder? Taylor Nolan shares her journals from her time on The Bachelor and reflects on the anxiety she felt going on the show. The dynamic duo answer a letter from a writer struggling with day-to-day anxiety on how she is perceived by others and her dislike towards change.
Is self-compassion selfish? Isn’t it the same as self-love? On today's podcast Taylor and Kitt answer these questions as they cover the three main components of self-compassion: kindness, shared humanity, and mindfulness, which were established by self-compassion researcher, Dr. Kristin Neff. Please listen and subscribe to our podcast. Leave a review.
Can heterosexual males and females actually be friends? Will sex always get in the way? The debate from the classic movie When Harry Met Sally continues! With the help of a special guest, Derek Peth, Taylor and Kitt reflect on research and discuss the barriers to cross-sex friendships, how you can have these friendships while in a romantic relationship, and what these friendships could add to your life.
Taylor and Kitt dig deeper into Taylor’s keynote speech at the Active Minds National Conference, which reflected on how being on The Bachelor impacted her mental health. Throughout this episode, they discuss vulnerability, boxes, and humanitis. Learn to lean into vulnerability and create your own box instead of being put it in one, and how to combat the shame that comes with perfectionism and unrealistic standards. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nhZjXQmbwtQ&feature=youtu.be
In this opening episode, Taylor addresses what Emotional Intelligence is by taking a look at its four essential components, why it’s important in your personal and work life, and strategies on how to improve your EQ! With the help of her co host, Kitt Bender, Taylor answers the questions you’ve been asking about EQ since she popularized the phrase on The Bachelor.