The Toxic People Detox | Self-Care & Difficult People Survival Strategies
Summary: Are you plagued with difficult or toxic people at work or at home? Are you looking for peace of mind in the midst of toxic people? Are you looking for effective strategies for keeping toxic people at bay? If so, you've found the right podcast. Fighting the toxic people in your life isn't worth the serious health threats that come with the territory. Diabetes. High blood pressure. Excessive weight gain. Bankruptcy. And repeated broken hearts. Yes, you have a right to be angry at the injustice caused by the toxic people in your life. But you also have a right -- an obligation -- to fight towards making your situation better. The Toxic People Detox will help you focus on healing your body, your mind, and your soul. Instead of battling the toxic people around you, you'll learn to put your attention where it matters and work on improving your personal finances, your social life, and your health. Through this journey people have been able to get off medication for both diabetes and high blood pressure. They find their emotions are more balanced. And they are able to focus on achieving their dreams and creating their own happiness in ways they never dreamed was possible. This podcast shares this liberating experience and transformative process with the world. Welcome to The Toxic People Detox.
Don’t let people run you over! In the last episode, I talked about 7 reasons why toxic people are attracted to you. The main factor that govern the rest is that you are afraid of conflict. The problem with some people is that they don’t want to come off as arrogant, pushy, selfish, a jerk, etc. A pushy or selfish person is one who cares only about their own needs and makes no effort to accommodate anybody else. They tend to expect others to drop everything because they assume that their time is more valuable than that of other people. Key Points 1. The Golden Rule for standing your ground 2. How to keep a situation from becoming a battle of ego 3. 7 tips for learning for not letting people run you over
There are toxic personality types that make a point of seeking out people upon whom to unload their bad behavior and manipulation. A drama queen, for example, is far more likely to seek out a person who is highly reactive than one who isn’t. They want drama and a centered person is not going to give it to them easily. So, they go for the easy targets. Key Points 1. To understand how toxic people choose their targets 2. To look at yourself and identify behaviors or attitudes that might be making you an attractive target for toxic people 3. How your view of conflict attracks toxic people
Of all the vices I’ve mentioned so far, self-righteousness has the potential to be the most polarizing! A self-righteous person will oftentimes defend his or her actions as well-meaning. On the surface, nothing is wrong. The problem is the intention. Self-righteous people can actually make very good points. They’re not always wrong. However, they measure themselves by other people’s abilities to keep some preconceived rules. They may seem helpful, but they are tearing you down by constantly pointing out your inability to live by the rules. In today’s episode, we will explore some underlying reasons why self-righteous people are the way they are and how to deal with them. Key Points 1. 5 Signs to watch out for 2. 4 Tips for dealing with a self-righteous person 3. What is really driving them Subscribe/Rate/Review
I have five simple but powerful writing prompts for you all today. The most powerful reason to write is to get out of our own heads. Have you ever heard someone say, or you might have said it yourself, that sounded better in my head? That’s because our minds can play tricks on us. It reminds me of that quote from T.S. Eliot’s “Between the idea and the reality, between the motion and the acts, falls the shadow.” Key Points 1. Writing helps to bridge the connection between out reality and our fantasies. 2. Writing helps to focus our thoughts. 3. When we put things on paper, we activate that part of our brain (the Reticular Activating System or RAS). 4. Once RAS is activated, we begin to look for solutions that are right there in front of our faces.
Moving on can sometimes be as difficult as dealing with a toxic situation. We can be left with the emotional fallout and left carrying emotional baggage. So how does one move on? How do you deal with the anger at a person or situation? Key Points 1. Dealing with Anger 2. Severing ties 3. Confronting the negative emotions
We have an identity crisis in the US. We don’t let people express who they truly are and they in turn don’t allow us to express ourselves. So, they lose their sense of identity. People can then become disconnected from themselves and from those around them. It was a painful experience, but losing my sense of identity left me open to con artists and other people who took advantage of that vulnerability. It is a slow process, but you can gain confidence in who you are and not be overly dependent on what other people think. Key Points for This Episode 1. The one symptom of poor self-confidence to watch out for 2. Mental and emotional benefits of being comfortable with yourself 3. The cons of confidence – yes there are downsides depending on your point of view
That’s why you see books, podcasts, and programs about how to find your authentic self. We tell people to look within. We know that means self-reflection or introspection, but what are you supposed to be looking for exactly? What questions should you ask yourself? In addition to answering those questions, I will talk about your secret weapon against toxic people. Key Points for This Episode 1. Making the distinction between something being simple and something being easy can drastically change your outlook. 2. Crafting your personal portfolio 3. Defining your core values 4. Defining your boundaries This is a direct download to my Personal Manifesto template. http://www.thetoxicpeopledetox.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/12/Personal-Manifesto-Template.pdf
Caring about what people think about you can actually be a symptom of another problem. The problem is a lack of self-esteem or self-confidence. There is a direct correlation between our confidence and our anxiety of what others think. That confidence, in turn, is related to our understanding of ourselves. In this episode I will address 4 key points: 1. If anything where to happen to you today, would all those random people you’re so worried about be there for you? 2. Watch out for people who put a burden on you that they wouldn’t take on themselves. 3. Write down you fears (People tend to have trouble with this.) 4. Give people permission to think whatever it is they think.
This skill is not only the most important skill in dealing with toxic people, but in dealing with life in general. It’s something that’s missing in our society particularly from the millennial generation. The best way to deal with toxic people is to focusing on creating an amazing life for yourself. It’ vague, but that’s because an amazing life means different things to different people.
Drama Queens and Kings cannot resist the opportunity to create conflict, and dealing with their manufactured conflict can be an especially big challenge. Even people who have excellent self-control can lose it when confronted with this kind of emotional manipulation. You can count on the Drama King or Queen to know how to push people’s buttons to get the result they want.
6 common types of toxic bosses and how to deal with them. Hate playing office politics? So do I. Think of it less playing office politics and more about protecting yourself.
email scripts that you can use to deal with toxic situations at work. There are 11 scripts that are available as a free download.
“Funny thing about passive aggressive people, they can smile and throw you under the bus, then get you to apologize for getting upset about it.”
There aren’t any easy answers, but there are answers. There are hard truths that may be difficult to accept. Always seek the advice of a professional before making any major decisions.
We fear our own success for a variety of reasons, like the fear of appearing arrogant.