Real Talk For Real Teachers with Dr. Becky Bailey
Summary: Listen in to this new bi-monthly podcast from Conscious Discipline creator, Dr. Becky Bailey. Together with Conscious Discipline Master and Certified Instructors and special guests, Becky explores trends in social-emotional learning and classroom management.
Are there people in your life you find challenging to work with or be with? Why do we find some people so irritating and how can we utilize those irritations as opportunities for growth? The way we perceive sensory input, information from others and data gathered about the outside world determines if we will react from old programming or respond in wise and helpful ways. When we take others’ upset personally, we are not able to see from their perspective or offer help. Listen in as Ali Oliver, Director of Professional Development for Conscious Discipline and former transformational Principal, shares strategies for working with the most difficult staff, parents and students in our lives. Essential Takeaways The quality of relationships shapes the function of our brain. When challenging people come to us, it’s important to QTIP (Quit Taking It Personally) and be present so they feel heard and we can better understand what they are communicating. Breathing and preparing ourselves in these moments allows us to connect during upset and respond in a helpful way rather than react. Steps for Tomorrow • Build a way to connect within the building • Prepare yourself by learning your own triggers and upset tendencies, and then practice active calming • See from the other person’s point of view and know their upset is not about you Important Links www.ConsciousDiscipline.com Wiring the Brain for Success: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cjVJV7G8x3s Power of Perception Webinar: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cjVJV7G8x3s Products • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms • Time Machine (Conflict Resolution Mat) Show Outline :20 What is Conscious Discipline 1:28 Working with those who challenge us the most 3:30 Understanding our states of consciousness 5:58 Introduction of guest Ali Oliver, former transformational Principal and current Director of Professional Development for Conscious Discipline 6:50 Working with difficult parents and teachers 11:18 Reframing and providing empathy to diffuse others’ upset moments 15:11 Working with the most difficult children 18:32 Using Conscious Discipline with adults 21:07 Working with staff members in conflict moments 23:20 Changing the language we use during adult upsets 27:06 Importance of connecting the faculty 28:14 Steps for tomorrow 30:34 What it means to see from another’s point of view
Have you noticed some children will increase their behaviors in what seems to be an effort to gain your attention? Have you ever had a child exhibit a behavior that just seems so bizarre to you and you were at a loss for how to respond? Children with extreme behaviors and mental illness present some of the most challenging moments in the classroom. Some of these behaviors can be alarming to the adults who care for them. Seeing all behavior as a form of communication creates opportunity for acceptance of where the child is, connection, and teaching new skills. Listen in as Kim Jackson, Conscious Discipline Master Instructor and demonstration teacher in North Carolina, shares strategies for working with children during extreme behaviors. ESSENTIAL TAKEAWAYS • Seeing all behavior as communication enables adults to create teaching moments, even with them most challenging children. • Adults managing their own emotional states in times of conflict is essential. • Respecting where children are in the moment creates opportunity to connect and teaches others watching acceptance. STEPS FOR TOMORROW • Know how to access your own composure and calm yourself in the moments that seem most heated and challenging. • See all behavior, no matter what it is, as a call for help and a missing skill. • Use the QTIP method – Quit Taking It Personally • Repeatedly teach the skill that is missing in the moment and through social play IMPORTANT LINKS www.ConsciousDiscipline.com Mental health specialists decrease power struggles, holds and conflict with Conscious Discipline - https://consciousdiscipline.com/videos/mental-health-specialists-decrease-power-struggles-holds-and-conflict-with-conscious-discipline/ Connecting Parents to the School Family: https://consciousdiscipline.com/videos/how-can-you-connect-parents-into-your-school-family-a-preschool-teacher-shows-the-way/ PRODUCTS • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms SHOW OUTLINE :22 What is Conscious Discipline 1:30 Introduction of today’s topic – young children and mental illness 3:12 Causes of mental illness 3:45 Introduction of guest Kim Jackson 6:15 Types of mental illness Kim has seen in her classroom 9:35 Story of what happened when the teacher was injured by a student 11:43 Approaching children with big behaviors 14:15 All behavior is some form of communication – a story of