From the Center with Debra & Dr. Rob: Success for Women | Purpose | Spirituality | Relationships

In honor of Mother’s Day, we decided to dedicate this show to the Mother Archetype. In Jungian Psychology, the Mother Archetype is very powerful in how we relate to the world and feel accepted and nurtured by others and material things. 39: Power of the Mother Archetype and Your Relationship with Life Do you feel the world is against you and unsupportive? Do you feel people are too needy and controlling? What was your relationship with the mother figures in your life? Were they critical and demanding or nurturing and loving? In this episode we explain: What is an archetype? How does the Mother Archetype influence our life How you can transform your relationship with life by understanding your relationship with your mother or other maternal figures and how the world treats you. If you are interested in Jungian Coach Training, click here to watch our Free Video Course: Introduction to Jungian Life Coaching. Join us on our Facebook Group Community Here and say hello and ask us questions!

Bonus Episode! From time to time, we are going to be interviewing some of our star clients who experienced our Creative Mind Process® so you can hear their success stories and be inspired to make changes in your life. This week we are featuring a soon-to-be-graduate of our Jungian Life Coach Training program in our Academy of Jungian Spiritual Psychology – Joanne Newborn EPISODE 38: Be Inspired to Live Your Dreams – Interview with Jungian Life Coach – Joanne Newborn Joanne Newborn – Joanne Newborn has been studying the Carl Jung Individuation Process since 2014 with Debi & Dr. Rob and is currently enrolled the Academy of Jungian Spiritual Psychology, on the road to becoming a Certified Jungian Life Coach by Fall 2018.  She has her MBA from Penn State University and her BA from Pace University.  She is also a graduate of The Neighborhood Playhouse School of Theatre. Currently, she is a Marketing Director with the World’s largest Spirits Company. Her Coaching business is focused on cultivating Leadership and is Newborn.Evolution.com –  Baby Steppin’ into your Power. If you are interested in Jungian Coach Training, click here to watch our Free Video Course: Introduction to Jungian Life Coaching.   Join us on our Facebook Group Community Here and say hello and ask us questions!

We get asked this question all the time…”Should I wait to lose weight before I start to date?” Women can be very self-critical about their bodies and feel their worth tied to their body size. 37: Lose Weight Before You Date? Facing Your Body Shadow In Episode 37, Debi and Dr. Rob discuss the psychological impact of weight gain and dieting and how they relate to relationships and intimacy. We discuss how people feel they will be more confident after they lose weight or get to a certain size but then realize that they still have the same mindset minus a few pounds. We talk about the body being a part of the Persona in dating that dictates your attractiveness to potential mates. Just like we try to please to get someone to like us, are you trying to lose weight to get approval from others? After working with hundreds of women on weight loss as a hypnotherapist, Debi shares how they use their weight as a defense against love. They use extra pounds to hide and avoid attention. They sabotage their diets and workout routines because they really don’t want to be in a relationship on a deep level. Once you identify the psychological core of why you are rejecting love, the weight will melt away and you will have a better relationship with food. This process is about facing your Body Shadow™ so you can free your mind from the past and create the body you love. Debi shares her personal story of her own relationship with her body and food and how she transformed it. Be inspired to change your mind and then your body will follow. Join us for our virtual retreat, Creating The Body Beautiful – Spiritual Psychology of Weight Loss without Dieting. A 6-part program to help you change your relationship with food and your body so you can be happier and healthier and ultimately in a great relationship with your ideal partner. Want to interact with us? Come visit our Facebook Fan Page for the show at Creative Love Community Or you can leave a comment below.  

Do you feel stressed with everything you have to do in life? Are you a single mom trying to juggle career and dating? Do you find dating itself stressful? If you are a woman with a mission, you probably dealt with stress at some point in your journey and most likely still experiencing it. 36: Stress and the Single Woman In this episode, we explain what stress is and how it affects the body and your health. We talk about your emotions and how they are the drivers of your body’s chemistry and stress response. Learn how your thoughts can shift your emotions and ultimately bring your body back into a healthy balance and reverse negative symptoms. Working with your emotions in a different way to bring you better results. Get tips on how to reduce your stress today and how to create lasting health. Interested in learning more about mindbody psychology? Check out our new MindBody Psychology Training Retreat in Santa Fe, New Mexico this summer! Join us on our Facebook Fan Group at Creative Love Community Don’t forget to subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss any episodes.

In this episode, we tackle the topic of health and body image when it comes to self-love and relationships. Can changing your body image lead to attracting the love of your life? 35: Can Loving Your Body Help You Find True Love? Learn how we rate ourselves by the numbers – age, weight, dress/jean size, and lab results. If we meet a certain metric, we will love ourselves more. Find out why dieting is like following dating tips when it comes to a healthy body image. What is true beauty? Understand what type of physical traits in men/women turn you off in dating and what they say about you. We discuss how the mindset and the source of health and body image is internal, not driven by external results. Your body is reflecting your “default mode” of conditioning through family, culture, peers, your mate and your environment. You can transcend the default and create a body that you love without ego-attachment. We also mentioned our new Mindbody Psychology Training Retreat in August, 2018 in Santa Fe, New Mexico. If you are a helping professional and want to learn cutting-edge Mindbody techniques on helping people with wellness, happiness and reclaiming their healthy body. http://debianddrrob.com/Mindbody-Psychology-Training Join us on Facebook Group – Creative Love Community and send us your questions and comments.  

