Relations - The Podcast

...It sucks being single...or does it? Statistics show that more of us are single than ever, with 1 person households outnumbering married households. So why all the scramble to couple? And why all the negative talk about “there are no good ones left?” Maybe single is just a matter of perspective...

In This Episode: We’re talking about attraction! What’s that feeling that you have when you have to have someone else, and how do you create that? By the end of this episode you’ll learn: If you can manufacture attraction If you should be manufacturing emotional or physical attraction Tips on attraction Download Episode 0022! (right click, then click "Save Link As...") If you have a tip to add that we missed in the show, CALL or TEXT 508-444-2003 and leave your tip/comment/question for us to answer on the show! Like this show? Leave us a rating ! Download Episode 0022! (right click, then click "Save Link As...")

We’re talking about attraction! What’s that feeling that you have when you have to have someone else, and how do you create that?

We’ve said it before, we’ll say it again: dating. Is. Hard. And for a lot of people, the first date is one of the hardest parts of all. But first dates don’t have to be that big of a deal. In fact, first dates can be a fun and enjoyable challenge when you just change your outlook.

We are human beings, and as such, tend to have our own opinions, insecurities, wants and needs. These opinions, insecurities, wants and needs tend to differ now and again from the people we share our beds and lives with. Arguing is inevitable as each person struggles to reconcile his or her wants with his or her partner. But how do you avoid screaming matches? And is it possible to make arguments productive rather than just hurtful?

When we fall in love--really and truly--it can be extremely hard to let go. You may have seen your ex as “The One” even. So is it possible to win back the love of an ex? Can you really get back together and make it work? And if your love is rekindled, what are the steps you can take to make the 2nd time around the last time around?

An estimated 14 million Americans suffer from SAD (Social Anxiety Disorder), a form of shyness that makes an individual so shy or anxious, it adversely affects his or her everyday life. Many more may feel at least a little shy, awkward or nervous when it comes to dating or meeting new people. So how can someone who wants a relationship or even just wants to do better at talking to the objects of his or her affection overcome shyness? And is it possible to get rid of shyness altogether?

Dating is tough to begin with, and online dating can be even harder, especially because most of us are not hard-wired to be our own salespeople. You could be a great catch, but your online dating profile could be saying otherwise. So how do you get from online to offline more quickly? How do you craft a profile that gets results? It all starts with a change in perspective.

Americans are spending longer and longer hours at work in more and more stressful jobs. It’s only natural that people in the workplace would seek out other people whom they understand and connect with. But sometimes those relationships can become incredibly close and emotionally intimate. How do you navigate those relationships if you have a significant other? And what do you do when those work spouse relationships “cross the line?”

In This Episode: We’re talking about the Green Eyed monster, jealousy. It’s something many individuals and and couples struggle with, but is it possible to avoid altogether? By the end of this episode you’ll learn: What jealousy is, really How it can actually be good for your relationship, and What to do if it’s consuming you or your partner Download Episode 0014! (right click, then click "Save Link As...") The Problem Everyone has felt a little jealous at one point or another, whether it was in the 3rd grade and it was over the popular girl’s new shoes, or into a 5 year relationship and watching someone flirt with your partner. Jealousy never feels good...and for those people that jealousy consumes, it can ruin and destroy otherwise good relationships. So how much is too much? And when should individuals and couples start to work on taming the Green Monster? If you have a tip to add that we missed in the show, CALL or TEXT 508-444-2003 and leave your tip/comment/question for us to answer on the show! Like this show? Leave us a rating ! Download Episode 0014! (right click, then click "Save Link As...")

Dating is hard, especially in the beginning stages when you’re trying to determine if someone is compatible with you. Even in long-term relationships, you may find that your partner has patterns of behavior that confuse or irritate you. Some experts, however, claim that astrology can help you to understand your dates better, and maybe even make a better match.

The problem is...well, you want your favorite around and they’re not. Distance creates problems all of its own, between coordinating schedules, arranging travel expenses and trying to integrate in with a partner’s life that sort of moves without your daily, physical interaction. And let’s not even talk about the trouble with Skype sex. So how do you navigate an Long Distance Relationship? And can they be BETTER than traditional ones?

Ummm, so today's episode will be delayed because: A: Elijah is a horrible person (Probable) B: Our dogs ate the track (Elijah hates dogs, so probably not but he'll blame them anyway) C: Elijah's audio was utterly horrible and we need to re-record. (Bingo!) No worries listeners, we'll have a brand spanking new episode for you TOMORROW on Long Term Relationships. Please accept our (Elijah's, because it's his fault) apology, we really mean it...listen to t here: In the meantime... Call or Text us at 508-444-2003 with ANYTHING you have to say about Astrology! Our next episode (Monday) will be a two parter on the signs, and I know some of you have ALOT to say about that. We look forward to hearing your messages, and reading your texts. See you on the show :) Relations Podcast: Sarah & Elijah P.S. Sarah is entirely blameless and performed flawlessly. Also, she made me type this.