seeing it differently 18:47 Ways children call for help 20:03 Steps for helping and reaching challenging children 21:10 Story of child who has eaten poop 23:44 Story of responding to child with multiple personalities 26:28 Modeling acceptance for other students who witness challenging moments 27:46 Reaching the family of children with mental illness 31:40 Role play parent – teacher communication regarding “Did my child have a good day?” 34:40 Steps for tomorrow THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms. Also, would you consider taking 60-seconds to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes? Your feedback is extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and I love to hear your feedback! Also, don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, to get automatic updates every time a new episode goes live! On behalf of our Conscious Discipline family, we wish you well. ConsciousDiscipline.com
What was your experience as a child during holidays? Do you find them stressful now? How do we help students prepare for extended holiday breaks? The holidays can bring stress and disruption to daily routines. These times can result in an escalation of stress and misbehaviors in the classroom. Maintaining structure and routines during this time helps create predictability. Predictability helps create and maintain a felt sense of safety. Visual routine books and pre-holiday rituals built on a healthy family model help support children in managing the stress of holiday breaks. In this episode, we will learn strategies for reaching and building relationships with children and their families transforming both the home life and the life of the classroom. Listen in as long time Kindergarten teacher and two-time Teacher of the Year Tiffany Taylor shares how to ease the pain of difficult good-byes on Friday afternoons and challenging hellos on Monday mornings. Essential Takeaways • Maintaining classroom routines pre-holiday breaks maintains a felt sense of safety in the class family. • Utilizing a healthy family model to create structure and rituals within the class family eases the stress of holiday breaks. Steps for Tomorrow • Make a routine book for things that will be out of routine before the break. Create the book together with the students and read it often in the weeks before the break. • Be aware of your own emotional state and what you are bringing to the classroom • Do something that builds classroom family that replicates your own home family • Have open conversations about feelings that arrive during the time leading up to holiday breaks Important Links Conscious Discipline website Products • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms • Feeling Buddy Toolkit for Classroom Show Outline :22 What is Conscious Discipline 1:20 Introduction of topic and stressors associated with preparing for the holidays 3:43 The executive skill of flexibility and what happens when it goes “off line” 6:40 Introduction of guest teacher Jill Beck 10:38 Creating a School Family with 5th grade students 13:36 Student behaviors approaching holidays and how to help 15:49 Creating a countdown to holiday break routine book 18:27 Pre-holiday break rituals 20:14 Talking with students about worries and excitements as holidays approach 20:53 Easing the stress of testing before holidays 23:19 Playing “Rob your neighbor” 24:53 Returning to the school family after long holiday breaks 26:57 Steps for tomorrow THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms. Also, would you consider taking 60-seconds to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes? Your feedback is extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and I love to hear your feedback! Also, don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, to get automatic updates every time a new episode goes live! On behalf of our Conscious Discipline family, we wish you well. ConsciousDiscipline.com
Are you struggling with creating behavior intervention plans resulting in successful changes within your students? Have you wondered how PBIS and Conscious Discipline could work together in this process? Over the years working to help students change behavior has resulted in many programs and intervention strategies. Positive Behavior Intervention and Support (PBIS) does not state to use specific practices. PBIS provides a framework for creating intervention plans. Schools adopting Conscious Discipline can use the PBIS framework to ensure systematic decision making and schools adopting PBIS can use Conscious Discipline to meet the PBIS goal of supporting positive behavior in school culture. In this episode, we will learn how to create positive behavior intervention plans using Conscious Discipline and the RTI process. Listen in as long time teacher and Conscious Discipline Certified Instructor Fran Rubio-Katz shares step by step how to create effective behavior intervention plans for each child’s success. ESSENTIAL TAKEAWAYS • Understanding the adult role in responding to behaviors with children is key. • Assessing the child’s