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SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford

Summary: Welcome to SelfWork! Do you have things in your life you want to change, but you struggle to know how? If you're struggling with depression or anxiety, Dr. Margaret has a compassionate, common-sense approach to therapy and mental health treatment, and uses her twenty years of experience to guide you in making the changes you want. No psychological jargon here! Rather, she uses a solution-oriented approach to depression or anxiety - what Dr. Margaret calls, "What you can do about it." And she describes the links between perfectionism and depression in her upcoming book, Perfectly Hidden Depression. Subscribe today!

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 127 SelfWork: The Two Masked Marks of Manipulation aka Stonewalling and Gaslighting | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 24:33

There are many ways of creating problems in relationships, but there are two manipulations that are sometimes harder to see than out and out contempt or defensiveness. They are stonewalling, basically “the silent treatment” and gaslighting, when someone tries to undermine your own perceptions to the point where you distrust your own mind. The first […]

 126 SelfWork: What Makes Your Work Life… Work? | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 21:46

Do you find satisfaction and fulfillment at work? You spend many hours there so if you don’t, that can be a huge problem. In this episode, I’ve found some experts on the workplace to discuss this vital issue. What do studies show are the most important factors in being happy at work? The results are […]

 125 SelfWork: Fighting the Fear and Loneliness of Social Anxiety | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 24:48

Social anxiety and shyness often get confused, but they’re far from the same. So what is social anxiety? What happens when you suffer from it? And what can you do about it? I’ll offer six steps to consider, as once again, we focus on “what you can do about it.” The listener email today is […]

 124 SelfWork: Learning from the Voices of Childhood Neglect | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 25:39

Childhood neglect can be much more confusing to work through. It’s abuse all right. But its message was just as harsh as physical beatings or harsh punishment. What is that message? That you weren’t worth feeding, or being educated. Whatever physical or emotional pain you had didn’t matter. What you experienced simply didn’t matter. And […]

 123 SelfWork: Are You Afraid of Losing Your Edge? Challenging Perfectionism in the Workplace | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 24:59

I’ve had the pleasure of working with several people who’ve come to me due to my writing about perfectionism and perfectly hidden depression. So we’re going to be talking about the fear of losing your edge – the edge that you believe keeps you on your toes, keeps you doing better, doing more, doing doing doing… […]

 122 SelfWork: What’s Love Got to Do With It: Love Addiction and Narcissism | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 22:20

What’s love addiction? Some people use the term to describe someone who’s constantly seeking relationships. But today we’re talking about how you can be addicted to the drama of a relationship – addicted to breaking up and getting back together – addicted to the very edginess and even arguing that can be involved. We’ll look […]

 121 SelfWork: Recovering from Trauma and How to Recreate a Sense of Safety | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 21:31

Trauma. Sometimes even hearing that word can make all of us cringe. Trauma is the emotional response to an event or experience occurring that was tragic and life-altering, such as a tornado, war, or a rape. You are said to be “traumatized.”  We all have unique responses to it. And ways to combat the fear, […]

 120 SelfWork: The Role of Disappointment in Relationships: How Much Is Too Much? | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 19:50

Disappointment is hard to hear, and sometimes hard to reveal, but it’s also inevitable in a relationship. Whether it’s a one-time event or there’s a pattern that’s been established, there’s a way to work them out. But it takes emotional maturity and realizing that each time you work through a disappointment together, you build trust. […]

 119 SelfWork: Why Risk Telling Your Truth? Why Risk Vulnerability? | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 18:54

Vulnerability is a topic near and dear to my heart because I believe it’s so important to true change and growth. As prominent researcher and author Dr. Brené Brown says, “You can’t get to change without vulnerability.. period.” Vulnerability requires opening up, letting others in and telling your truth. Most of my most obvious vulnerability […]

 118 SelfWork: The Incredible Power of Journaling | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 19:45

I was caught off guard the other day when in my FaceBook group, I asked them to journal about a specific topic, and someone wrote that they didn’t know what journaling was. So let’s talk about journaling. What is it? How is it helpful? Are there specific problems where journaling is particularly helpful? What might make […]

 117 SelfWork: A Three Step Guide to Making Decisions You Won’t (Likely) Regret | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 21:50

Have you made choices you terribly regret? How do you evaluate the decisions you make? Most of us might say that a choice was “right” if in five days, or five months or five years. we still feel that it was. If it stands up to the test of time, we can reassure ourselves that […]

 116 SelfWork: Do You Have Perfectly Hidden or High Functioning Depression? And Why Does It Matter? | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 20:48

What’s the difference, or is there one, between Perfectly Hidden Depression and what’s called high-functioning depression? I’m particularly motivated – in fact very sadly motivated – to talk about it because of an email I received this week from a woman whose husband killed himself. He was in his early 40’s. And no one could […]

 115 SelfWork: The Awesome, Frustrating, Complicated Job of Step-Parenting and How to Avoid Common Mistakes | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 22:21

Step-parenting may be one of the hardest jobs on earth, second only to parenting. It’s complicated, awesome, frustrating and sometimes downright irritating. Blending families successfully takes much more time than people want to think. There can be lots of personalities involved, old wounds and new hurts. So much depends on time and in what context […]

 114 SelfWork: How to Find and Interview A Potential Therapist | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 25:45

How do you find a therapist? What are the pros and cons if you get a referral from a friend? What questions is it okay to ask before you start working with them? All of these questions will be answered today. Finding a therapist that you believe understands and tunes into you is a vital […]

 113 SelfWork: When You Feel Like A Fake: Ten Ways to Challenge Imposter Syndrome | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 22:28

If you’re successful but you walk around feeling like a fake, you could be experiencing what’s called imposter syndrome – the fear that you aren’t what you appear to be. That you haven’t truly earned your place. That any day now, someone is going to discover that you’re a phony or a fraud. We’ll be featuring the […]


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