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SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford

Summary: Welcome to SelfWork! Do you have things in your life you want to change, but you struggle to know how? If you're struggling with depression or anxiety, Dr. Margaret has a compassionate, common-sense approach to therapy and mental health treatment, and uses her twenty years of experience to guide you in making the changes you want. No psychological jargon here! Rather, she uses a solution-oriented approach to depression or anxiety - what Dr. Margaret calls, "What you can do about it." And she describes the links between perfectionism and depression in her upcoming book, Perfectly Hidden Depression. Subscribe today!

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 082 SelfWork: Confronting the Loneliness and Apathy of Living Parallel Lives | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 23:41

Loneliness is hard no matter when or where it happens. This episode, sponsored by, gives ten ways to combat or confront apathy and loneliness in your relationship or marriage. Feeling lonely in a relationship can also be devastating, as your lives are lived side by side but there’s little to no real connection. You’re […]

 081 SelfWork: When Sexual Abuse Happens at Home — The Choice to Confront | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 19:03

When sexual abuse occurs within a family, it can wreak mental, physical and emotional damage for the victim that’s complicated to heal. The stats tell us that 34% of cases of child sexual abuse occur in families. That figure is staggering, but my clinical experience over the years backs that figure up. In this episode, […]

 080 SelfWork: Kate Spade. Anthony Bourdain. Are We Asking The Right Questions? | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 17:31

Today’s podcast is in response to what has been a more than difficult week for many who looked up to and followed these two celebrities, Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain. If you are one of them, or certainly someone who knew them personally, then our hearts are with you. It may be however you’re one […]

 079 SelfWork: Perfectly Hidden. An Interview with Stuart Walker | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 27:13

Stuart Walker is a friend to all, the owner of two successful gyms in Arkansas, and a dad and father of three children, two of whom have autism and one with other disabilities and significant physical problems. And he was suicidal for months before he finally broke down and sought help. Stuart is the exact […]

 078 SelfWork: Five Not-So-Simple Steps Toward Self-Forgiveness | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 22:17

“How can I forgive myself?” is a question I hear often as a therapist. We all can do things that we find more than difficult to forgive ourselves for, hurting people we care about or making a mistake that now carries guilt or shame. The opposite of this process is how people with narcissism view […]

 077 SelfWork: Confronting Negativity And “Feeling Stuck” In Depression | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 20:38

When you’re trying to move out of depression, negativity and “feeling stuck” — feeling hopeless about change — can be your worst enemies. How do you get your energy going outward instead of imploding inward? It’s often not easy. Here’s a simple exercise that can help you do just that. Even if you’re not depressed, […]

 076 SelfWork: 10 Ways To Survive Infertility Treatment | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 25:02

Infertility treatment can be an exhausting and lonely journey. I went through it myself, and was blessed to conceive a son through in vitro fertilization. In today’s podcast, I’ll offer ten things that can help keep you sane and emotionally stable, even in the midst of feeling so out of control. These tips could be […]

 075 SelfWork: Interview with StigmaFighter’s Founder Sarah Fader | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 29:42

Sarah Fader, author, blogger and staunch warrior in the fight for education and openness about mental illness, is my first guest on SelfWork. Her work was featured in a powerful piece on The Washington Post as she speaks candidly about her own diagnoses — Anxiety, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder and Bipolar Disorder — (which can be confusing […]

 074 SelfWork: Depression and The Unpredictability of Suicide | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 21:37

Today on SelfWork, we’re going to be looking at research asking the question is suicide predictable. There is also controversy about whether or not it’s preventable – I recently had a mom whose daughter had accidentally overdosed tell me with tears in her eyes. “I can’t go there. I can’t believe that I could’ve predicted […]

 073 SelfWork: Three Steps To Emotionally Get Control Of Yourself | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 24:43

Welcome to SelfWork! I’m talking about self-control today… especially emotional self-control. We won’t touch on addictions, although they obviously have to do with emotional self-control. We’re talking about in the realm of communication how to maintain self-control when you’re angry, or taken aback, afraid or surprised. There’s a simple mantra that can be helpful — […]

 072 SelfWork: The One Question To Ask Yourself If You Take Things Too Personally | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 20:08

Today’s podcast identifies the one question that you can ask yourself before you take things too personally. I’ve heard lots of couples bicker and fight over the twenty-five years I’ve been a therapist, and this question will save you from so many assumptions and misunderstandings. I’ll use an example when I actually followed my own […]

 071 SelfWork: The Disease of Perfectionism | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 22:38

Today’s topic is perfectionism. I call it a disease in the title because it can cause not only emotional and psychological problems when it’s out of control, but the stress of perfectionism can lead to illness and even suicide. I talked with a phenomenal expert on perfectionism last week, Dr. Gordon Flett, and I’ll have some […]

 070 SelfWork: How To Love Someone Who Won’t Get Help | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 21:19

What do you do when you love someone who won’t get help for their depression or anxiety? This episode, sponsored by, will focus on what my own research has found, and how we can talk about mental health treatment or therapy in a way that would make it far easier for men to consider. We’ll […]

 069 SelfWork: The Victim-Savior Relationship. How You Get In It and How You Get Out Of It | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 18:44

We’re going to be talking about healthy and not so healthy relationships today. Many relationships get their start with one person “saving” another. These are boundary-less relationship and they’re doomed for trouble. The victim gets tired of being the victim. The savior gets tired of not being appreciated for saving.  Mark Manson, a blogger with […]

 068 SelfWork: How To Create A Family Of Choice | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 21:03

What is a family of choice? It’s a family you create with friends. Some of us don’t have families that we can count on in times of stress or need, or joy for that matter. Instead of staying bitter or lonely, I’ve come up with five “caveats” in finding people who would earn the right […]


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