state and what developmental questions are unanswered begins the intervention plan process. • When creating a behavior intervention plan, begin with identifying the wanted behaviors. • In the data collection process, track the wanted behaviors. STEPS FOR TOMORROW The intervention process begins with adult regulation and seeing behaviors has a call for help. Utilize the “wanted behaviors” worksheet in the Conscious Discipline and RTI document to begin creating behavior intervention plans. IMPORTANT LINKS • Conscious Discipline website • The Learning Loft - http://learningloft.org/about-us/ • Breathing Icons Printable on the Website at ConsciousDiscipline.com • CD and RTI Document on the Website at ConsciousDiscipline.com • Safe Place explanation video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aUMc3fWgLEk&index=7&list=PLC1FF90B6D998E9EE • CD Progress Assessment Rubrics on the Website at ConsciousDiscipline.com PRODUCTS • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms • Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline SHOW OUTLINE :26 What is Conscious Discipline 1:30 Introduction to topic Academic and Behavior plans and Conscious Discipline 3:24 PBIS framework explanation 7:08 Introduction of long-time teacher and founder of the Learning Loft Fran Rubio-Katz 8:40 Struggle into stretch – what does this mean 11:44 Realizing its not them, it’s our responses 15:02 Conscious Discipline for behavior interventions with the RTI process 16:44 Tier 1, 2, and 3 interventions 17:44 Example of creating a behavior intervention with Conscious Discipline 23:09 Summary of creating a behavior intervention plan 26:08 Next steps once plan is created 28:50 Collecting data to determine if interventions are working 29:53 Conscious Discipline and Social Media, connect for support THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms. Also, would you consider taking 60-seconds to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes? Your feedback is extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and I love to hear your feedback! Also, don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, to get automatic updates every time a new episode goes live! On behalf of our Conscious Discipline family, we wish you well.
Do you dread Monday mornings after your students have been home for the weekend or long holiday break? Have you noticed some children seem to ramp up their behaviors as Friday dismissal time approaches? What is it about saying good-by for the weekend and hello on Monday that presents a challenge for some students? Leaving the school family on Friday afternoons and re-joining on Monday mornings is often difficult for children, especially children who have experienced trauma. We can relate to these children on some level as we have all had difficult hellos and good-byes in our lives. As adults we build defenses to distract us from that inner pain, children show us with their hurtful and disruptive behavior in the classroom. In this episode, we will learn strategies for reaching and building relationships with children and their families transforming both the home life and the life of the classroom. Listen in as long time Kindergarten teacher and two-time Teacher of the Year Tiffany Taylor shares how to ease the pain of difficult good-byes on Friday afternoons and challenging hellos on Monday mornings. Essential Takeaways Children who have experienced trauma have difficulties with hello and good-byes. Through consciously creating meaningful rituals around hello and good-bye routines in the classroom, teachers can ease the pain of these difficult moments and provide connections that carry them through the weekends. Steps for Tomorrow Have hello and good-bye rituals Create flexibility in arrival and departure routines Teacher self-care so you can remain calm during difficult times Use visuals for routines so children can see the information Important Links Conscious Discipline website ILUR video Greeting Ritual video Kim jackson’s brain smart start video Products • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms • I love you rituals • Conscious Discipline job Board Show Outline :23 What is Conscious Discipline 1:09 Monday Madness – the impact of Hello and Good-bye 3:20 Hello and Good-bye for children with trauma 4:35 Introduction of guest Tiffany Taylor, Kindergarten Teacher 6:42 Grand Avenue Learning Center 8:13 Trends with student behavior on Friday afternoons and Monday mornings 9:28 Strategies for helping students re-enter the school family on Mondays 12:53 When children chronically struggle with re-entry on Monday mornings 14:44 Monday morning behaviors and strategies to support children who struggle 17:30 Friday afternoon behaviors and strategies to support children through good-byes 20:31 Steps for tomorrow: Hello and good-bye rituals and what to watch for 24:21 Create flexible arrival and departure routines 25:16 Teacher self-care 25:46 Use visual images for routines 26:35 Rituals of hello and good-bye for adults THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms.