In This Episode: We’re talking about red flags...those little things you notice in your dates or significant others that just scream, “Warning!” By the end of this episode you’ll learn: Why Red Flags are Important Which ones to look for in multiple scenarios And when you’re overthinking Download Episode 0011! (right click, then click "Save Link As...") The Problem We are all detectives, a little bit, when it comes to scoping out potential dates. Part of our “scoping” is innate...we do have primal instincts and can guess, infer or scope out problems right out of the gate. But some red flags are learned or a result of our roles in society. So how do we scope out red flags? Are there some we can ignore? And when is it just time to run. What the Experts Say What are Red Flags? Why are They Important? The Relationship Counseling Center | Pay Attention to the Red Flags When Dating Unfortunately, all too often people ignore...‘red flags’ especially if there is some attraction or ‘chemistry’ happening between the two of you. If these red flags are not addressed in the early stages of dating, then 6 weeks, 6 months or 6 years later you’ll be faced with a relationship crisis on your hands saying, “I didn’t know that he/she would be so controlling/critical/self centered etc...“ Singles who ignore the red flags often minimize or deny the meaning of the behavior of the person they are dating. They say, “Oh that quality doesn’t really matter.” Or “It’ll work out somehow; love will conquer all.” Or “They will change.” Nothing could be further from the truth. Margaret Paul, PhD | Huffington Post Healthy Living | Dating: Relationship Red Flags Over the many years of working with thousands of people looking to find a committed relationship, I've discovered numerous red flags that may indicate future problems. Very often, when the person I'm working with has moved ahead with the relationship, one of these issues -- which might not have seemed huge at the beginning -- becomes a major problem leading to the demise of the relationship. Ballaisa | Comluv.com | Dating Mistake: Ignoring Red Flags Do you always end up dating losers? You know, the guy or girl that you think may fit into your life but then ends up being a complete waste of time? While a lot of dating advice is given to help you avoid screwing up your first date and beyond, there is not as much dating advice about how to recognize red flags and a potential loser when you are on a date. But it’s actually more important than making sure the date is a success. Which Red Flags Should You Look For? On Online Dating Profiles: Kris L. | Thought Catalog | 12 Dating Red Flags Most People Ignore 1. They post multiple attractive photos, but barely fill out their profile They think the rules don’t apply to them. Online dating has a standard list of unspoken guidelines by which most people abide. People who think they can get away with skipping the basics strictly because they’re objectively attractive display an alarming sense of entitlement. 5. They reveal that they’re just out of a relationship Someone who alerts you to the fact that they’re just out of a relationship is typically just looking for a quick hook up or trying to get back on the dating horse. Unless you want to be someone’s “get over the hump” hump, avoid them. “Just out of a relationship” is usually code for “Just looking for casual sex.” 6. They reveal sensitive details about their past Sharing with the Internet that your father abandoned you or that you were once tortured by an in home burglary sends the message that you carry heavy baggage and emotional scars. These people are playing to your sympathy... First dates/early dating: Dr. Seth Myers | Eharmony Blog | Dating Red Flags: Signs You Need to R-U-N Asking questions that are extremely personal. Saying “yes” to an invitation for a date does not grant your date a VIP pass to your most private thoughts and feelings.

In This Episode: ...we’re talking about compatibility, how do you know if your piece fits with my thing, but not at all the way it sounds when I say it like that. By the end of this episode you’ll learn: What types of questions signal compatibility? Can you shop for love and compatibility? How to check compatibility Is financial compatibility important? Download Episode 0010! (right click, then click "Save Link As...") The Problem People are lazy. We throw our pants in the dryer instead of ironing them, we have food delivered, or shoveled through windows instead of making it at home, and we want to know if that certain somebody is our forever-mate before they’ve given us their twitter handle. By the end of this episode, you’ll be able to know...ugh, now we’re enabling your laziness. Just listen to the show already! The Experts Say... What types of questions signal compatibility? | OK Cupid Study Singles chose these questions: “Is God important in your life?” “Is sex the most important part of a relationship?” “ Does smoking disgust you?” Couples choose these: “Wouldn’t it be fun to chuck it all and go live on a sailboat?” “Do you like horror movies?” “Have you ever traveled around another country alone?” Can you shop for love and compatibility? Kevin Solin (AARP) | Shopping for Love? You Should Make a List! List three to six qualities you're looking for in a partner. Use your list to narrow your search online. Prospective partners tend to state the qualities they possess, rather than the ones they're pursuing, in the profiles they post online. Give a profile a close read and you may find indications that the person has that sense of humor and lots of friends. Compare lists in person. The first time you meet an online contact in the flesh, try to draw out his or her feelings about his/her own priority list. You can even ask point-blank, "What top three qualities would you expect your perfect partner to have?" Suss out values. Now that you're aware of which qualities you're both after, try to assess the other person's core beliefs. These reveal the manner in which a person lives daily life and relates to the world — two behavioral traits too critical to ignore. How to check compatibility SweetheartChecks.com | Compatibility Check While Dating Missing test. To know whether you guys are marriage material for each other or not make sure you try and analyze your feelings when he/she is not around. Being physically away from your mate will make you realize how important they are in your life. You crave to come back together once they are away. This is a green signal on the compatibility test. Analyze whether religion is important to you or them. This is usually for people who have a strong belief in faith and religion. Even if it’s not a crucial feature for you try and check what importance it has for your mate. Check the spark. Usually the spark is from the beginning and it does not diminish away. A high level of chemistry and warmth from the first meet can actually do wonders later on. Is sexual compatibility important? Single Dating Diva Sexuality is very personal.  Each person likes what they like and have different limits as well as expectations when it comes to sex.  One person might want it more than the other or at different times.  That doesn’t mean two people who like different things can’t be sexually compatible. Take it slow and make deliberate moves, especially when kissing.  Go back to basics and dim the lights, light a candle, put on some sexy music and make out.  Just make out.  No sex.  Just make out like you did in high school.  This is a great way to create desire and sensuality. Is financial compatibility important? Jessica Silver-Greenberg - New York Times | Perfect 10? Never Mind That. Ask Her for Her Credit Score. As she nibbled on strawberry shortcake, Jessica LaShawn,