Does love happen by accident or is it written in the stars? Mystics, poets, philosophers, scientists and therapists have been examining this question since the beginning of time. Why do we fall in love with certain people and can we direct our mind to fall in love with a specific person? 34: Can You Choose The Person You Love? In this episode, we examine the idea of romantic chemistry and how it works. What part of you chooses to feel a certain way about another? Many people think it is a soul-mate thing, but what they are really experiencing is their early life patterns projected upon another individual. Understand how: * Unavailable people create a strong emotional draw for you * The people who look good on paper do not generate any romantic feelings * Your mind projects old patterns onto others and gets you caught up in a cycle of heartache. Join us in our Creative Love Community on Facebook and say hello Check out our new Free Video Course at AttractGreatLove.com

Have you felt that the same broken record in your dating life? If you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same patterns in relationships and experiencing the same heartbreaks with every person, we share solutions on how to break free and change your attraction to a person who is ready and willing for love. EPISODE 33: Same Heartache, Different Person? How to Be Free of Old Love Patterns We explain the animus (Inner Adam) and anima (Inner Eve) archetypes and how you relate to the opposite sex unconsciously. They represent the divine urge to connect and natural drive for love and relationships. This perfect image is clouded by your personal history and experience with your parents, men or women in your life. You learned how to relate to these humans and it impacts how you relate in your adult relationships. Identify the pattern with men or women and that shows you how your Inner Adam is currently set up. You can change this archetype in your unconscious through visualizations and dreams and then change your relationships with men or women in a dramatic way. Find out how you can free your mind so these ideas don’t stop you from opening up to a great love relationship. Join us in our Creative Love Community on Facebook and say hello Check out our new Free Video Course at AttractGreatLove.com

Do you know why most people have problems finding love? In 2014, the number of single people in the United States surpassed the married people. If you are wondering why you are not meeting the right people, we discuss three key issues people have in relationships. Episode 32: Why People Have Problems Finding Love Three main areas are where most people trip themselves up. First, they are stuck in the past. Are you still hooked on an old love or your ex-spouse? Do you feel you cannot move on? Second, do you have fears about the future? Will a relationship mess up your life? Will you choose the wrong person? Or, are you only focused on the short-term in the present? Are you in a holding pattern, procrastinating, feeling discouraged and you aren’t taking any action at all? Find out how you can free your mind so these ideas don’t stop you from opening up to a great love relationship. Join us in our Creative Love Community on Facebook and say hello Check out our new Free Video Course at AttractGreatLove.com

Some people live their lives in quiet desperation, while others take the road less traveled and ask the big questions in life. In this episode we get into a deep philosophical conversation about the meaning of life, purpose and the three big questions everyone needs to answer: * What do I do about Love? * What do I do about Money? * What do I do about God? EPISODE 31: ANSWERING THE 3 BIG QUESTIONS IN LIFE When you do personal development work, it may feel as though everyone else has it all figured out. They have the relationship you want, the money or success you want, the dream career, etc. You may even think that everyone is more enlightened than you. We discuss how no one gets out of life without answering these questions and how you can begin to answer them for yourself. Do you have the love you want? Are you happy with your career? Do you know your life’s purpose? What do you believe about your relationship to God or the universe? We probably awaken more questions than answers but the discussion is definitely one that brings everything into focus and makes you think. Why take the path to answer these in a deep way? Is the journey to a greater life filled with more problems? We believe that finding these answers in ourselves is the greatest journey. Quote by Rilke: If we only arrange our life in accordance with the principle which tells us that we must always trust in the difficult, then what now appears to us as the most alien will become our most intimate and trusted experience. How could we forget those ancient myths that stand at the beginning of all races, the myths about dragons that at the last moment are transformed into princesses? Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us act, just once, with beauty and courage. – Rainer Marie Rilke

Are you a prisoner of your relationship past? Do you pine over love lost? Are you stuck in the past, wishing for that old flame to return? In this episode, we discuss getting over past relationships and how to have closure to move on to real love. EPISODE 30: Getting Over Your Ex and Moving On To Real Love We review the O.C.D. of looking at the past and how your ex is hooked into your emotions. The “Reverberating Circuits” of your brain are creating a false reality of what that love was and could be for you. Learn about love unrequited in pop culture movies such as “There’s Something About Mary” or “Sideways” and how the main characters found closure and finally resolution to move on. We share some tips on how to let go, get beyond the past and reclaim your power to create a new love future with the love of your life. Want more? Check out our Free Video Series called “How to Live Your Full Love Potential”  and AttractGreatLove.com Visit us on our official show Facebook Community – Creative Love Community and let us know what you think. We’d love to hear from you!  