What messages around disciplining children did you receive growing up through your faith/religion? Do these messages mostly rely on fear such as children learn responsibility by being punished for their acts? What if we shifted to a method that relied on a love-based approach – seeing the best in everyone at their worst moments? While Conscious Discipline is not a religious program, it does intersect with faith. Conscious Discipline helps adults shift from a reliance on fear to a reliance on love when helping children through their difficult and conflict moments. It helps us see ourselves as worthy and see the same worthiness in others. Listen in as guest Amy Speidel shares her story of how faith and Conscious Discipline have intersected in her life. ESSENTIAL TAKEAWAYS • The number one thing we can do for healthy brain development is to have faith • Mistakes are opportunities to teach children missing skills • Discipline is not something we do to children, it is something we develop within them STEPS FOR TOMORROW • Begin with yourself – begin your own OOPS program, allowing yourself to make mistakes • Work on forgiveness in a way that says I forgot the core of love from which we came • See the beauty in others and see them as worthy IMPORTANT LINKS • What is Conscious Discipline: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8j3gF1dh_t4 PRODUCTS Conscious Discipline Building Resilient Classrooms SHOW OUTLINE :25 What is Conscious Discipline 1:33 Conscious Discipline and Faith 2:28 Introduction of guest Amy Speidel, teacher and Parent Coach 3:07 Story of participants attending a Keynote with Dr. Bailey 5:43 Healthiest thing we can do for brain development 9:03 Have you met people who struggle with their religion/religious teachings and Conscious Discipline 11:30 What happens when we use fear-based discipline 12:45 Responding to “Spare the rod, spoil the child” 15:17 Stories of values Conscious Discipline Teaches that would remind us of faith-based teachings 17:45 What is faith 18:52 What happens when we become “triggered” by something children do 19:50 Story of child and chocolate milk 22:07 Training children up, giving our best to children 23:57 Conscious Discipline as a language of the soul 24:52 OOPS (mistakes) moments with Conscious Discipline 26:44 Story with grandson and giving “the look” 28:46 Steps for tomorrow ConsciousDiscipline.com
Does your role in your school include coaching teachers, students and parents? How well do you coach yourself when things do not go your way? Successfully coaching others to change requires we consciously and lovingly coach ourselves. The inner speech we use with ourselves when things are not going our way will automatically be the words we use with others when we are triggered and things are not going as we’d like. Conscious Discipline provides us with tools to offer compassion, empathy, choices and more effectively changing how we coach ourselves and others. Listen in as Paola Salcedo, Conscious Discipline coach at Barry Elementary, shares her success of creating personal change and how she coaches teachers, students, and parents to do the same. Essential Takeaways • Coaching and supporting resistant children and teachers through change requires a connection, a relationship • Creating community among parents using strategies for building a school family increases parental attendance at school events Steps for Tomorrow Begin with yourself and changing your perception, see what happens in front of you differently Accept responsibility for your own emotions Get to know yourself – know your “triggers” and “buttons” and own them Important Links • What is Conscious Discipline: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8j3gF1dh_t4 • Barry Elementary: http://www.houstonisd.org/Domain/21281 • Power of Perception: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9g7k3aVqw4k • Conscious Discipline Coaching: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7O9F-2agVT0 • Time Machine: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BIx8TdLxr48&index=13&list=PLC1FF90B6D998E9EE • Wishing Well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m8L8MMrRkGQ&index=14&list=PLC1FF90B6D998E9EE Products Creating the School Family Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline Managing Emotional Mayhem Time Machine Wish Well Conscious Discipline Parent Curriculum Show Outline :22 What is Conscious Discipline 1:58 Dr. Bailey’s story of her golf coach 4:36 Conscious Discipline coaching model 5:47 Introduction of Paola Salcedo, Conscious Discipline Coach at Barry Elementary 6:22 Demographics of Barry Elementary 7:15 Paola’s position of Conscious Discipline coach 9:52 Time Machine modeling and coaching 15:48 Coaching teachers who are resistant to Conscious Discipline 17:21 One teacher changes her mind with coaching story 19:44 Increasing parental involvement at school 25:49 Story of using Conscious Discipline in weight loss meetings for parents 28:51 Story of learning from her own children at home 31:02 Importance of how we discipline ourselves affects how we discipline and coach others 32:20 Steps for tomorrow ConsciousDiscipline.com
What is the first thing you think of when you hear the words resistant child? Disruptive? Mean? Hurtful? Angry? We might even call these children disconnected. What if we shifted our view of these children to see their behaviors as a call for help? Children who are relationship resistant are the most challenging in our classrooms. We can relate to these children on some level as we have all had hurt and betrayal in our lives. As adults we build defenses to distract us from that inner pain, children show us with their hurtful and disruptive behavior in the classroom. In this episode, we will learn strategies for reaching and building relationships with these children transforming both their life and the life of the classroom. Listen in and learn how create a School Family, utilize the skills of active calming, noticing and encouragement to reach even the most disconnected child. Essential Takeaways • For children to behave differently we must see them differently • Building relationships is key to reaching children who are resistant • Why building a School Family is essential • Remove judgment from the classroom with the skill of noticing Steps for Tomorrow Begin practicing self-calming and be willing to see children’s misbehavior as a call for help. Look for opportunities for connecting with children, begin building your school family. Important Links • DNA Process (Star 4 in chapter 8 of book study portal, http://consciousdiscipline.com/bookstudy/chapter-8.asp). • Skill of Noticing (http://consciousdiscipline.com/videos/video.asp?id=33) • Mirror Neurons (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tq1-ZxV9Dc4) • Wishing Well (http://consciousdiscipline.com/videos/video.asp?id=70) Products • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms • Creating the School Family • I Love You Rituals • Shubert’s New Friend • School Family Job Board Show Outline :18 What is Conscious Discipline 3:10 Introduction of Guest Vicky Hepler 4:10 What behavior trends in classrooms today 4:54 Responses to challenging children before Conscious Discipline 6:35 Responses to challenging children after Conscious Discipline 8:33 How to build connection with children who resist 9:32 DNA process 11:38 Beginning steps for helping disconnected children 13:17 Why children resist relationships 15:45 Reframing children’s behavior 18:05 Summary of strategies 19:10 Removing judgment from the classroom 21:12 Success story of relationship resistant child 25:20 What to do when multiple children in a class are disconnected 28:50 Teacher suggestions for when it’s difficult to implement 31:17 Summary of all strategies for reaching resistant children ConsciousDiscipline.com
Is it possible for early childhood programs with many federal regulations and initiatives placed on them to create an environment that successfully support both children and their family’s social emotional development? How does a director rally underpaid and under-appreciated early childhood teachers to embrace a new way of being and teaching in their program? Many demands are placed on early childhood programs when it comes to funding, regulations, new initiatives and compliance. Head Start and Early Head Start programs in the United States promote school readiness of children under 5 from low-income families through education, health, social and other services. In addition, these programs are required to provide services that support the family’s growth and healthy family development as well. Listen in as Peg Tazwell shares at Knox County Head Start’s story of transformation and success with Conscious Discipline. Learn the importance of uniting the entire staff (teachers, admin, bus driver, cooks) to achieve maximum results in supporting young children’s growth and development. Essential Takeaways • Conscious Discipline provides skills for adults and children to be conscious enough to know when we are off track and connected enough to be persistent in continuing to practice and getting back on track • The transformational process of Conscious Discipline implementation begins with the adults and transfers to the children through modeling and teaching Steps for Tomorrow • Make a commitment to Conscious Discipline training and recognize