We are all emotional beings. Our feelings fluctuate through the day, every day like a carousel. Sometimes the feelings are good, sometimes numb and then there are those times when the emotions seem to burst through our logic and take us down a path to crazy town. These emotional triggers are not often played out externally, but more like an internal combustion leading to obsessive thinking, more stress and the desire to protect, defend or get even with the person who made the offense. EPISODE 29: UNDERSTANDING EMOTIONAL TRIGGERS IN RELATIONSHIPS In this episode, we discuss eight (8) common ego assumptions that are playing a role in the emotional trigger and allowing it to fester in your mind and body. They are: * Taking things personally – It is my fault or they meant to hurt me * Polarized Thinking – Everything is black or white – no compromise * Mind Reading – Assuming what others are thinking about you or assuming they should know what you are thinking * Labeling a Person (or Group) based on one action – “He did this to me or to someone else, so he’s a terrible person” * Overgeneralization – “All Men/Women are Non-Commital” * Catastrophizing – “I will always be single” or “It will always be like this” * Minimizing – “It isn’t so bad” – tolerating bad behavior or settling for less * Should Statements – “I should date” or “I should be nicer” or “I should not waste money” We give you a quick exercise to work with these assumptions to free your mind from their trappings and get clear on what is really true. Your ego will use one or a combination of these assumptions when you are triggered. Learn your go-to story and be empowered to drop the story and see the world through new eyes. Want to change your love story? Check out Debi’s free video series “How to Reach your Full Love Potential and Find an Extraordinary Relationship” by going to attractreallove.com Interact with us on Facebook in our Creative Love Community by clicking here

Are you making just enough money? Getting just enough dates who are just enough but not your ideal? In this episode, we explore how your mind is projecting “just enough” based on your past experiences and how it keeps you in a cycle of disappointment and even frustration. EPISODE 28: Breaking the Cycle of Just Enough Instead of thinking you are doing something wrong? What if the “just enough” cycle is pointing you in the right direction of finding your potential? Understand to work with your mind using higher spiritual knowledge of the true nature of reality so that you can break free and create the life you choose instead the life that is limited by the past. This episode will inspire you to live your dreams, go for what you really want and start to believe that anything is possible. Want to change your love story? Check out Debi’s free video series “How to Reach your Full Love Potential and Find an Extraordinary Relationship” by going to attractreallove.com Interact with us on Facebook in our Creative Love Community by clicking here

Have you felt exhausted from self-help and trying to fix yourself because you are single? In this episode, we talk about the stigma of being single and how attitudes have shifted around marriage. We discuss the latest research on ideas around marriage and how it isn’t the key part of adulthood that it used to be. EPISODE 27: SINGLE DOESN’T MEAN YOU ARE BROKEN In 1858, physician William Farr wrote “Marriage is a healthy estate. The single individual is more likely to be wrecked on his voyage than the lives joined in matrimony.” Times have changed and there are actually more single people in the U.S. right now than married people. We explain how to change your own attitude around being single that is still embedded in your unconscious and influencing your life. Based on Carl Jung’s idea of individuation, there is a way to break free of the old patterns and have the love and relationship that you consciously want if you discover your true self. Want to change your love story? Check out Debi’s free video series “How to Reach your Full Love Potential and Find an Extraordinary Relationship” by going to attractreallove.com Interact with us on Facebook in our Creative Love Community by clicking here  

Do you have a hard time meditating or finding time to meditate? Did you know that meditation can lead to more peace of mind and empathy in relationships? In this episode we talk about what meditation is, the benefits of meditation and how it can improve your dating and love life relationships. Episode 26: Can Meditation Improve Your Love Life? If you are the type who ruminates over decisions in dating, why a person didn’t call you back or if they will ask you out again and wish you could just stop your mind from telling you negative stories, this is the episode for you. Meditation can help you be more compassionate to yourself, regulate your emotions better so you feel less anxiety and more joy. Having a clear mind instead of noisy mind on dates allows you to be more present and connected to your potential partner. We discuss the latest research from Harvard University on meditation and its affect on your mind and health and discuss how these influence your relationship life so you can attract the love of your life and not be obsessing about it along the way. Want more? Sign up for our Free Video Series: How to Live Your Full Love Potential and Visualization by clicking here or visit DebiandRob.com Join us on our Facebook Community – Creative Love® Community 

Do you have that sixth sense when it comes to dating and relating? Have you experienced premonitions that ultimately came true? Do you wish you could trust in your inner wisdom more so that you can avoid dead-end relationships or heartache? EPISODE 25: Are you clairvoyant in love and relationships? In this episode we explain what clairvoyance is and how you can tell if you are using intuition or if you are just responding to old fears in relationships. Understand the interconnectedness between all of us and how on a deep level you are already communicating with your ideal partner. Based on Jung’s theory of the collective unconscious and the latest research in quantum physics, you can see that psychic ability is something we all have naturally and it isn’t so woo-woo. Get some insight on how to increase your awareness of this incredible mind tool to help guide your relationships and your life. If you want to know what is stopping you from having the ultimate relationship, click here or visit LoveAttractionTest.com Want to interact with us on Facebook? Join our Creative Love Community here