it’s not a quick fix and it begins at the top with administrators • Find champions within your organization and give them training and mentoring, empowering them to move the organization’s implantation process forward • Use the word practice, rather than program, when talking about Conscious Discipline Important Links: • What is Conscious Discipline: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8j3gF1dh_t4 • Knox County Head Start awarded National Center of Excellence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c89iwyKkCCg&list=PL3418E21B5FB5559C&index=10 • Conscious Discipline Pay-it-forward Transformational Process: http://consciousdiscipline.com/resources/transformationalChange.asp • Conscious Discipline Summer Institute (CD1): https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/workshops/products/conscious-discipline-summer-institute-session-c-2017?variant=19966049413 • Office of Head Start: https://www.acf.hhs.gov/ohs Products: I Love You Rituals Conscious Discipline Building Resilient Classrooms Conscious Discipline Parenting Curriculum Show Outline :16 What is Conscious Discipline 1:40 Introduction of Peg Tazwell, Director of Knox County Head Start 2:50 What is Head Start 4:50 Conscious Discipline results at Knox County Head Start 6:43 Culture shift within the organization due to Conscious Discipline Implementation 8:52 How Knox County Head Start began the implementation process with CD 12:22 Coming back when you got off track 12:50 Parent Involvement strategies and results 15:02 Knox County awarded National Center of Excellence 18:09 Success stories of children who attended Knox County Head Start 21:21 Conscious Discipline as a practice, not a program 23:25 Steps for tomorrow to begin 25:50 Does Conscious Discipline contribute to the achievement of some of the new Head Start performance standards ConsciousDiscipline.com
Have you ever thought Conscious Discipline was just for younger children? Do you work with middle school students and struggle with managing behavior and classroom disruptions? The middle school years present many challenges for students. They are experiencing many life changes internally, struggling to find a sense of belonging with friend groups, and are often because of their age expected “to know better” when it comes to behavior. Middle school teachers often struggle with misbehavior in the classroom due to having the perception that teens are just disrespectful. Listen in as Diane Phelan, Principal of Keller Middle School, shares her story of implementing Conscious Discipline in middle school resulting in decreased referrals, increased academic scores and a shift in the school culture. Learn steps for getting started, overcoming teacher resistance and how to build relationships with students who change classes and have many teachers throughout the day. Essential Takeaways Relationships are the key to helping teachers, students, and families transform their skill set and willingness to learn new ways of solving problems. Noticing both staff and students and what they bring in each day with them enables the administrator to create an inclusive school family for all. Steps for Tomorrow • Greet every child at the door every day making a conscious effort to notice what the child is bringing into class each day • Build connections with students each day • Take the time to teach the students about the brain and breathing strategies for calming Important Links • What is Conscious Discipline: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8j3gF1dh_t4 • Keller Middle School: http://keller.pasadenaisd.org • Unconscious Discipline worked fine for me: a middle school teacher’s transformation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ScroRtwcd78 Products Conscious Discipline Building Resilient Classrooms Show Outline :20 What is Conscious Discipline 1:49 Conscious Discipline in middle school and introduction of guest Diane Phelan, Principal of Keller Middle School 3:30 Bringing Conscious Discipline to middle school 6:28 Resistance to Conscious Discipline from teachers of older students 7:55 Begin with the staff, rolling out CD in middle school 10:28 Teacher life transformation story who was repeatedly cut from other schools 12:58 Story of “tough girls” group transformation 16:22 Comparison of discipline referrals before and after Conscious Discipline 18:00 Academic results of implementing Conscious Discipline 19:10 How is the school culture now that Conscious Discipline has been implemented 20:49 Exposing parents and families to Conscious Discipline 23:07 Building student/teacher relationships when students change classrooms all day 27:17 Steps for tomorrow ConsciousDiscipline.com